Queersetti
Bastardo Suave
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- Apr 10, 2003
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Very few people on this board, and no bandwagon jumping noobs, have had more legitimate bones to pick with Killswitch over the years than I.
But after the incident with his missing cat I decided it was an opportune time to reach out to him and see if, perhaps, the outpouring of sympathy and well meaning advice he received from the GB would have a positive effect on him.
I believe it has.
He has claimed before that he was working on becoming a better person, on being less confrontational and quick to lose his temper. But I have not trusted his sincerity. Until now. I am convinced that he really does regret many of the angry, ugly things he says here.
He has a long way to go, and I understand that many people will not be willing or emotionally able to cut him any slack. "Once bitten, twice shy" is not an unreasonable attitude, it's been my own attitude towards him for years. But, I am willing to give him another chance.
I've looked at the threads he started last night. The "Unsexiest woman" and "EE's av" threads would have struck me as hostile before but looking at them with the thought in mind that he was trying to change made me see them as attempts, albeit clumsy attempts, at being playful. And his "N word" thread, which many saw as hypocritical, was, I believe, a sincere attempt at changing the tone and making amends.
It's not up to me to tell anyone else how to regard Killswitch, or how to respond to him. But between he and I, the slate is wiped clean. He has a fresh start with me, and I hope I have one with him. I fully expect to have to roll my eyes at things he posts, and perhaps on occasion chastise him when he strays from his goal of positive change.
Maybe he won't, or can't, change. But I have nothing to lose by giving him the benefit of the doubt and assuming that he is trying.
What he does is up to him.
What you do is up to you.
But after the incident with his missing cat I decided it was an opportune time to reach out to him and see if, perhaps, the outpouring of sympathy and well meaning advice he received from the GB would have a positive effect on him.
I believe it has.
He has claimed before that he was working on becoming a better person, on being less confrontational and quick to lose his temper. But I have not trusted his sincerity. Until now. I am convinced that he really does regret many of the angry, ugly things he says here.
He has a long way to go, and I understand that many people will not be willing or emotionally able to cut him any slack. "Once bitten, twice shy" is not an unreasonable attitude, it's been my own attitude towards him for years. But, I am willing to give him another chance.
I've looked at the threads he started last night. The "Unsexiest woman" and "EE's av" threads would have struck me as hostile before but looking at them with the thought in mind that he was trying to change made me see them as attempts, albeit clumsy attempts, at being playful. And his "N word" thread, which many saw as hypocritical, was, I believe, a sincere attempt at changing the tone and making amends.
It's not up to me to tell anyone else how to regard Killswitch, or how to respond to him. But between he and I, the slate is wiped clean. He has a fresh start with me, and I hope I have one with him. I fully expect to have to roll my eyes at things he posts, and perhaps on occasion chastise him when he strays from his goal of positive change.
Maybe he won't, or can't, change. But I have nothing to lose by giving him the benefit of the doubt and assuming that he is trying.
What he does is up to him.
What you do is up to you.
