kids have more game than I do....

[roxywhiskey]

Looking for girls who would like to chat and get to know each other. Ultimately looking for advice and help me get a date. In my 30's now and have always been completely and unbearably alone. Nothing wrong with me and I'm not fat. I just don't believe it is possible to have this bad of luck. So if I am that unattractive how do I get someone to be interested in me?

I'm not a shallow person and I am not picky BUT that doesn't mean I will date the 600lb hunchback with a unibrow that has never had a shower in their life.....

looking for real advice and a friend to really talk to.

 

[JamesRTickit]

Shucks

Here am I a hunchback being dissed from Utah!

Jumbo, the problem seems to be nothing to do with your features but more you dont socialise.
Are there no non-mormons where you work or live?
In fact are there any people?
If you live in a sparsely populated area then internet dating is likely to be your way out.

 

[Kantarii]

First, step back from the computer, then take a little pride in your looks, raise your self-esteem some, get out the house and talk to people face to face- that boosts self confidence. Nature and fate will do the rest, but first you have to walk away from the computer screen.

 

[roxywhiskey]

I am social and I go mingle everyday. Really no thought or effort in those 2 posts.

 

[Smokeandmeat153]

I am social and I go mingle everyday. Really no thought or effort in those 2 posts.

It was still good advice from both of them. Honestly, if you interact with people in person the way you just posted that is probably your problem. Someone tries to offer up help and you just sound like a dick as a thank you. You don't have to be fat or ugly to have an offensive personality.

And that's coming from a self-admitted asshole.

 

[Steamrunner]

Looking for girls who would like to chat and get to know each other. Ultimately looking for advice and help me get a date. In my 30's now and have always been completely and unbearably alone. Nothing wrong with me and I'm not fat. I just don't believe it is possible to have this bad of luck. So if I am that unattractive how do I get someone to be interested in me?

I'm not a shallow person and I am not picky BUT that doesn't mean I will date the 600lb hunchback with a unibrow that has never had a shower in their life.....

looking for real advice and a friend to really talk to.

Ok, let's start with the basics:

Are you clean, tidy, presentable? Looks don't really matter, but first impressions count when you're in the real world - so, clean clothes (tatty is fine, just not stinky). If you smoke, be aware that, top a non-smoker, you stink; so maybe think about changing to something more sociable.

Now, if you're in your 30s, then hopefully you've been on SOME dates. Care to share? Why didn't they go further?

If you haven't been on any dates, then think about why that is. Are you asking people out, but getting turned down? Or not even asking anyone out?
If it's the latter - well, there's your problem. Get out there, put yourself out there. Don't focus on one girl above all others; ask out a bunch of people. Sonner or later you'll get a bite; take it from there.

If you're getting turned down, why might that be? If you don't know, ask your friends (real life friends).

Lastly, you really do need to adjust the attitude. You WILL date - and marry - the 600lb shower-free gorilla IF that's the person who makes you happy, and loves you in return.

So don't be all "I'm not picky but...", and then proceed to be picky. Women have a built-in bullshittometer, and it will go off the scale when they meet you.


EDIT: Sorry, forgot to add - the most important bit of advice I can give is "Don't worry about it". It will happen, but it really is a case of going with the flow. If you're shy, see if your friends can introduce you to married friends - you can practice your social skills but NOT have to wrry about chatting them up.
Just go with it - it will happen.

 

[beingtrue2me]

I am social and I go mingle everyday. Really no thought or effort in those 2 posts.

Someone offered their advice to try and help and you have the nerve to critique them for not trying hard enough? I have no earthly idea why you haven't been able to get a date. Shocked actually.