Kegels

[NewFiresEachDay]

Okay, I know that this doesn't entirely qualify as a "how to..." thread, but someone left a reply to one of mine the other day and it kind of pissed me off so I wanted to start this thread and see what people say.

So a few months back I tried doing Kegels because I was told that they could give me stronger erections and help me last longer. I'll be honest, I have issues with premature ejaculation and, let me tell you, it sucks. Since my SO and I have been having sex I've been doing everything I can to fix it, because when we get married I want to be able to one day experience satisfying sex that consists of nothing more than what nature provided (I.E., erect penis, wet vagina).

I tried the kegels. I was so into them; I was doing them every day. For several weeks. I don't know if there's a "too much" but I may have been bordering on it.

And then I couldn't get hard for her. It felt like my penis was just worn out and the blood would just not come to it.

I posted that on a thread the other day and someone said "Kegels don't do that, it was probably something else." Something else? There was nothing else! I didn't do anything differently, and my penis never felt worn out before that! I must say, I was very displeased because this is such a friendly, intelligent place and whoever said that made a rather hurtful, very ignorant comment.

I want to know if anyone has any opinions/experience/etc. on the situation? Am I the only person to ever "lose it" from Kegels?

And BTW- it did not help me last longer AT ALL.

 

[lizaveta]

First off, hugs! Sorry you had a bad experience.

I don't know if kegels can cause something like what you're describing, but what I wonder is if the anticipation of your newfound "stamina" psyched you out a little bit?

 

[rosebud5446]

i don't really know... but my advice would be to just lay off them a bit, and i'm sure everything will be better in time

 

[Scepter]

Okay, I know that this doesn't entirely qualify as a "how to..." thread, but someone left a reply to one of mine the other day and it kind of pissed me off so I wanted to start this thread and see what people say.

So a few months back I tried doing Kegels because I was told that they could give me stronger erections and help me last longer. I'll be honest, I have issues with premature ejaculation and, let me tell you, it sucks. Since my SO and I have been having sex I've been doing everything I can to fix it, because when we get married I want to be able to one day experience satisfying sex that consists of nothing more than what nature provided (I.E., erect penis, wet vagina).

I tried the kegels. I was so into them; I was doing them every day. For several weeks. I don't know if there's a "too much" but I may have been bordering on it.

And then I couldn't get hard for her. It felt like my penis was just worn out and the blood would just not come to it.

I posted that on a thread the other day and someone said "Kegels don't do that, it was probably something else." Something else? There was nothing else! I didn't do anything differently, and my penis never felt worn out before that! I must say, I was very displeased because this is such a friendly, intelligent place and whoever said that made a rather hurtful, very ignorant comment.

I want to know if anyone has any opinions/experience/etc. on the situation? Am I the only person to ever "lose it" from Kegels?

And BTW- it did not help me last longer AT ALL.

You're really sensitive aren't you?

I was trying to be helpful, sorry if you interpreted it differently, I thought you actually wanted some advice.

>>Originally Posted by NewFiresEachDay<<

God dammit I hate how everyone is like in love with Kegels! I just wanted to say that I tried them. I was doing them every day like you're supposed to for like 2 weeks. When I tried having sex with my SO, I couldn't even get it up. Then, a couple days later, when we tried again, I could barely get it up and when I did it did not improve my stamina or performance AT ALL.

If I have to sacrifice erections for a while to get the benefits of the Kegels, I don't want to do them.

And I posted back:

Kegel exercises shouldn't cause any erection difficulties, it might have been something else.
If it persists perhaps you should see your doctor.

Sorry. But if you don't want opinions you shouldn't ask for them...

 

[Kpooh]

I dont really see why that reply to your question would "piss you off" but I would recommend the same thing as previously said before, stop doing them so much & see if it helps, if not then discuss it with your doctor, there are lots of medications available today that help with different problems.

My SO does approx. 10 kegels per day & that seems to be just fine. I personally do about 20 per day & 20 more after having sex, but I am sure each person has a different amount that works for them.


And I would also stress, that if you ask for advice, you should expect there will be many opinions you may not agree with, this is probably one of them too!

 

[naxalite0906]

I dont really see why that reply to your question would "piss you off" but I would recommend the same thing as previously said before, stop doing them so much & see if it helps, if not then discuss it with your doctor, there are lots of medications available today that help with different problems.

My SO does approx. 10 kegels per day & that seems to be just fine. I personally do about 20 per day & 20 more after having sex, but I am sure each person has a different amount that works for them.


And I would also stress, that if you ask for advice, you should expect there will be many opinions you may not agree with, this is probably one of them too!

I read somewhere it was 50 or so 3 times a day... (by that i mean contracting and holding for a second.. or contracting and holding for a little longer)..

I have been tempted to try them as they seem like something that could work and sound pretty harmless...

 

[Kpooh]

I hold 5 seconds each contract...and 20 is my base....I do more if I feel I need to

 

[rick_oh]

Try the kegels followed by "reverse kegels." It's described in a book called Extended Sexual Orgasm. No longer published but you may be able to find it on used book sites.

 

[jadefirefly]

Definitely, the first thing I would look in to is how many of them you were doing, and how long you were holding for? They're no different than any other exercise -- hopefully you didn't start out with more than 10 at a time, holding for 1 second then relaxing. It's important to start out slow, just as you would if you were visiting a gym.

You probably already knew that, but it doesn't do any harm to double check.

If you've exhausted the possibilities -- you didn't do too many at once, you didn't hold for too long, etc -- then there are a few other ideas. Firstly, you say that there wasn't anything else, but oftentimes we don't consider everyday stressors as something that affects our sex life. Did something go badly at work that day? Had you been worried about something totally unrelated, earlier in the day? So many times we don't even think about these things affecting us physically, that it is easy to brush it off as something that doesn't come into play.

Secondly, if it persists after you stop doing the Kegels, do visit a doctor. If you rushed too quickly into the Kegels, or if something medical and completely unrelated came up at around the same time, it should be looked in to. Even if it turns out there's nothing medically wrong, it'd be nice to know for sure, wouldn't it?

I've never heard of Kegels actually causing someone to be unable to sustain an erection. It honestly does sound like a case of trying too much too soon. Doing them every day isn't a problem, but the number and length of them could be.

Also, don't discount them as a way to last longer. A couple of weeks may not be long enough to achieve this result for men, I can't say for certain, but again it's like going to the gym, but on a more fine-tuned scale. If you do it right, you may see results, but it may take a while to get to where you want to be.

Best of luck, and I hope everything sorts out for you soon.

 

[averageblonde]

My SO does kegels and the sex is great, he lasts a long time and he says that it feels better when he cums.

 

[naxalite0906]

My SO does kegels and the sex is great, he lasts a long time and he says that it feels better when he cums.

How many does he do and how many times a day?