Keeping Her Wet

[crazybadger]

I have a problem, when me and my girlfriend make love I last forever and she gets hers and drys up. I'm left with a ragging hard-on and someone sleeping next to me. Whats a guy to do... ladies, help me out here.

 

[Blackbich]

Lots and Lots of Lube.

 

[Lust Engine]

Keep the Astroglide handy. It's not that expensive and sure beats a buzzkill like you've experienced.

Lube away!

 

[Guest]

Lube, toys , more lube , licking , playing , more lube

 

[Ms_Lilith]

lube and a course in courtesy for her.

Just because she gets hers, she should find ways for you to get yours as well. Even if she dries up, maybe she could suck you to finish, or manually bring you to orgasm. There's more than one way to skin a cat, and any partner of mine would have to be well versed in the many ways to bring me off, should he or she finish before I do.

 

[Lust Engine]

lube and a course in courtesy for her.

Just because she gets hers, she should find ways for you to get yours as well. Even if she dries up, maybe she could suck you to finish, or manually bring you to orgasm. There's more than one way to skin a cat, and any partner of mine would have to be well versed in the many ways to bring me off, should he or she finish before I do.

So many wonderful solutions to a relatively simple problem! Many thanks for the great litany of suggestions here.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I have a problem, when me and my girlfriend make love I last forever and she gets hers and drys up. I'm left with a ragging hard-on and someone sleeping next to me. Whats a guy to do... ladies, help me out here.

Maybe you need more forplay. Have her touch you, go down on you (if she's willing) and pay a lot of attention to you before you enter her. That way when she's ready to come, hopefully so are you.

Another thing to try, start earlier in the evening and see if after a brief recovery she would be willing to do it again. Would that my man had your problem. It would make my day (and night). We would never sleep.

 

[sweetnpetite]

if she's not willing to put in the extra effort (boo for her), try getting yourself worked up before hand. Look at your dirty magazined or movies, read some erotic fiction take a shower or whatever. Masterbate yourself until your really close, then stop. A little bit later do it again, then stop. One last time, then stop. Then do her (assuming she's willing) and it should be no time before you pop. She might be the one frustrated! With practice you might be able to time it just right for that fabled "simultanious orgasm" but if not, hopefully you will be at least close.

If nothing works at all, you can always resort to a good hand job in the shower.

 

[hogjack]

Post-coital cruise

Use plenty of lubrication and remember that your intimacy is a precious commodity that you two share. It's beautiful.


And once she falls asleep there is always time to slip out of bed, hop in the car, push backwards out of the garage without starting the engine, hit the street starting that bad boy car up, and then cruise around looking for a hot transvestite hooker.

It's worked for me for several years and I also meet a lot of interesting people that way.

 

[sweetnpetite]

just thought of another

Dont let her come!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When she gets close, change the pace or change positions or something. You should be able to tell by the way her breathing changes if she isn't vocal about it. If certain things are a trigger for her, don't use them untill your ready for her to cumm. Break it up a lot with slow then fast, deep then shallow. Switch to 69, switch to doggy, switch to her on top (its harder for some when they are doing all the work) go down on her (not just her clit-PLEASE, lick all around those lovely folds) switch to her going down on you. Everytime you notice she's about to com, stop what your doing and do something else.

Also, check out Tantric Sex online and in your book store. I think that its similer to what I described above. I think it shows many teqniques for makeing sex last longer, and be more intense.

 

[8fingers]

My girl almost always cums way before I do. She feels bad and tells me to keep going. So I usually end up fucking her for another 10-15minutes before I blow my load in her.

I kinda like it. The friction makes her really hot! She says that she gets very sensitive after she cums and a little sore when we're done.

She likes to satisfy men.

 

[sweetnpetite]

My girl almost always cums way before I do. She feels bad and tells me to keep going. So I usually end up fucking her for another 10-15minutes before I blow my load in her.

I kinda like it. The friction makes her really hot! She says that she gets very sensitive after she cums and a little sore when we're done.

She likes to satisfy men.

aren't you conserned at all about her being "a little sore" when you're done? She may be understating her discomfort to keep you from "feeling bad"

 

[LunarSolstice]

I understand your pain, post originator. If I dont do anything about it, I could probably last for about an hour without cumming...damn them being right about porn desensifying you...so I agree with several of the other people who replied, get yourself in the mood first.

I also found it was neccessary to cut out all other distractions. I have like hardcore attention deficite, so there have been times where Im grinding on my girl and I forget what Im doing and start watching Conan O Brien.

She would probably be offended if she didnt do the same thing...maybe we should just give up sex and watch more TV?

 

[SlickTony]

lube and a course in courtesy for her.

Vixenshe, is that AV a picture of you? While I'm here, let me ask you another question: do you imagine that crazybadger's girlfriend dries up on purpose after she's come?

Reason I asked my first question, Vix, is that if that picture is you, you must be at the age where you probably imagine that you will never, never, never dry up. No doubt I thought the same thing back at that time. Well, as Steve Winwood once said, don't worry too much, it'll happen to you...

The lube, by the way, is an excellent idea; no one should ever, ever be without it. There are several things that bring about dryness: loss of lubrication is inevitable with age, although crazybadger has not indicated that is a factor here; also certain times of the month will find a girl getting dry earlier; plus there are certain meds, such as antihistamines, that bring on dryness. Oh, and the failure to keep oneself adequately hydrated. Since it plain doesn't feel good to have a man doing the piston thing in a cylinder that lacks for lubrication, I always have lube handy. When we went to London in 1999 and I found I'd forgotten it, I went to Boots and bought some more.

when me and my girlfriend make love I last forever

Just outta curiosity, 'badger, how long is is forever for you? Endurance can be a good thing, and many women think so, especially if they've ever been involved with an Egg Timer, like I was at one time in my life. OTOH, if you don't fuck your girlfriend ragged the first time, you'll probably get the chance to fuck her more than once in an evening. It might be a fun thing for the both of you to do some investigating into what your triggers are. There are some men (my husband is one of them) that actually enjoy having their balls constricted; this probably isn't every man's cuppa and it's something you want to be careful with. With some men it is pressure on the taint, and then there is always prostatic massage.

Try to bear in mind that:

• She isn't drying up on you on purpose.
• The ol' cylinder & piston isn't all there is.

Thank you.

 

[PeopleAreStrange]

I have the same problem sometimes. the one thing that helps the most is MORE FOREPLAY. and as was suggested before, don't let her cum until your almost there.

 

[8fingers]

aren't you conserned at all about her being "a little sore" when you're done? She may be understating her discomfort to keep you from "feeling bad"

I've asked her many times, she doesn't seem to be too bothered by it. She's usually still wet by the time I'm done. She just doesn't tighten up after she cums.

 

[Guest]

I'm left with a ragging hard-on and someone sleeping next to me......

Geezzzzzz...........and I thought only guys pulled that crap!

 

[SlickTony]

and I thought only guys pulled that crap!

Thank you!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Vixenshe, is that AV a picture of you? While I'm here, let me ask you another question: do you imagine that crazybadger's girlfriend dries up on purpose after she's come?

Reason I asked my first question, Vix, is that if that picture is you, you must be at the age where you probably imagine that you will never, never, never dry up. No doubt I thought the same thing back at that time. Well, as Steve Winwood once said, don't worry too much, it'll happen to you...

The lube, by the way, is an excellent idea; no one should ever, ever be without it. There are several things that bring about dryness: loss of lubrication is inevitable with age, although crazybadger has not indicated that is a factor here; also certain times of the month will find a girl getting dry earlier; plus there are certain meds, such as antihistamines, that bring on dryness. Oh, and the failure to keep oneself adequately hydrated. Since it plain doesn't feel good to have a man doing the piston thing in a cylinder that lacks for lubrication, I always have lube handy. When we went to London in 1999 and I found I'd forgotten it, I went to Boots and bought some more.

It's me. And I'm not an idiot. I'm not saying that she TRIES to dry up. What I'm saying is that, after she's cum, and dries up, the post originator says he's left with a raging hardon and a partner sleeping beside him

my point about the course in courtesy is that, after she's cum... maybe she could find OTHER ways of pleasing him so that she's not sleeping, and he's still hard. they could disengage from intercourse, and she could go down on him, or give him a handjob, or whatever. Letting yourself get off and then leaving your partner frustrated is selfish and just not kosher.

 

[SlickTony]

Letting yourself get off and then leaving your partner frustrated is selfish and just not kosher.

Hey, Vix, I didn't mean to be so hard on you. Basically I agree with you. I've been left hanging, and I've been fucked ragged, and it's a tossup which is worse. I'd say the former, since it is indicative of a bad attitude. Today, my first husband does not even know where I am, that's how gone I am.