just to say 'hello' and ask--

[slickDawn]

I'm Dawn[my real name] and won't go beyond that. One can check me out at "slickDawn" to know more.

I'm new to this, and any such forums. But, I was told by an employee that this place is where I could get alot of straight answers to some of my sexual questions. OK?

I'm straight, single, and don't have an ex or current boyfriend. I'm too busy at my studio { I have a P/R & advertising agency. I was a fashion model in NYC before. That's beside the point.

My question has to do with sex, or the confusion about it. Why? I keep getting fed up with men who are "users" and are selfish. I like guys, but whenever I am with them, in the past, and we begin the start of making love, and I get passionate, they get right to the point of letting me take their erection, and they "cum" all over. I'm left stranded. Time and again. They never satisfy my need because they "get off" too quick.

I have never, ever, reached orgasm with a man. So. I gave up on the selfish pricks. A gal who works for me, and a guy, who are both bi and gay, and are wonderful and work as my "display" people in my creative department, invited me to one of their parties. I know one girl has the "hots" for me.

Should I let her try to satisfy my needs? She asked me to come over to her place and she would give me a massage--a tongue bath.

That was all that I needed to get all wet and horny. What should I do?

+++Dawn+++

 

[Tat2mom]

If it feels like something you would enjoy then GO FOR IT!!! Always get all the enjoyment you can out of life sweetie!!!!!

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

Go for it

Dear Dawn,

I always say that sex is (should be !!) a winner-winner, and I pride myself to make sure my partner gets her fill of pleasure ( no pun intended ). But I know how frustrating it can be not to be rewarded for your efforts.
Pussy licking is sooo great, I can't understand why a man can't get his kicks bringing her partner to orgasm, nor how you never found one.
If your feeling with these work people you mention is good, then go for it. I suggest though that you tell them to keep it a small party (just the 2-3 of you). I'm not sure you'd be really turned on by an orgy...
Plus, don't let orgasming become an obsession. From my experience, the more you look for it, the less it comes (NPI again). Take as much pleasure as you can.

Good luck

 

[Cigan]

If that's all it took to get you all hot and horny then yes you should definately go for it, because you already have a psychological ability to enjoy it.

As far as the guys cuming too soon. That is a guy problem. The saying among some of my gay friends is "He's done so the the act is done." Some guys do develop a sense of self control, but they're rare. If you try out sex with your bi-friend and find you prefer men I suggest "The Multiple Orgasmic Male". So if you find a guy later that you can help him gain some control over himself. But that's a last resort really, in truth I hope you enjoy your toung bath.

 

[gypsywitch]

If having orgasms with other people that you're not in love with is that important, then have a great time.



Just be safe.

 

[SirJax]

Just don't become one of the "users" you detest. Maybe she would be happy to pleasure your pussy with her tongue, but I hope you would be open to reciprocate, even if you're not bi or lesbian. She may hope this might lead to a relationship, which also I hope you would keep open to.

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

Agreed

If having orgasms with other people that you're not in love with is that important, then have a great time.



Just be safe.

Remember, dear Gypsy, that Dawn here has not found her SO yet... Being single is the best time to have orgasms with people you're not in love with. I wouldn't recommend having orgasms without the person you're in love with... unless you're into swinging

Have fun Dawn and, yes !, be safe !!!!

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Speaks

Honestly Dawn, it sounds like you have been finding the wrong guys. The Lit board is a perfect example of men who would like nothing more then to please their women as much as possible. ^^ Heck I perfer giving my g/f an orgasm to me getting one, it's just feels so good to make her feel like that... but I digress. If your comfertable with your work friends then by all means enjoy yourself to your hearts content, just don't give up on the 'selfish pricks', some of us arn't like that.

Then again we can never have enough bisexuals on the forum... enjoy the tonguebath ^_~

-Zergplex

 

[TheFrenchGuy]

Hi again

Hi Dawn,

Hope everyone's advice here helped you. How is it going for you ?

 

[Bitchslapper]

If having orgasms with other people that you're not in love with is that important, then have a great time.

Wow, no bias there.

 

[anytime1949]

should I

I believe that if something interests you, you should explore it. If you don't you may regret it later in life. If you try it and don't like it...don't do it again.

 

[Baby Blue Eyes]

It is probably too late to comment on this, but I have a different opinion than others here, I think.

If the needs you have are purely to have an orgasm, let me suggest a vibrator. And keep looking for a guy who is willing and able to satisfy you.

OTOH, being straight doesn't mean you can't explore. But, if this girl has the hots for you, I think you should consider that to mean that she is attracted to you and, if it matters to you, you may cause some really hurt feelings if you just let her sex you, then leave.

If you want to experience being with a woman, then spend the time to get to know her and let her know exactly where you're coming from.

If you allow yourself to experience this as a participant, not a spectator, you just might find it to be a beautiful thing (speaking from experience).