Just need to vent a little

[BlueSugar]

Home on spring break to hang out and just relax, in my last leg of the hull, and its really nice just to calm down after a few years of crazyness.

I actually went shopping with my mother today for jeans, didn't know how it was going to go, because I've been shopping for myself since I was 13 or so, haven't shopped with my mother in all too long, so I figured maybe it would be like revisiting childhood.

I could tell she was a little uncomfortable, didn't really know how to talk around me to help me pick something out because we haven't shopped in a while, and doesn't understand why I wear certain things or just buy something nice that fits etc... you know how it could be.

Looking at jeans, and what "boot cut" used to mean, isn't the same style anymore, so I picked up a pair because they were quite relaxed, I never wear them- but change is good right?
So I picked up a pair to try on, but not the pair next to them because they were true boot cut jeans (tight at the ankle and stiff legged and all) and she said "why not those, are they too.. uh, gay or something?"

And I cringed, and turned around, and asked what she meant by that. Did she mean gay as in, more gay people wear them and that is more 'their' fashion so she was just being stereotypical or gay as in not good, gay as a kid would use it to tease another kid in school.

"gay as in, not good, ugly, bad, not your style"

And I asked her polietly not to use that term like that anymore because it isn't nice, even though its in popular culture and easy to slip out. (my younger siblings sadly use it, and I correct them too. I've also told them not to call each other fem products like DouchBag, or dirty things like scum bag... so they knew what they were saying and wouldn't say it anymore bc it was grosser then they knew )

She used it again, and I kind of bit back, and just told her it makes me uncomfortable, it isn't nice, and not to say it again.

She didn't for the rest of the shopping adventure, which wasn't as bad as I thought it was.

Oh, and she doesn't know that I am bi/lesbian ... mostly because I've only had the chance/opportunites date men thus far and she doesnt really need to know. She knows I support the lifestyle, the marriages ...etc. Isn't happy, but she was also the liberal of her family so she just lets me be for the most part.

I just needed to vent.
Anyone with similiar experiences or not so similar and just need to vent?

 

[Never]

It's so gay when people use queer as a derogative term.

 

[RobHammer]

Jackie BlueSugar, it's been an ongoing battle around my house for a number of years.

Just tonight, my oldest son logged his youngest brother onto a game site under the name of Gay Guy, bringing tears to the youngest ones eyes.

In the past, my wife has screamed at the top of her lungs, "ARE YOU STILL GAY?" God bless that she has adopted an all male adult movie as 'her' Bone Island.

My middle son thinks the anime drawings of transsexual characters are pretty cool.

 

[Angel]

What's sad is that I never said things like "That's Gay" in place of "That Sucks" etc, until I moved in with a gay guy who used it all the goddamn time, and it's taken me the past three years to stop saying it.

And it still slips out once in awhile.

 

[BlueSugar]

I caught my sibs doing it again, but i've given up on them as humans anyway.

Today I was visiting the grandparents, and the news came on taking about some priest in NY being ordained to something higher and he happened to be gay as well... so he felt the need to talk to me about his views, I simply nodded, bit my lip. Grandmother didn't say anything, but then again she teaches CCD at a local church and speaks during mass ... so I guess I can just presume.

::sigh::

then he was talking about gays adopting and that he thinks its a good idea because they are an unwanted couple, with unwanted children and they make each other feel whole.

I had to get up and leave saying it was getting close to dinner time, and refusing their invitation to eat there. Got in my car and cried for a bit.

 

[Bitchslapper]

I objected to the use of the word "retarded" as a term of displeasure or disapproval ("Oh, that's retarded") until I heard a group of developmentally delayed people use it that way. Then I didn't worry about it so much.