I have been a long time reader of LIT but a very infrequent poster on the forums. However, I thought I might give this a try instead of something like Tinder as there are just too many fake profiles on there (plus the push to monetize it even further). I'm a SWM in his late 40's, southern part of the US (lot of sunshine in this state). Never married & no children. The why for that & why I am giving this a try is I was very involved with someone I cared deeply for and wanted to spend the rest of my life with. However, genetics had another idea about that and she passed away after a long illness. Now, a decade later, I'm still single and honestly would like to change that.
As for what I am looking for on here or expecting...I really can't say. Someone to talk to, someone to get used to opening up with, maybe some fun "chat" or even meeting in person if things got that far. I just don't feel comfortable going to a bar or something like that and wasting time (and money) hoping to magically bump into someone. Plus, I think the pace of doing it here might be better for me too. Now I do want to say I am not a shut-in. I have lots of friends, both locally and all over the globe (and I mean real friends, not just "internet" friends). However, any of them that I might be interested in are involved, too far away or like playing with the "home team" as it were.
And if you have read this far, now the fun part about me and what I am looking for: As I said, single white male here, medium height, average build (very careful about my weight, partially due to an old injury) & working to make it "better than average", still have a full head of hair, loves to read though mainly online these days rather than books (but I still enjoy the occasional book now then), movie, games, sports, getting to the beach when I can, good conversations, trips, and about a dozen other things. And to be fair, I have one bad habit: I'm a smoker. I just can't seem to give it up. Other than that, not a big drinker (maybe one night a year I do it while in Vegas or next month when I am overseas for a trip) or much else like that.
As for what I seem to be attracted to these days: a smart mind, love of life, good sense of humor, isn't a religious bible thumper or Trump fan, someone who gets obscure movie, TV or pop references and can throw them right back, likes trying new thing: from foods, music, shows, activities (not meaning sexual really although that could be fun too) is fairly fit (after my late gf, it kind of became important to me) & lastly a bit younger than me. To be honest, and I have though about it, anyone from 18 to mid-30's Caucasian, Hispanic, Asian, First Peoples (look it up if you don't know that term), Middle Eastern or Mixed of any of the above. Now, I know a lot of people are thinking (well, one person who maybe read up to here instead of clicking back) "He just wants some young girl". That's isn't entirely true but it isn't entirely wrong either. It isn't that I want a "young girl", but after losing someone due to a long term illness and then pretty much not dating for 10+ years (aside from a "Ok, how did this happen" hook up maybe 4 times in that decade plus), I want someone who has that love of life. That wide eyed & open-minded view of things, not the "Oh, yeah....tried that/been there/sounds like too much trouble. etc" I hear from people my own age. I missed out on so much time & would like someone to talk to & maybe go on those experiences to help fill in what I missed. But hey, I'd also like some tiramisu right now too but we take what we can get.
In any event, if you made it this far, congrats and well done. If you want to tell me to go seek therapy or go pay for companionship, that cool. I am sure a few will. Sympathies...those you can keep. But if you want to chat or see if the person behind all this is real, send me a PM and find out.
/BTW, bonus points if you are a fan of ChloeTzang's stories on here
As for what I am looking for on here or expecting...I really can't say. Someone to talk to, someone to get used to opening up with, maybe some fun "chat" or even meeting in person if things got that far. I just don't feel comfortable going to a bar or something like that and wasting time (and money) hoping to magically bump into someone. Plus, I think the pace of doing it here might be better for me too. Now I do want to say I am not a shut-in. I have lots of friends, both locally and all over the globe (and I mean real friends, not just "internet" friends). However, any of them that I might be interested in are involved, too far away or like playing with the "home team" as it were.
And if you have read this far, now the fun part about me and what I am looking for: As I said, single white male here, medium height, average build (very careful about my weight, partially due to an old injury) & working to make it "better than average", still have a full head of hair, loves to read though mainly online these days rather than books (but I still enjoy the occasional book now then), movie, games, sports, getting to the beach when I can, good conversations, trips, and about a dozen other things. And to be fair, I have one bad habit: I'm a smoker. I just can't seem to give it up. Other than that, not a big drinker (maybe one night a year I do it while in Vegas or next month when I am overseas for a trip) or much else like that.
As for what I seem to be attracted to these days: a smart mind, love of life, good sense of humor, isn't a religious bible thumper or Trump fan, someone who gets obscure movie, TV or pop references and can throw them right back, likes trying new thing: from foods, music, shows, activities (not meaning sexual really although that could be fun too) is fairly fit (after my late gf, it kind of became important to me) & lastly a bit younger than me. To be honest, and I have though about it, anyone from 18 to mid-30's Caucasian, Hispanic, Asian, First Peoples (look it up if you don't know that term), Middle Eastern or Mixed of any of the above. Now, I know a lot of people are thinking (well, one person who maybe read up to here instead of clicking back) "He just wants some young girl". That's isn't entirely true but it isn't entirely wrong either. It isn't that I want a "young girl", but after losing someone due to a long term illness and then pretty much not dating for 10+ years (aside from a "Ok, how did this happen" hook up maybe 4 times in that decade plus), I want someone who has that love of life. That wide eyed & open-minded view of things, not the "Oh, yeah....tried that/been there/sounds like too much trouble. etc" I hear from people my own age. I missed out on so much time & would like someone to talk to & maybe go on those experiences to help fill in what I missed. But hey, I'd also like some tiramisu right now too but we take what we can get.
In any event, if you made it this far, congrats and well done. If you want to tell me to go seek therapy or go pay for companionship, that cool. I am sure a few will. Sympathies...those you can keep. But if you want to chat or see if the person behind all this is real, send me a PM and find out.
/BTW, bonus points if you are a fan of ChloeTzang's stories on here
