Just had first experience, and need to sort brain out. please help me.

[CuriousGeorge19]

Ok. I'm sraight. I'm 100% sure I'm straight in the sense that I love women (like, I fall in love with women and generally love the gender and all that is female). That said, the other day while really fucked up, I sucked a stranger's cock in a stairwell. I just kind of want to talk about it with some anonymous people who know about these things (read: bi/gay guys and girls and straight guys who have/want to dabble). I swear I'm not looking for another cock to suck or something like that. I just need an outlet to figure out where and who I am, I guess. The whole story of what happened is pretty kinky (I mean, I guess I might write of a story for literotica, but I'd have to make it far more positive). The story is hot, I realize. I'll fill you in on it if you contact me I guess. I'm just in a weird place. We can IM or something. Hell, I don't care what your orientation is, I just want someone who has been around the block and can help me sort myself out. For the record, I'm an almost-twenty college kid from New York, but I go to school in New England. Thanks whoever helps me out.

CuriousGeorge (My name just got funnier I realized. Nice.)

And on a related note, what other boards should I post to to ask for help?

 

[Wolfman1982]

sexforums.com

 

[ima6uldv8]

I'm a 41 year old female here. I haven't had any relationships with women but they are a big fantasy. I don't think you should be freaking out so much over this (other than the danger of disease). You are very young and I think this is totaly natural. There are more experienced people that can help you deal with it better, though. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

 

[jshawk74]

I guess the first question is - did you enjoy it?

 

[kalika]

I'm a 41 year old female here. I haven't had any relationships with women but they are a big fantasy. I don't think you should be freaking out so much over this (other than the danger of disease). You are very young and I think this is totaly natural. There are more experienced people that can help you deal with it better, though. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

I totally agree. No need at all to wig out here. I kinda felt the same way the first time I was with another girl. I didn't want to be labeled as a lesbian/dyke, but at the same time I knew I had enjoyed myself. I tried it again the next day and got even more confused about how I felt. I actually went out that day and had sex with my boyfriend to make sure I still liked hetero sex. So many years later now, I know that I am bi and have not a single problem with it.

I have heard many people on these boards say that they wished the had taken the opportunity when it came. Good on you for making the leap, the only things left are to embrace the experience and decide if you want to do it again. Just don't rush into any decisions. You may end up denying an important part of yourself, or doing something later that you decide really isn't for you.


For now I would say just relax and revel in the thought that you had courage enough to do something most people don't. Feel free to pm me and we can talk if you need to.

 

[Tim25nc]

answer and a question

sounds like to me that you have to be atleast a lil bi curious i have had a few females in my day....but never any men im just not that way...see im a 20's male and i guess dont be skiddish bi/gay/straight it dont matter these days. how do u want help with this probem?

 

[fingermagic]

I'm a 41 year old female here. I haven't had any relationships with women but they are a big fantasy. I don't think you should be freaking out so much over this (other than the danger of disease). You are very young and I think this is totaly natural. There are more experienced people that can help you deal with it better, though. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

I agree. I have been bi since I was a teenager many years ago and never regreated it. It is just a really confussing time because of an attraction to both sexes. You are sitting on the fence and do not really know where you belong. Everyone is bisexual. It is only a matter of to what degree you are attracted to the same or opposite sex. You can do both and be absolutly normal. The question is do you like to be with both. I agree though that sex with strangers in a stairwell, though vey appealing for the excitment part of it, is not good from the disease and other dangers. Find others in the same boat as you, I assure there are oters, and see what happens. Develop your feelings and you can enjoy the best of both worlds. Remember, by being bi, you expand the possibilites by 100%.

 

[lankyzor]

what's there to worry about?
you went out and tried it. my motto is, "Don't knock it till you try it?"

there's nothing wrong with trying something. now, the question becomes, did you like it?