journal writing

[sub by desire]

Is there a journal site where a sub could write down things to share with her Dom?

 

[Kierae]

Have you thought about doing a blog?

 

[timberwolf05]

yes somewhere.......

i just never got into it. i'm supposed to...but i see Mistress every day..what can i write for pity's sake?

 

[Kierae]

http://www.slavejournals.com/

 

[Rrrosyn]

yes somewhere.......

i just never got into it. i'm supposed to...but i see Mistress every day..what can i write for pity's sake?

That's how j feels. We spend a lot of time together daily. But I still miss him writing to me. There is something more of his inner feelings and thought visible in text that is missing when we just talk. Plus talking he has fear of my reaction... well not fear, but he has to say thing thinking about how I might respond.

 

[JupitersGirl]

That's how j feels. We spend a lot of time together daily. But I still miss him writing to me. There is something more of his inner feelings and thought visible in text that is missing when we just talk. Plus talking he has fear of my reaction... well not fear, but he has to say thing thinking about how I might respond.

So true! I always wondered why it seemed so much easier to write my heart out than to speak it, but there it is!
When I write, I look inward, when I speak, I look outward.

Looking? Always...but in what direction?

 

[fallon2]

One

is always afraid to speak due to the possibility of being rejected. Through writing one evaluates at a later time the intensity of what was written in the "now and present" and still write without the possibility of being rejected and thus hurt.

 

[Rrrosyn]

j and I met through word in a chatbox. There's another reason why I miss it.

I do still find the rare email from him. But "our" journal... has been in the back seat of the car for so long. *pouts* Me thinks maybe he needs motivation. *looks at her collection of floggers and paddles*

(Actually, he just has school full-time and work part-time... and spends every remaining minute devoutly worshipping me.)

 

[Etoile]

http://www.slavejournals.com/

Oh, nice find. I was going to suggest LiveJournal or something like that, because posts can be made friends-only there. But that URL is awesome, even if the site is run using PHP-Nuke (which I hate!). Excellent link.

 

[jadefirefly]

What a neat link! I'd have suggested LJ as well.

I actually have a tendency to suffer from something called elective mutism when put in a position where I need to speak something that's too overly intimate or emotional for me -- quite literally, my throat closes up and I'm actually unable to say what I want to. I can still talk, but the words I want to say won't come out. I've always turned back to writing things down when that happens, so at least I can still get it out.

It's kind of a relief to know I'm not the only one who'd prefer to write.

 

[Etoile]

It's kind of a relief to know I'm not the only one who'd prefer to write.

If you happen to have a LJ account yourself, you might want to check out the text_is_life community.

 

[starla{TDM}]

you can create a private journal here also
http://www.fire-runner.com/createjournal.htm

have a good night
starla

 

[A Desert Rose]

Is there a journal site where a sub could write down things to share with her Dom?

I don't do blogs. I always sent my Dom a daily email journal. Is there a reason you can't do that or does he prefer that you do a blog?

 

[Edaine]

LiveJournal is great especially if you like the community aspect. You can set security for each post, allowing only certain people to view it, public or completely private.

 

[serijules]

I'm kind of embarrassed, but I can't figure out how to POST to communities!! I've been a member of LJ since its very early days and I never was into the community thing...I joined one not long ago but I can't figure out how to post to it lol

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm kind of embarrassed, but I can't figure out how to POST to communities!! I've been a member of LJ since its very early days and I never was into the community thing...I joined one not long ago but I can't figure out how to post to it lol

No need to feel embarrassed, you are not alone. I don't really get the online, open to everyone journal idea as the primary means of journaling. I can see it as interesting if you had a good personal site and people who wanted to follow your experiences, but even then, I don't think I could ever get to be real in a journal type way in that context simply because I don't see a journal as something which is public property when in a relationship.

It may sound strange to some, but for me journalling may be seen as being the entries of one person, but the reality is when they are in a relationship, those entries expose at least one other person to some degree, as well as some things which IMHO should only ever be discussed on that level between the 2 people involved. It is just my opinion and feelings on it, but I could see it as unrealistically influencing both the journal entries and the relationship outcomes and developments. For us, though we are open on Lit about how we live our life, there is a lot which does not come up here and that need to direct our own experiences and relationship is also part of why we are not into the club and party scene...it just does not hold interest for us as a major part of our lifestyle on a day to day basis.

Catalina

 

[serijules]

No need to feel embarrassed, you are not alone. I don't really get the online, open to everyone journal idea as the primary means of journaling. I can see it as interesting if you had a good personal site and people who wanted to follow your experiences, but even then, I don't think I could ever get to be real in a journal type way in that context simply because I don't see a journal as something which is public property when in a relationship.

It may sound strange to some, but for me journalling may be seen as being the entries of one person, but the reality is when they are in a relationship, those entries expose at least one other person to some degree, as well as some things which IMHO should only ever be discussed on that level between the 2 people involved. It is just my opinion and feelings on it, but I could see it as unrealistically influencing both the journal entries and the relationship outcomes and developments. For us, though we are open on Lit about how we live our life, there is a lot which does not come up here and that need to direct our own experiences and relationship is also part of why we are not into the club and party scene...it just does not hold interest for us as a major part of our lifestyle on a day to day basis.

Catalina

I meant more so physically..I can't figure out where to submit a post on communities. I know how to reply to posts already there, but not create a new one. *scratches head*


I have two journals I maintain...one on my website that is public, and one that is for Dawnie only. The great thing about livejournal is the ability to control who sees what. No one has access to my private journal but Dawnie, and I prefer it to emails because I can go back and read old entries and see how we've changed and see how my thoughts grow over the years. If I'm struggling with feelings that have been addressed before, I can go back and read our discussions about it and feel better on my own without making them issues she has to deal with again. So it does have a lot to offer, especially for someone like me in a long distance relationship.

I used to be more open in public blogging, but I agree with you about "posting" about someone else without their direct involvement. That is not something I've ever been a fan of, although I'm guilty of it at times when venting frustrations or talking about problems in past relationships, even though I don't name names...people that know me know who I'm referring to. If I'm feeling unsure if a post is going to make Dawnie uncomfortable, I send it to her for permission to post first, and that works out well. Then I don't feel like I'm potentially invading her privacy yet can still be very open and share. The comments I get from my journal and website over the years are AMAZING. People really get inspired from reading thoughts from others that are open and honest.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I have files on my computer in which I keep copies of all the emails I sent Him and all the responses that I got from Him. I can go back (and do on occassion) and read what we've written to each other in the past. (Sometimes He would respond to things I had written.) I don't need a blog to do that. Furthermore, those things I said to Him were between He and I. They were never meant for anyone else's eyes.

But lots of people blog, especially the younger internet users and they seem to love doing that.

I guess I'm just not that public about my private life.

 

[serijules]

I have files on my computer in which I keep copies of all the emails I sent Him and all the responses that I got from Him. I can go back (and do on occassion) and read what we've written to each other in the past. (Sometimes He would respond to things I had written.) I don't need a blog to do that. Furthermore, those things I said to Him were between He and I. They were never meant for anyone else's eyes.

But lots of people blog, especially the younger internet users and they seem to love doing that.

I guess I'm just not that public about my private life.

I used to do that too, then my computer crashed and I lost the whole thing. At least this way its stored somewhere else, and its neat too because I can access livejournal on any computer, so sometimes when I am at my moms and am bored, I'll get on her laptop and read or post.

Gmail would be a good email program to use for those that prefer to email, as there is so much space and keeps everything together and can access from anywhere.

Not all blogging and journaling is public. A lot of my friends have journals that are private that they've only given certain people access to. So blogging doesn't necessarily mean a lack of privacy. It's just a prettier way of emailing *grin*

My style of public blogging is really different than most though. They are most like mini essays on whatever topic is on my mind rather than random stuff about my day. I tried doing the random stuff/vent style posting and I felt too whiney and bitchy, so I gave up on that and just stuck with my mini-essay style.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I used to do that too, then my computer crashed and I lost the whole thing. At least this way its stored somewhere else, and its neat too because I can access livejournal on any computer, so sometimes when I am at my moms and am bored, I'll get on her laptop and read or post.

Gmail would be a good email program to use for those that prefer to email, as there is so much space and keeps everything together and can access from anywhere.

Not all blogging and journaling is public. A lot of my friends have journals that are private that they've only given certain people access to. So blogging doesn't necessarily mean a lack of privacy. It's just a prettier way of emailing *grin*

My style of public blogging is really different than most though. They are most like mini essays on whatever topic is on my mind rather than random stuff about my day. I tried doing the random stuff/vent style posting and I felt too whiney and bitchy, so I gave up on that and just stuck with my mini-essay style.

I understand and if this is the way you and your partner prefer to communicate, there's certainly nothing wrong with that.

I have a removeable little "key" that I keep all my special files on and I can plug it into my computer at any time to read again whenever I want to. (I also have our pictures on it.) There's no worry that I might lose my stuff. And I also understand that blogging has it's own security features that allow you to choose who views what.

I still preferred to keep my words between Him and I. That's just how I am. And there's nothing wrong with that, either. ;-)

 

[Edaine]

I'm kind of embarrassed, but I can't figure out how to POST to communities!! I've been a member of LJ since its very early days and I never was into the community thing...I joined one not long ago but I can't figure out how to post to it lol

LOL don't be embarrassed I didn't figure it out myself till I started using the client Semagic and stumbled onto it by accident. Do you use the LJ webpage tool to post? Or a client? If you use the LJ webpage tool look at the very bottom of the form. You should see an option called Post To with a drop down list containing your user name and the community you joined.

http://my-expressions.com/up_media/796/Post-To.jpg

Its really rather counter-intuitive as one of the first things we want to do is tell LJ where we want to post when we start a post. But oh well it's free right?

 

[serijules]

LOL don't be embarrassed I didn't figure it out myself till I started using the client Semagic and stumbled onto it by accident. Do you use the LJ webpage tool to post? Or a client? If you use the LJ webpage tool look at the very bottom of the form. You should see an option called Post To with a drop down list containing your user name and the community you joined.

http://my-expressions.com/up_media/796/Post-To.jpg

Its really rather counter-intuitive as one of the first things we want to do is tell LJ where we want to post when we start a post. But oh well it's free right?

Nope, I use the semagic client...how do you post to communities onthere?

 

[serijules]

I understand and if this is the way you and your partner prefer to communicate, there's certainly nothing wrong with that.

I have a removeable little "key" that I keep all my special files on and I can plug it into my computer at any time to read again whenever I want to. (I also have our pictures on it.) There's no worry that I might lose my stuff. And I also understand that blogging has it's own security features that allow you to choose who views what.

I still preferred to keep my words between Him and I. That's just how I am. And there's nothing wrong with that, either. ;-)

Your first reply just sounded like you didn't realize that journals/blogs are no more public than emails if you choose them not to be, wasn't trying to say my way was better or anything. You say you prefer to keep your words private but also say you understand that journals are private so thats where my confusion was coming in Whatever works for people is perfectly fine, for sure.

I have a flash drive too....it crashed and lost everything. It's a sad technology world when I trust places like hotmail and gmail and whatnot to save my stuff than I do my own hardware. I even have a habit now of emailing myself all my photos to gmail to store because my zip drive fucked up and ate all the data on my disks. Bah!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Your first reply just sounded like you didn't realize that journals/blogs are no more public than emails if you choose them not to be, wasn't trying to say my way was better or anything. You say you prefer to keep your words private but also say you understand that journals are private so thats where my confusion was coming in Whatever works for people is perfectly fine, for sure.

I have a flash drive too....it crashed and lost everything. It's a sad technology world when I trust places like hotmail and gmail and whatnot to save my stuff than I do my own hardware. I even have a habit now of emailing myself all my photos to gmail to store because my zip drive fucked up and ate all the data on my disks. Bah!

I'm sorry you've had so much trouble. I guess you're right and blogging is the best way to journal.

 

[Etoile]

Since there's been a bit of discussion about blogging in general as well as blogging about/for relationships, I'll jump in with my comments.

I am even more open in my journal than I am on here. I know this kind of publicity is not for everyone, but I am comfortable with it. I tell just about everything in my journal, except for my sex life because both my parents read it. (Even then I have made references to some things, including BDSM, though nothing about being poly.) I don't know why I am so comfortable about sharing myself online - it certainly could burn me. But I have a great many friends online, in fact many more than I have IRL (though I have met many online friends IRL), and these are the people that I share my life with.

I rarely make "friends only" entries. Not all blogging systems offer this level of privacy, but LiveJournal is one of the best-known services and it offers highly customizable security settings. You can choose whether a new entry is fully public, limited to your friends (meaning they must be logged in to read it), or completely private. Also, you can filter your friends list. I have more than 150 people on my friends list, but I'm not comfortable talking with some of them about certain things. So I have a "local" filter, for example. When I post with the "local" filter, only the individuals I have chosen can read that - I use it for things like "hey what's going on Saturday night?" that people in other areas just wouldn't be interested in. One instance in which I do make friends-only entries, though, is work stuff. I don't want anybody from work seeing me vent about my co-worker or anything, so I hide that stuff and only show the people I trust.

As for blogging about relationships, I do have a separate sex journal, which is actually quite common on LiveJournal. I don't use it very often but it's nice to know it's there. Daddy has not expressed any interest in reading such a thing; if e did I would probably put those posts on a filter that only e could see. We mostly communicate through e-mail, though, and I do indeed save all of them (even the mundane stuff!).