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Have any of you had experience with becoming intimate with a couple?
Was it positive/negative?
Was it positive/negative?
Joining a couple for a threesome...
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incognito989
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Yes, and positive. So long as you know exactly what the others are into, about, and any boundries for either of them.
Were there any specifics questions that you wanna know about? Might be an easier thing to answer for the how-to people if you list 'em
Were there any specifics questions that you wanna know about? Might be an easier thing to answer for the how-to people if you list 'em
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incognito989 said:Yes, and positive. So long as you know exactly what the others are into, about, and any boundries for either of them.
Were there any specifics questions that you wanna know about? Might be an easier thing to answer for the how-to people if you list 'em
I wouldn't even know where to start honestly. I've never thought about it until I was asked recently. General info is ok, maybe what I'm looking for is someone to tell me about their experience.
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You might try some of the forums,la mariposita said:
hotwives, ourwives, cuckolds, etc...
http://www.adultcommunitiesonline.com/ourhotwives/home.html
just be aware that some of this is true and some is fantasy. I used to communicate witht the couple who started the site I linked to, Pam & Greg. They are very real.
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Ooh, spam.
Back to topic...I'm slightly nervous about it only because I don't want to feel like I'm getting between a couple. The thought is thrilling, yet I want to be sure that they are secure enough of their relationship not to feel threatened by an outsider. In other words, I would hate to see things get ugly and be caught in between.
Back to topic...I'm slightly nervous about it only because I don't want to feel like I'm getting between a couple. The thought is thrilling, yet I want to be sure that they are secure enough of their relationship not to feel threatened by an outsider. In other words, I would hate to see things get ugly and be caught in between.
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la mariposita said:
That's a good part of the reason I only did it the once. She was an older friend of mine too, and I didn't want to mess any of *that* up as well.
I don't know that there's any hard and fast rules. And things do have a tendency of going bad in at least one manner or another. Partner saying they want to do it, then feels bad afterwards, things like that..
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I would highly suggest that you talk with the woman alone on this. That way you can find out what she wants. Ask her reasons for wanting a threesome.
If she says to please her husband, then don't do it.
I have had several negative experiences with couples because it wasn't what the female really wanted.
If she says to please her husband, then don't do it.
I have had several negative experiences with couples because it wasn't what the female really wanted.
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Missingmeds said:
That's great advice. Thank you, I will ask her.
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la mariposita said:
Spam?
Are you referring to my post? I was just trying to provide some information that might help in your quest.
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8 Simple Rules For Fucking A Couple
1. Unless both say their sole intention is to concentrate on you, you're there to enhance their pleasure. Think of yourself as a facilitator with benefits: Make them happy first and you'll get plenty out of it. Including an invitation to return.
2. Discover as best you can what they want from a threesome. The aforesaid "to make my husband happy" comment applies. The husband and wife don't have to sound like they're reciting talking points, but they should be in the ballpark. If he says that he wants to see her with another woman, but she never says she wants to see him with another woman, you might want to discuss that option. They know their limits and likes/dislikes; all you want are the Cliff Notes.
3. Everyone should reduce their expectations. We've all experienced the exhilaration of meeting someone and swooning only to find out they're a lousy partner in bed. If the three of you automatically assume it's going to be fireworks and gangbusters you'll probably walk away disappointed. If you go in with the attitude of "whatever happens, happens" then your chances of having a helluva enjoyable time are far greater.
4. Your concern about getting between them is well-intentioned but it is highly unlikely your presence will begin a new avenue of disagreement. If there's something fermenting your presence may bring it to the surface (one would hope long after you've departed the scene). If it becomes uncomfortable just excuse yourself as tactfully as possible, as you would at a dinner party if the hosts began screaming at each other.
5. The more alcohol, the greater the chance of the evening going badly. A little nip to bolster the nerves, fine. More than that and you're tempting the fates. This is especially true if any (or all) of the three have never experienced a threesome.
6. Remain flexible. Everything is going well and then someone mentions -- well, it could be any number of things, some of which you may have fantasized about doing and some of which may disgust you. Experimentation is the key in a threesome, especially as the solo individual, but if you're uncomfortable with what is suggested, just take a pass and encourage them to enjoy in your presence. After all, having you watch for a short time could be as much of a thrill as sharing you (or taking turns with you).
7. If possible, teach each of them something. We all like to think we're exceptional lovers but, like real life, we should never stop learning. If it is their first threesome, they're probably going to be so blown away by watching you with the other (and/or joining in) that they won't be studying technique. It doesn't hurt to offer a subtle suggestion ("See how much she/he likes it when I [fill in the blank]") or ask each to describe precisely what they enjoy. They'll love you for it.
8. Enjoy.
1. Unless both say their sole intention is to concentrate on you, you're there to enhance their pleasure. Think of yourself as a facilitator with benefits: Make them happy first and you'll get plenty out of it. Including an invitation to return.
2. Discover as best you can what they want from a threesome. The aforesaid "to make my husband happy" comment applies. The husband and wife don't have to sound like they're reciting talking points, but they should be in the ballpark. If he says that he wants to see her with another woman, but she never says she wants to see him with another woman, you might want to discuss that option. They know their limits and likes/dislikes; all you want are the Cliff Notes.
3. Everyone should reduce their expectations. We've all experienced the exhilaration of meeting someone and swooning only to find out they're a lousy partner in bed. If the three of you automatically assume it's going to be fireworks and gangbusters you'll probably walk away disappointed. If you go in with the attitude of "whatever happens, happens" then your chances of having a helluva enjoyable time are far greater.
4. Your concern about getting between them is well-intentioned but it is highly unlikely your presence will begin a new avenue of disagreement. If there's something fermenting your presence may bring it to the surface (one would hope long after you've departed the scene). If it becomes uncomfortable just excuse yourself as tactfully as possible, as you would at a dinner party if the hosts began screaming at each other.
5. The more alcohol, the greater the chance of the evening going badly. A little nip to bolster the nerves, fine. More than that and you're tempting the fates. This is especially true if any (or all) of the three have never experienced a threesome.
6. Remain flexible. Everything is going well and then someone mentions -- well, it could be any number of things, some of which you may have fantasized about doing and some of which may disgust you. Experimentation is the key in a threesome, especially as the solo individual, but if you're uncomfortable with what is suggested, just take a pass and encourage them to enjoy in your presence. After all, having you watch for a short time could be as much of a thrill as sharing you (or taking turns with you).
7. If possible, teach each of them something. We all like to think we're exceptional lovers but, like real life, we should never stop learning. If it is their first threesome, they're probably going to be so blown away by watching you with the other (and/or joining in) that they won't be studying technique. It doesn't hurt to offer a subtle suggestion ("See how much she/he likes it when I [fill in the blank]") or ask each to describe precisely what they enjoy. They'll love you for it.
8. Enjoy.
Joining a couple
My wife an I recenly had our first experience with another woman, one of her good friends. It was an amazing experience, and she still tells my wife how much she enjoyed being with us.
I know you are looking for advice from women who have joined couples. Our situation may help you. It was not myself or my wife that arranged our threesome. Her friend had always had the fantasy of being with a married couple. My wife is a true bi-sexual and is extremely open about her sexuality. Eventually, this helped her friend become comfortable enough to bring up her own sexual ideas, and her married couple fantasy. Over the course of 3 months, my wife and her friend talked about the idea. They created "ground rules", talked about what they would like to do during our threesome, etc. They planned it to the detail, shopping for lingerie together, booking a classy hotel for the big night. When the night came, we set up about 30 candles in the hotel room, lit some incence, and had one incredible night. There were no bad feelings, and they are still good friends. We are not swingers or anything, and that was the only time we did anything like that. It was beautiful! We can give you some real life advice if you want any, just send an email or post another thread.
My wife an I recenly had our first experience with another woman, one of her good friends. It was an amazing experience, and she still tells my wife how much she enjoyed being with us.
I know you are looking for advice from women who have joined couples. Our situation may help you. It was not myself or my wife that arranged our threesome. Her friend had always had the fantasy of being with a married couple. My wife is a true bi-sexual and is extremely open about her sexuality. Eventually, this helped her friend become comfortable enough to bring up her own sexual ideas, and her married couple fantasy. Over the course of 3 months, my wife and her friend talked about the idea. They created "ground rules", talked about what they would like to do during our threesome, etc. They planned it to the detail, shopping for lingerie together, booking a classy hotel for the big night. When the night came, we set up about 30 candles in the hotel room, lit some incence, and had one incredible night. There were no bad feelings, and they are still good friends. We are not swingers or anything, and that was the only time we did anything like that. It was beautiful! We can give you some real life advice if you want any, just send an email or post another thread.
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