Jealousy... :)

[cuminmywife69]

So,

I have this fetish. Most would blindly group me as a cuckold, but honestly, I don't see it as such. My wife and I enjoy a very active sex life with each other. We fuck daily, often a few times daily, we both make each other cum and more importantly we love each other (not to get too mushy, but that's important).

However... I cannot begin to tell you how hard my cock gets when I even think about her in another man's arms. I'm not even talking about a quick fuck and he's gone. I mean, watching him touch her intimately, his hands stroking her, exploring her. It's forbidden, taboo, and I cannot get enough.

The first thing that happens is this twinge in my stomach. I know it well. It's a mixture of emotions from jealousy, excitement, apprehension, nervousness, and immense euphoria. If I had to describe it, keeping in mind that this is a mild description, it's like being on a roller coaster for the first time. My heart is beating out of my chest. Part of me is telling me I'm absolutely crazy for doing this, but a bigger part of me is screaming, encouraging me to get on and never look back.

The jealousy is my favorite part and it's not about humiliation. I love feeling like he's doing things to her that I've never done before, making her scream like I've never heard her scream and at the end of the night, it's always the motivating factor in making me fuck her harder than I ever have. (she loves that part.)

The jealousy also comes from watching him enjoy my wife. Watching as nothing else matters to him, but her and pleasing her body. I love watching him kiss her. Watching how intimate they can be. Finally I love watching him fill her body with as much cum as his balls hold. In fact, it's even hotter to watch them cuddle afterwards. On ocassion I've been known to slip between them and lick them both, loving the taste of their sexual high.

Anyway.. that's my fetish.

 

[rbone04]

What you're describing here is exactly cuckoldry. You say you "don't see it as such" but that's what it is.

 

[policywank]

What you're describing here is exactly cuckoldry. You say you "don't see it as such" but that's what it is.

Exactly, or at least based upon the modern fetish definition of cuckold.

There is nothing wrong with it - whether you pursue the reality or just indulge the fantasy enjoy it for what it is.

Saying this isn't cuckoldry is like the guys who say they want to suck a cock but aren't bisexual. That makes no logical sense. I think the "hang-up" is that we are sometimes hardwired to see certain things as automatically negative. But that is just the result of insecure or narrow-minded people constantly trying to tell us what is and isn't acceptable. Just because the people who oppose wife sharing or bisexuality speak the loudest doesn't validate their perspective. Rather than debating the application of the label we can all just refuse to accept its negative connotation.

A cuckold can be a strong secure man (and a good lover) that simply puts his wife's satisfaction ahead of his own ingrained biases and other people's judgement.

 

[KinkyGAGuy]

In my opinion, just learn to enjoy it all. If it gets you off that other men make love to her, so be it. So what that you enjoy eating her creampie, or sucking the other man's cock. I guess my point is, does it have to have a label?

I mean, come on. There are way to many people in this world that will not allow themselves to let go and enjoy things. If you and your partner are happy and ok with whatever the situation is, god bless you! We are humans, we were meant to explore different things.

Just my 2 cents

 

[Harold_Hill]

You are right, what you described is not really cuckold. Being cuckold usually involves some form of humiliation, and denial of sex by the man's wife. What you're describing is not as unusual as you might think, in fact, even though most men cannot deal with the thought of their wife being with another man, it is a normal male reaction. When you think of your wife being with another man, (particularly if she is having sex openly in front of you), it triggers your instinct to compete for the woman you want/love. When this instinct, (jealousy), is triggered, it releases a large amount of adrenaline, and an adrenaline rush can become addictive. In a sense, (and very simple terms), you become addicted to your emotion of jealousy, which makes you want to prove to your wife that you are the better lover.

The more you think about, (or watch), your wife being pleasure by another man, the more aroused you become, and the more willing you become to do whatever it takes to prove that you are the better lover. The more jealous you become, the more aroused you become, and the more aroused you become, the more addicted you become to the sexual high it produces. As long as your wife is committed to and loves you, (and not the other man), it is not a harmful addiction/fetish; rather, it is a very intense way of having sex with your wife. If the wife loves the other man, (causing her to deny her husband sex), then the husband becomes cuckold. The difference between what you describe and cuckold is in the emotional dynamics of the woman/wife.

 

[elaine34]

you sound exactly like my husband.
our sex-play often involves this fantasy and he loves it!

 

[bill3901]

you sound exactly like my husband.
our sex-play often involves this fantasy and he loves it!

Yeah, I don't see that point of being jealous, I like hearing about my wife getting fucked...

 

[cuminmywife69]

You are right, what you described is not really cuckold. Being cuckold usually involves some form of humiliation, and denial of sex by the man's wife. What you're describing is not as unusual as you might think, in fact, even though most men cannot deal with the thought of their wife being with another man, it is a normal male reaction. When you think of your wife being with another man, (particularly if she is having sex openly in front of you), it triggers your instinct to compete for the woman you want/love. When this instinct, (jealousy), is triggered, it releases a large amount of adrenaline, and an adrenaline rush can become addictive. In a sense, (and very simple terms), you become addicted to your emotion of jealousy, which makes you want to prove to your wife that you are the better lover.

The more you think about, (or watch), your wife being pleasure by another man, the more aroused you become, and the more willing you become to do whatever it takes to prove that you are the better lover. The more jealous you become, the more aroused you become, and the more aroused you become, the more addicted you become to the sexual high it produces. As long as your wife is committed to and loves you, (and not the other man), it is not a harmful addiction/fetish; rather, it is a very intense way of having sex with your wife. If the wife loves the other man, (causing her to deny her husband sex), then the husband becomes cuckold. The difference between what you describe and cuckold is in the emotional dynamics of the woman/wife.

Well said! My wife has the same festish that I do. She loves that high from watching me with another woman, then sinking her pussy on my cock and milking me hard until I cum deep within her.

 

[DocLuck]

You are right, what you described is not really cuckold. Being cuckold usually involves some form of humiliation, and denial of sex by the man's wife.

I don't agree that denial of sex for the husband is part of the definition of cuckoldry.

There's an element of evolutionary adaptation here, too. The head of the human penis is shaped to push your rival's semen out of the vagina. If your wife has sex with another man, your genes will want you to immediately have sex with her too. Hence, in your mind, she will suddenly become VERY sexually appealing.

My wife and I have made this a reality in our lives, and it has been wonderful for both of us. We wish we had started years ago.

 

[Somehowyou]

Who knows what cuckoldry means anymore. It is silly to argue about what the exact definition is.

All I know that someone having sex with my wife or girl friend and it isn't me...it causes a pit in my stomach. It hurts so good. I am instantly aroused and full of so many emotions and not all are good. I all of a sudden want my lover back. I will do anything to get her back and no one else will do.

Sometimes I don't appreciate a woman until someone else wants her. We want what we can't have.

I am a broken fucking record but all this wife watching is counter intuitive. i don't understand it but I know that it is so.

 

[policywank]

The definition of the word "cuckold" comes from an era when it was inconceivable that a wife having sex with another man was not humiliating to the husband. She was assumed to be deceitful because it was unthinkable that her husband condoned such activity.

There is nothing in the definition that requires her extramarital activities to involve humiliation or deceit. That is simply historical context. And there is nothing in the definition that entails her denying sex to her husband. The modern fetish context is still evolving and in the historical context one would logically assume that she would have continued sex with her husband in order to avoid suspicion and any questions of paternity.

But as the post above me notes.....who the fuck cares. If you enjoy your wife fucking other guys or like having a cock in your mouth but only if you can attach or avoid certain labels you clearly haven't come to grips with your desires.

 

[KinkStevens]

Great Cuckold fetish

A great fetish, friend!

 

[Harold_Hill]

There has to be some kind of universal definition, or else how would you tell anyone what your fetish is, and expect them to know what you are talking about?

 

[policywank]

There has to be some kind of universal definition, or else how would you tell anyone what your fetish is, and expect them to know what you are talking about?

Within fetish and alternative lifestyles there as many variations as there are couples.

To the extent that definitions help convey a given perspective I think it is better that they be somewhat open and inclusive. Otherwise you need a thousand definitions or we are implicitly judging and labelling everyone.

I have sex with other men but my husband doesn't have sex with other women and I am dominant in the relationship. That doesn't seem to me to be consistent with the terminology of "open relationship" or "swingers". Personally I think of that as "hot wife/cuckold". Should the fact that I choose not to indulge in humiliating him or deny him sex be the deciding factor? I guess we could go with "wife led" but that doesn't speak to the sexual asymmetry which seems to me to be a more defining characteristic than humiliation or denial.

What constitutes humiliation? Is it determined by the husband's feelings or does the wife need to rub it on his face. Does the other man have to be bigger or otherwise sexually superior?

Is a hot wife/cuckold relationship automatically wife led? Maybe the sexual asymmetry is mutual agreed and she doesn't play a leadership role at all.

In the absence of umpteen definitions and the ever present grammar police it seems to me that the most logical approach is to use the closest reasonable definition and everyone else stop trying to narrow it down or tell each other what we are.

 

[Harold_Hill]

I have sex with other men but my husband doesn't have sex with other women and I am dominant in the relationship. That doesn't seem to me to be consistent with the terminology of "open relationship" or "swingers". Personally I think of that as "hot wife/cuckold". Should the fact that I choose not to indulge in humiliating him or deny him sex be the deciding factor? I guess we could go with "wife led" but that doesn't speak to the sexual asymmetry which seems to me to be a more defining characteristic than humiliation or denial.

What constitutes humiliation? Is it determined by the husband's feelings or does the wife need to rub it on his face. Does the other man have to be bigger or otherwise sexually superior?

A wife who has cuckold her husband doesn't always deny him sex; however, humiliation is almost always part of a cuckold marriage/relationship, even when neither the wife nor her lover is the source of the humiliation. If the husband's male friend's, family or coworkers should find out that his wife openly keeps a lover with full knowledge of the husband, and he accepts it without protest, he would be less respected by his peers and most likely become the butt of their jokes. And being disrespected and made the butt of jokes is humiliating to any man. The humiliation doesn't necessarily come from the wife or her lover, but more often from the husband's peers.

 

[FantasySharer1]

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[policywank]

A wife who has cuckold her husband doesn't always deny him sex; however, humiliation is almost always part of a cuckold marriage/relationship, even when neither the wife nor her lover is the source of the humiliation. If the husband's male friend's, family or coworkers should find out that his wife openly keeps a lover with full knowledge of the husband, and he accepts it without protest, he would be less respected by his peers and most likely become the butt of their jokes. And being disrespected and made the butt of jokes is humiliating to any man. The humiliation doesn't necessarily come from the wife or her lover, but more often from the husband's peers.

There is no reason other people have to know and humiliation is something you feel, not something others can impose upon you.

I agree that because of the way men are conditioned they will almost always feel some degree of humiliation whether or not the situation is widely know. But the key is the word almost. The fact that most cuckolds feel some degree of humiliation isn't the same as humiliation being an integral part of the definition. The rare man who doesn't feel that humiliation is still a cuckold.

 

[wife40uk]

Natural

You are a natural Cuckold, Just embrace it

 

[cuminmywife69]

Honestly, I just wanted to share my fetish, not spark a debate. I don't think it really warrants a label. I love watching my wife be sexual with other men, in turn, my wife loves that same feeling I get when she's watching me with another woman.

So let's keep it to discussing if you have that similar fetish and leave the debate for another topic.

 

[justplanejessi]

And being disrespected and made the butt of jokes is humiliating to any man.

Unless he has balls, and doesn't give a fuck about what others think of him.

 

[DarkPleasures]

Unless he has balls, and doesn't give a fuck about what others think of him.

What kind of plane are you, jessi? Jet engine? Bi-plane? Twin propeller?

 

[quietlylooking]

So,

However... I cannot begin to tell you how hard my cock gets when I even think about her in another man's arms. I'm not even talking about a quick fuck and he's gone. I mean, watching him touch her intimately, his hands stroking her, exploring her. It's forbidden, taboo, and I cannot get enough.

The first thing that happens is this twinge in my stomach. I know it well. It's a mixture of emotions from jealousy, excitement, apprehension, nervousness, and immense euphoria. If I had to describe it, keeping in mind that this is a mild description, it's like being on a roller coaster for the first time. My heart is beating out of my chest. Part of me is telling me I'm absolutely crazy for doing this, but a bigger part of me is screaming, encouraging me to get on and never look back.

The jealousy is my favorite part and it's not about humiliation.

I have experienced this (from the woman's perspective) too, and it took me a while to realize it wasn't the stereotypical cuckold thing at all. It doesn't have to be about humiliation at all. The man can be very dominant.