i've given in...

[MWG]

i MUST have a Dom. i will go absolutely APESHIT without one.

<sighs>

 

[MissTaken]

Oh, I can completely relate to that remark!

 

[MWG]

Oh, I can completely relate to that remark!

i'm glad SOMEone can!

 

[snoozebutton]

Are you sure, we complain a LOT, are spoiled, require "help" washing certain parts of our bodies, are pushy, are choosey with how you dress and appear, like to play with toys but we do smile when we are pleased.

 

[Chicklet]

i MUST have a Dom. i will go absolutely APESHIT without one.

<sighs>

i know how you feel

sucks when you're boyfriend just *isn't* into kink *at all*

at least i have a man of some sort, though, right?

 

[Desdemona]

Are you sure, we complain a LOT, are spoiled, require "help" washing certain parts of our bodies, are pushy, are choosey with how you dress and appear, like to play with toys but we do smile when we are pleased.

I love to see your smile.

 

[kayte]

Are you sure, we complain a LOT, are spoiled, require "help" washing certain parts of our bodies, are pushy, are choosey with how you dress and appear, like to play with toys but we do smile when we are pleased.

And that smile of yours is it.


Hi there Des *hugs*

 

[A Desert Rose]

You might try the Lit personals if you are desperate for a spanking.

This kind of thread is not the usual way of finding a Dom.

 

[Lancecastor]

Perhaps I should post some exercizes & instructions for the Domless to do in their spare time....you know, just to keep their moving parts lubricated for when a new IRLD cums along.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Perhaps I should post some exercizes & instructions for the Domless to do in their spare time....you know, just to keep their moving parts lubricated for when a new IRLD cums along.

Yes, please do start a thread about that. I obviously need something to keep me busy right now.

 

[Richard49]

I am on that fence post of either finind a submissive
(and I have no idea where)
or
giving up for ever any realtionship

So I guess I can relate to those that were honest here
about there needs ...........

 

[Richard49]

i MUST have a Dom. i will go absolutely APESHIT without one.

<sighs>

Your profile says you are married

 

[FungiUg]

i MUST have a Dom. i will go absolutely APESHIT without one.

<sighs>

Nup. No cravings for a Dom or even Domme here. Wonder why?

 

[MWG]

Re: Re: i've given in...

Nup. No cravings for a Dom or even Domme here. Wonder why?

Maybe because You ARE a Dom/me?

Just a guess...

 

[FungiUg]

Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

Maybe because You ARE a Dom/me?

Just a guess...

Oh shit! You're right! (Throws away g-string and frilly apron in relief)

 

[MWG]

Re: Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

Oh shit! You're right! (Throws away g-string and frilly apron in relief)

LMAO... hey, don't throw those away, You! *I* might need them!

 

[FungiUg]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

LMAO... hey, don't throw those away, You! *I* might need them!

The frilly apron you can have, but unless you like wearing g's around your ankles, it's not gonna be of much use to you.

So how does wanting a dominant fit in with your marriage? Do you have an open relationship? Just looking for a cyber dominant? The marriage is breaking up and this time you are looking for a dominant partner? Or wanting a real life dominant and going to do it without your partner knowing about it?

 

[MWG]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

The frilly apron you can have, but unless you like wearing g's around your ankles, it's not gonna be of much use to you.

So how does wanting a dominant fit in with your marriage? Do you have an open relationship? Just looking for a cyber dominant? The marriage is breaking up and this time you are looking for a dominant partner? Or wanting a real life dominant and going to do it without your partner knowing about it?

For right now, a cyber dominant. I have an open relationship with my husband, but only with women (to satisfy my bisexuality), and I do not wish to have a female dominant. I'd love it if I could coax him from the "vanillality", but I don't know how well that would work out for either of us, to be honest.

 

[FungiUg]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

For right now, a cyber dominant. I have an open relationship with my husband, but only with women (to satisfy my bisexuality), and I do not wish to have a female dominant. I'd love it if I could coax him from the "vanillality", but I don't know how well that would work out for either of us, to be honest.

Well, a cyber dominant sounds doable. Have you posted ad ad for one in the singles thingie here?

With your husband, have you tried bondage sessions? Getting him to tie you up and so on. It's a good start to seeing if he likes being physically dominant.

 

[MWG]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

Well, a cyber dominant sounds doable. Have you posted ad ad for one in the singles thingie here?

With your husband, have you tried bondage sessions? Getting him to tie you up and so on. It's a good start to seeing if he likes being physically dominant.

It is merely a feeling I get that being a Dominant would be too much of a power trip with my husband... he has a very alpha personality. Bondage is one aspect of the lifestyle that I like. More so, I like the idea of someone else kind of... for lack of better term, looking out for me in even daily aspects of my life. Sometimes it makes me look at our marriage awkwardly, but I would not be comfortable with his dominating everyday aspects of my life. I don't understand why. It's just something I know, knowing both myself and my husband well.

I am actually regretful that I posted this thread because it really does leave me open to predation... almost as if I solicited myself to openly. I don't think that the personals thing would be right for me. However, I may give it a try.

 

[FungiUg]

Are we a particularly predatory bunch? I've got entirely the wrong gender and role to know, methinks.

I think you have a bit of a quandary with your husband. If he's "alpha", then he'd probably take to domination like a fish to a bicycle... er, water. So sounds like you need to do some serious thinking about why you don't want him in that role for you.

Is it a trust issue? Scared of making significant changes that could escalate out of control?

A marriage does become a fairly cruicial part of life (when you are married, that is). And having to work around rather than with a marriage is very awkward.

 

[Merelan]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

Sometimes it makes me look at our marriage awkwardly, but I would not be comfortable with his dominating everyday aspects of my life. I don't understand why. It's just something I know, knowing both myself and my husband well.

Pardon my snipping a piece of your post.

Let me introduce myself. I am an old timer here at Lit. Married, to two men and have a wonderful Mistress love whom I shall probably never get to live with. I live here in the States and she in Germany.
sigh..

But... even if I didn't have her, and wanted a Dom of the male gender, it would not be either man I am married too. I love them, respect them. Worship, adore, cherish and cannot possibly think of living without.

Here's the but....

neither of them interest me in a Dom way. Nope. They aren't the type, though we have tried. I laugh when they did. That usually is not a good thing, laughing at your Dom. Our relationship is not built on that.

Not that we are strictly vanilla, obviously. But it isn't what I crave, what I hunger for in my heart of hearts.

So, that was the long, drawn out way of saying I know what you meant about your husband. He is not the Dom for you, as mine aren't for me.

 

[sirhugs]

too bad "nowhere" is so vast- here I sit in the middle of nowhere, MsT is just the other side, but alas, we can't merge our desires.... distance sux

 

[MWG]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: i've given in...

Here's the but....

neither of them interest me in a Dom way. Nope. They aren't the type, though we have tried. I laugh when they did. That usually is not a good thing, laughing at your Dom. Our relationship is not built on that.

Not that we are strictly vanilla, obviously. But it isn't what I crave, what I hunger for in my heart of hearts.

So, that was the long, drawn out way of saying I know what you meant about your husband. He is not the Dom for you, as mine aren't for me.

Absolutely, 100% correct! His trying to Dominate me just didn't work. We've dabbled; I just don't see him in that way. I know Doms are supposed to be caring, looking out for the sub, as WELL as firm and disciplining- but his trying to take a firm hand with me just provokes laughter. He is almost farcical in his discipline, and that's not what I need. I need someone who can make me SHUDDER and CRAVE his commands. I need "that tone" that just sends blood to "those parts" whenever he orders me to do something.

My husband is just not capable. Hands down. As much as I love him, he's not the Dom type.

 

[FungiUg]

Interesting.

Well, I guess you will have the, er, "fun" of integrating a Dom into your life, once you find one for you. Maybe just post some personals and see how it goes.

Best of luck!