I've been tossing around the idea of starting...

[BlueSugar]

a Munch in my area.

I spent these past few days throwing it around in my head, and I think I could do it. I looked up the Munchs in my area, and they are just so so far away and some of them have even disbanded a long bit ago.

I'm not on Yahoo and don't have access to their boards, so, in your boredom and browsing and conversations, would any of you mind poking around in your own resources and ask if people in Vermont in the ( poultney, castleton, rutland, fair haven, st. catherine, bombosine, killington, burlington areas ... ) are interested or the New York (granville, ft. edward, ft. anne, comstock, whitehall... areas...) want one or two.

I'm up there in the middle of those two areas, and as far as my research has found... there is nothing, except in burlington and that is a looooooooong haul for me in the winter and the mountain roads etc, so I wouldn't make the once a month deal bc of my schedule/roads and my confidence in driving them. Killington closed theirs, I was in contact with a few people on some lists I found and they're down as well.
But I'm not as good at all this key word / people search as some of ya'll are.
Just if you're bored, and have time to kill, search around see if you can find things that I haven't.



Is it best to have it at some restaurant type deal?
What times have you found are the best to meet... in general ?
Are there ice breakers to do to get people to talk to one another?
What about age gaps, how to best deal with them?

I was thinking of setting up a little website guest book, simple to find and get hits webpage and even advertise through Lit and other BDSM friendly places. Make a free email account to keep most of my identity safe while people contact me to find out when and where and such... I've poked around as I said before in the BDSM Library, and I have found some very good stuff. But I just want to feel more confident in it and see if I'm in over my head... (and if this needs to be moved to the main BDSM forum, please do so... )

so.. what ya'll think?

 

[PhoenixPrime01]

I hope these will be helpful Sugar. If an Old and Venerable Master can be of further assistance just PM and ask. If time allows I'll try.

I used this to web search and here are some URLS from the first page of possibles.

Munches in VT was what I used to search in Google.

Here are some to check out. I didn't read them all just looked to be sure that VT was included:

http://www.bdsbbs.com/munches.htm -- Killington, VT

http://www.cufsmaine.org/munches.htm

http://www.cufsmaine.org/listserv.htm

http://lauragoodwin.org/clubs.html

www.FetishFriendly.com – suggestions for starting a Munch

http://www.sensuoussadie.com/resources/regionalevents.htm

PP

 

[BlueSugar]

I hope these will be helpful Sugar. If an Old and Venerable Master can be of further assistance just PM and ask. If time allows I'll try.

I used this to web search and here are some URLS from the first page of possibles.

Munches in VT was what I used to search in Google.

Here are some to check out. I didn't read them all just looked to be sure that VT was included:

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PP

I ran into those as well. I've sent emails a months weeks ago, I sent another round just an hour or so ago and I'll see where it takes me. Thank you for the help !!
I did a few free hand searches, and then did a little googleing and ended up in the same places... I think that is it, as far as my areas are concerned.

 

[PhoenixPrime01]

That could be.

Did you look at the one for suggestions on starting your area Munch?

 

[BlueSugar]

That could be.

Did you look at the one for suggestions on starting your area Munch?

It was a dead link.

 

[PhoenixPrime01]

Now that sucks, and not in the good and fun way either.

 

[BlueSugar]

77 views and 6 posts? aw c'mon people, I don't bite


... unless asked

 

[LadyNatasha]

How to organize a Munch

 

[PhoenixPrime01]

Not even gently when told to do so Sugar? *leer and wink*

 

[shy slave]

I think setting up your own munch or even think ing about it is a great and brave move {{{HUGS}}}

Sadly its a bit to far for me to travel to

A bit more than a few moutain roads to contend with.
If you go ahead with setting it up would enjoy reading the success and pitfalss you meet so please keep posting on your progress
I guess I am a voyeur of conceptions lol

 

[catalina_francisco]

Go for it Blue. Sometimes it takes someone like you to take up an idea like this and make it happen, and often there are plenty who want it but not many willing to do it. I did a similar thing a few years back by setting up a GLBT group in a highly publicised homophobic (complete with high gay bashing stats) district.

I had politicians who supported the idea (secretly), and one who even though he was gay threatened to make me sorry for going ahead with it....then I was told by the university they thought I should drop the idea and just let someone else worry about the people needing it in that area. The last straw was when I was visited by 2 lesbian workers from another district who wanted to personally deliver their message of how it would not work (because I was including all sexuality groups with no gender or age barriers), and how they would strongly recommend I give it a miss instead of failing like they had in their own area.

LOL, well that just made me more determined to go ahead. I arranged appropriate publicity, found people to promote it in the gay network, ensured it was safe for those who came to meetings, and gave members the power to decide what the group would be for them. It worked and I became known even in other states for what I had done, and yet I had really thought it was not going to be that important outside our little group which grew and grew. We moved forward into having guest speakers at least once a month on aspects of safety, law, health, and a variety of lifestyle issues including SM and gender reassignment. The group continued even after I handed it over totally to the locals, and made an impact on many lives. So go for it and keep us posted please.

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[BlueSugar]

many set backs but here is some light...

After a few days/months of lost emails I came across a person who fwd me to another and they fwd me to another... after about 6 of these I found this person who sent me this:

Hi. I just got back from S_________n. Need to do some paperwork and then I am off to M_________r until 9:30 PM.

You sound like what I have been looking for. Our munch died. I have been running a Meet and Greet, because like you I am interested in having somewhere where people can meet someone real, rather than the computer thing which is fraught with danger. I could really use someone to co-host the thing with me. We didn't get many takers, so I ran it every other month. In October there were 6 people who came. In December I sat alone......... Of course you can blame it on Christmas shopping etc. The next Meet and Greet is set for the third Wednesday in February, the 16th. And I hope you will be there.

I was in P______y yesterday. I live in D___y, 16 miles from P_______y.

There are many activities out side our area, which I would attend if I had some to travel with me. In Albany, Burlington and Montreal...

I'll write some more tonight after I get home.

From _______

I'm so excited!!! I hope it is just people who are shy that just don't come out - and that our under populated area holds fellow kinksters ... and not that there aren't any !!!!!!!

Hopefully this will be good, and I hope he doesn't end up being a creap. He mentions the internet being a dangerous place, but I haven't been outside my safe little "i can put you on ignore" internet.

 

[BlueSugar]

OMG and its in a place I refuse to go in bc I hate buffets, ya never know with that food. How funny is that? I am in the area once a week AND I jsut wasn't on the list. There are about 20 people, its just no one comes out for whatever reason or he says he averages 0-6 people.
I am trying to not get too excited incase something goes wrong. I really want to get my fingers on that contact list.

edit to add:

AND he is in and out of my area like no tomorrow. Swims in the pool twice a week early this year and stops in to the coffee house we have .. and and and even attended a few local random events. I could have met him and never known. There is a large age difference, I hope he doesn't look down his nose at me bc of age. I've got till feb to prove myself at least! ::dances:: !!!!!!

 

[wicked girl]

Is it best to have it at some restaurant type deal?
What times have you found are the best to meet... in general ?

hiyas, just read this thread. i did not go to the links for the munches yet, but i do have some experience with attending them.

there is a munch that is in ohio and though it has always been awesome, there seems to be a clash of personalities when it comes to deciding where to meet.
for a while, it was in a bar... but too many people showed up with too much play wear and we were asked to move on. so, in my personal opinion, if you do start a munch, it should be stated from the beginning if it will be in a vanilla setting with no play wear or is youll be finding a public dungeon to hold your meet and greets.

for this group, the best time to meet was on a friday night between 7-11 p. after that time, certain clicks of people would leave and go to other bars /homes together.

the age differences were vast and it seemed to make little difference to all involved.

a happy group all the same.
wg~