It's Time To Start Healing

[Bob Peale]

Over the last few days, as a country, and more importantly, as a community, we have experienced a tragic, tragic loss.

Everyone has suffered in their own way, whether you lived in New York or Washington or Kansas or New Zealand or Canada. While the direct impact may have varied, the overall sense of despair has not.

As a result, many of the interactions on the board have suffered. Tempers have been short, and in our need for information we have focused an inordinate amount of time on continuing to perpetuate the negative aspects of this crisis, to report on all the bad that is happening. Things that have always been quickly irritate, and people have drawn lines that are counterproductive.

Let's remember that we are the same group of people that have helped one another through shitty days at work, pregnancies, divorces, marriages, births, deaths, relocation, estrangement, first dates, third dates, and root canals.

Our depth of understanding for each others' pain is unsurpassed, and countless times we've expressed our love for one another.

We need that love now.

Be sensitive. Find the humor. Think a minute before you open the scab and start the pain and bleeding again. We need to be able to laugh again. And flirt. And ogle. We need to rebuild our lives and nourish our souls.

The important thing, as basic as it may sound, is that we ARE still here. And we need to help one another move on.

Peace.

 

[Shylady]

Once again Bob you have just the right words for the moment.


Now about those ice cubes

 

[Merelan]

You have ice cubes? Can you show me what to do with them. Bob, you don't mind do you?

 

[Shylady]

Well if Bob volunteers his body, then I don't mind showing you

 

[Bob Peale]

Oh hell, the sacrifices I make

Well, if you must...

 

[Merelan]

woohoo

 

[Merelan]

Skootching closer and waiting..... Bob, consider it your patriotic duty.

 

[Shylady]

Well first you have to get really close to your victim... ummm subject.

Then you apply the ice right there... with your mouth



There now see what reaction that gets?

 

[luv2tvl69]

Then you apply the ice right there... with your mouth

Wait, let me get the ice bucket...
(no offense or disrespect meant)

 

[Shylady]

ice bucket? the mind boggles at the amount of ice in one of those.

 

[Cheyenne]

Everyone handles things their own way. Personally, I'm not ready yet for laughter and flirting. I think there are more bad things to come. I think WAR is ahead of us. I just don't feel light hearted at all. I don't know that I will for a long time.

 

[batter]

Bob Peale

i agree with what you have posted.
people must start getting on with their lives.
you cannot let a group of aggressors hold a country hostage through fear which is how they thrive.
as president busth said yesterday, people need to move on. get out and eat at a restaurant, go to see a movie, go shopping.
the logic is simple and very true.

Cheyenne...my heart goes to you and everyone, but, if the president decides to go to war, there is nothing you or i or anyone else could do about it. we could only support that idea.we cannot worry if war will break out or not. personally, i dont believe it will.

in all of this tragedy, we cannot let ourselves be dragged down to the point where everyone starts to become clinically depressed and affect our personal lives and health. there is nothing wrong with grieving and mourning at such times, but
people getting on with their regular lives will only show the agressors that the will of the american people is greater.

 

[Bob Peale]

Well said Batter!

 

[Nighthunter]

May i watch? or better yet, be a subject of this study?

 

[stargazer76]

*setting up my lawn chair*

I'm just going to sit over here and innocently munch on my popcorn. Don't mind me....

 

[Bob Peale]

Re: *setting up my lawn chair*

I'm just going to sit over here and innocently munch on my popcorn. Don't mind me....

Exactly WHAT have you ever done "innocently", SG?

 

[stargazer76]

*thinking*

Ummm, can I get back to you on that, Bob?

 

[Bob Peale]

Re: *thinking*

Ummm, can I get back to you on that, Bob?

LOL!

 

[stargazer76]

Did I say something funny?

 

[Debbie]

Quote from Bob Peale
"It's Time To Start Healing
Over the last few days, as a country, and more importantly, as a community, we have experienced a tragic, tragic loss.

Everyone has suffered in their own way, whether you lived in New York or Washington or Kansas or New Zealand or Canada. While the direct impact may have varied, the overall sense of despair has not.

As a result, many of the interactions on the board have suffered. Tempers have been short, and in our need for information we have focused an inordinate amount of time on continuing to perpetuate the negative aspects of this crisis, to report on all the bad that is happening. Things that have always been quickly irritate, and people have drawn lines that are counterproductive.

Let's remember that we are the same group of people that have helped one another through shitty days at work, pregnancies, divorces, marriages, births, deaths, relocation, estrangement, first dates, third dates, and root canals.

Our depth of understanding for each others' pain is unsurpassed, and countless times we've expressed our love for one another.

We need that love now.

Be sensitive. Find the humor. Think a minute before you open the scab and start the pain and bleeding again. We need to be able to laugh again. And flirt. And ogle. We need to rebuild our lives and nourish our souls.

The important thing, as basic as it may sound, is that we ARE still here. And we need to help one another move on.

Peace."

Quote by Batter
"Bob Peale
i agree with what you have posted.
people must start getting on with their lives.
you cannot let a group of aggressors hold a country hostage through fear which is how they thrive.
as president bush said yesterday, people need to move on. get out and eat at a restaurant, go to see a movie, go shopping.
the logic is simple and very true.

Cheyenne...my heart goes to you and everyone, but, if the president decides to go to war, there is nothing you or i or anyone else could do about it. we could only support that idea.we cannot worry if war will break out or not. personally, i dont believe it will.

In all of this tragedy, we cannot let ourselves be dragged down to the point where everyone starts to become clinically depressed and affect our personal lives and health. there is nothing wrong with grieving and mourning at such times, but
people getting on with their regular lives will only show the agressors that the will of the american people is greater."


There is so much pain, fear and grief. We are such a great people here who visit Lit. I have found such amazing people at Lit. People who are supportive to those who need it, so many have been so helpful to Lit members like Nobody special and nobody special's wife during their sad time. Normally i don't get involved in the 'heavy' threads but now is when we all need each other most.

Nothing I say can heal the pain, loss and grief of the last few days but I truly hope that I can help us see that when we stand united the terrorists have not achieved their goal of dividing America or creating continuing upheaval. Show them a united front of people from all walks of life, differing opinions etc but one stance in particular, "We will not tolerate violence as a means of proving a point."
America may need to show it's strength to 'wipe' out an international threat to freedom. But individually we, as free speaking individual's may not agree with this action. Free speech and a democratic society entitles us all to say what we think. Some believe in 'action speaks louder than words', others think that, 'turning the other cheek' may work. Each to their own.
I am a New Zealander, a kiwi, proud of my heritage and country. i do not fully comprehend the pain and horror that has been visited upon America because I have not personally experienced it myself. I have only watched, helpless, on my tv screen as the terrible tragedy unfolded. Staring in shock and disbelief, blinking and hoping this was all a nightmare and that I would wake up to find that this had not happened.
But as a fellow human being and kind soul I have cried many tears, felt anger and grief at the loss of so many innocent lives. But if we fight and quibble amongst ourselves we continue the terrorists work for them. To destroy and create dissension.
We are all human, unique and different. Divided we are weak, united we are strong.

 

[Debbie]

*bump*

 

[Chuckus]

I feel like I have gone thru hell and back these past few days. The grieving is not over for me, or for any of us IMHO.

Personally I have gone from being confused, mad, angry, sad and hateful...........to where I am today. Which is reflective. I am trying to cope with this terrible terrible tragedy. I was mad yesterday, and am still quite mad but also very level headed (more so than in the past few days).

I want justice. But I want justice served to those who committed this crime against humanity. Against Freedom. Against Democracy. Against all free people of the world.

We must think before we act. We must not rush to judgement. The US is the Police force of the world, whether anyone likes it or not. We did not choose this, nor did we turn away from it. We must exercise prudence and care. Innocent people have died already, more innocent people will die (unfortunately) but we must insure that as few people who are innocent die as possible.

Justice will be served eventually...........in the end Good will prevail and those who committed this crime will be punished.

 

[Debbie]

Quote by Chuckus
"The grieving is not over for me, or for any of us IMHO.

Personally I have gone from being confused, mad, angry, sad and hateful...........to where I am today. Which is reflective. I am trying to cope with this terrible terrible tragedy. I was mad yesterday, and am still quite mad but also very level headed (more so than in the past few days).

I want justice. But I want justice served to those who committed this crime against humanity. Against Freedom. Against Democracy. Against all free people of the world.

We must think before we act. We must not rush to judgement. The US is the Police force of the world, whether anyone likes it or not. We did not choose this, nor did we turn away from it. We must exercise prudence and care. Innocent people have died already, more innocent people will die (unfortunately) but we must insure that as few people who are innocent die as possible."

I agree with this Chuckus, wholeheartedly. (Except for the hateful thing, blame my extreme religious upbringing, I cannot find hate in my being)
As a New Zealander, I am 'safe' in my small country with it's nuclear free policies and being a 'pimple' on the ass (lol) of the world we are no threat to any of the bigger countries! BUT I need to know that justice will be served. How many people have been found guilty of crimes and yet years later found that they are innocent. America (aka Mr. Bush and his many associates are the 'experts'. They WILL track down the terrorists and hand out the 'necessary' punishment.)

 

[Debbie]

*bump* shamelessly bumping before i go to bed (late) in the hope that this will be read by many

 

[Cheyenne]

Everyone handles things their own way. Personally, I'm not ready yet for laughter and flirting. I think there are more bad things to come. I think WAR is ahead of us. I just don't feel light hearted at all. I don't know that I will for a long time.

I've smiled a few times in the last two days, but this is still basically how I feel. I don't even have any desire to open the threads that look like "fun" threads. And I'm still afraid of war, even if I support it. The very idea of WW3 scares the crap out of me.