ineeda_daddydom
Experienced
- Joined
- Jul 21, 2013
- Posts
- 48
just to get it out of the way, im married, but its in name only. and not in the way people who want ass on the side say it, if their spouses found out they might be shocked thinking everything was great & not understand why their partner was cheating. thats not my case, this isnt kink on the side, or relieving pressure or some other nonsense that justifies me cheating. i married someone i was in love with, thats why we decided to get married, we thought wed be happy. then his aspergers got worse, according to most research thats not possible, yet im living with it & its changed him to a person i dont know. were complete & utter strangers who live in a house together but barely interact other than to occasionally make house decisions like getting the chimney cleaned before winter. hed be hurt if he found out, but surprised? not at all
so i had & then lost all the amazing parts of a relationship; the best friend, lover, partner in crime, but i want & need to get it back. but im not ready to get a divorce, maybe i never will, but i know i need more than what i have in my life right now.
i dont have a laundry list of things im looking for, ive been in the lifestyle since i was 16 and im fairly laid back and adaptable to the dom (as any good sub tries to be) so instead i'll try to give you an idea of the things that are huge turn offs or deal breakers for me. Not at all into age play or regression on a regular basis, i'm not really a "little", i'm me all the time i just have a more childish sillier side that doesnt come out as much in my day to day, but i dont take on a persona or roleplay so my match wouldnt be looking for roleplay
im a huge disney person (both cartoons & the park), i love arts & crafts, watching tv & movies (huge junkie for both) so id like someone who shares those interests
i cant say theres a list of things i need necessarily other than to say i need a bdsm dynamic, and that it needs to skew ddbg over traditional, otherwise im pretty flexible because i think it needs to grow organically based on what works for both people, its trial & error initially. i have a great career, friends, family but not the relationship that makes everything extra awesome. i miss that connection in all aspects, physically, mentally & emotionally
as for interaction its like anything else, the more im into someone the more i want to talk to them & spend time with them. im not looking for fwb or play partners so the goal is to find someone i actually like not just someone i want to play with.
i hate how it sounds to say this out loud cuz it sounds so bs but im an odd mix of facets to my personality, i can be a total homebody who wants to veg in front of the tv & spend all weekend binge watching tv & eating postmate delivery; or i wanna be out at disneyland at 6 am bouncing waiting for the park to open & dont want to leave till they kick me out; it all depends on how the week went & what im in the mood for, so id love for someone who has both aspects to their personality & can adapt to the craziness of a demanding work week
i love the ddbg dynamic because of the fun, to me it combines the ownership, the rules, the structure of traditional bdsm with the fun and carefree aspects of being a kid; its the best of both worlds. at the end of the day im a sub but i dont want nor need the stuffiness and harshness of a traditional bdsm relationship
so ya, its complicated and messy, but its reality, so maybe one day ill find someone who gets it and can work with it, till then ...
so i had & then lost all the amazing parts of a relationship; the best friend, lover, partner in crime, but i want & need to get it back. but im not ready to get a divorce, maybe i never will, but i know i need more than what i have in my life right now.
i dont have a laundry list of things im looking for, ive been in the lifestyle since i was 16 and im fairly laid back and adaptable to the dom (as any good sub tries to be) so instead i'll try to give you an idea of the things that are huge turn offs or deal breakers for me. Not at all into age play or regression on a regular basis, i'm not really a "little", i'm me all the time i just have a more childish sillier side that doesnt come out as much in my day to day, but i dont take on a persona or roleplay so my match wouldnt be looking for roleplay
im a huge disney person (both cartoons & the park), i love arts & crafts, watching tv & movies (huge junkie for both) so id like someone who shares those interests
i cant say theres a list of things i need necessarily other than to say i need a bdsm dynamic, and that it needs to skew ddbg over traditional, otherwise im pretty flexible because i think it needs to grow organically based on what works for both people, its trial & error initially. i have a great career, friends, family but not the relationship that makes everything extra awesome. i miss that connection in all aspects, physically, mentally & emotionally
as for interaction its like anything else, the more im into someone the more i want to talk to them & spend time with them. im not looking for fwb or play partners so the goal is to find someone i actually like not just someone i want to play with.
i hate how it sounds to say this out loud cuz it sounds so bs but im an odd mix of facets to my personality, i can be a total homebody who wants to veg in front of the tv & spend all weekend binge watching tv & eating postmate delivery; or i wanna be out at disneyland at 6 am bouncing waiting for the park to open & dont want to leave till they kick me out; it all depends on how the week went & what im in the mood for, so id love for someone who has both aspects to their personality & can adapt to the craziness of a demanding work week
i love the ddbg dynamic because of the fun, to me it combines the ownership, the rules, the structure of traditional bdsm with the fun and carefree aspects of being a kid; its the best of both worlds. at the end of the day im a sub but i dont want nor need the stuffiness and harshness of a traditional bdsm relationship
so ya, its complicated and messy, but its reality, so maybe one day ill find someone who gets it and can work with it, till then ...
