It's a new day!

[sweetjen35]

Thanks to all who reached out to me yesterday during my mental breakdown that made not sense to most - I did clarify to a few who asked.

It had nothing to do with my marriage. I have accepted that situation for what it is.

In a nutshell, I have a toxic friendship "in real life" (well, sort of!) from the past 5 months that I have come to realize I needed to break away from. It was definitely unbalanced where I was giving, giving, giving (of my time, concern, friendship, support even patience) and he was taking so much and giving very little in return. That is NOT how a friendship nor a relationship works.

I think I needed to hit rock bottom with him yesterday to realize once and for all I deserve MORE and BETTER.

We all get addicted to things or people who make our lives better. I certainly know myself well enough to know I WILL get addicted to something or someone again, I just have to choose more wisely. I need a MUTUAL addiction, but I am not in a hurry to surrender any power to it.

I would say I am about 75% better than I was yesterday. Thank you again for the support of those who reached out after reading a post that made no sense.

((((group hug)))

 

[UrbanBohemian]

Well I'm glad you're moving on. That's a good thing. Some people are selfish in life and those people are definitely draining. A lot of them have real problems and could use some help but that's not all of them and it's not your job to be someone's therapist. If you volunteer for that, that's one thing but you're under no obligation. It's sometimes hard to realize a relationship is toxic and when you do it can be hard to let it go because you've invested so much time into it. But the thing a lot of people don't realize right away is what's done is done and all you can do is change your present and shape your future. It doesn't make any sense to waste even more time because you feel like you've wasted some already. They call it the past because it's gone now. It's already passed by. And if you live in the past you're not there in the present to experience your life since that's where it is. And you don't want to be a spectator in your own life. You may feel yourself drawn to this situation again for some reason. Whatever that reason is if it does happen I hope you just keep in mind why you made the decision you did and know that you were in your right mind when you did so.

Anyway, my offer still stands. If you ever want to talk to someone you're welcome to message me. I hope you're having a good weekend.

 

[fletchx]

After something like that, each day helps the healing process. Glad you're coming out of this for the better!

 

[SirSensual]

Awesome!

You go girl!

 

[bsanchez2100]

Welcome back to sanity! It's a tough thing to be able to say, "Fuck you--I have enough friends."

 

[stigs]

Congrats!

 

[box13]

"Why do I have to feel bad when I'm around you?" is a question I've asked myself a few times. I think it's a call to set some boundaries or attempt some change.

Or fetch the bottle.

I hope you're on your way to feeling stronger and happier.