It should not....but it happened..can it happen again?....or should not

[swetha_sweety]

I dont know how it happened...I had sex with my brother about a couple of weeks ago and the very next day I ran to my aunt's place unable to face him and my parents.Thogh I have had sex with my boyfriend before that...the night I had with my brother was more thrilling and satisfying.I know that should not think of that again but my body needs that fulfilling sex oncemore and more.After that incident I started role playing quite often to get more of incest into my mind and I know should not do it.Hope these are just feelings and part most of the people in this World and I think there is nothing wrong in this.
I just want to let out my feelings and I had done it now. Now I can happily log on to my favorite channels.
What do you think about this?

 

[Guest]

I don't know how old you are, or what the circumstances are, but this is my opinion on the matter.

Incest between siblings has become taboo because:

1) children from individuals closely related can be born with genetic defects. Just like in the animal kingdom, which they don't care if they are related or not, too much interbreeding causes defects in the offspring. They are simply not as healthy, as a general rule. This usually occurs after a lot of interbreeding.

2) Sex in general has become extremely controlled in a power struggle between the sexes. Who came up with the bright idea that prostitution should be illegale, and WOMEN that participate should be prosecuted....NOT men, for example? It's totally absurd.

If we were not so heavily influenced by society's concepts of what is right and wrong, which in MHO has gotten so far off the tracks of what is natural, we all would probably experience some natural "exploring" with our siblings. I admit I did with my brother, though it did not go beyond "touching" each other. But that would have been labeled "incest" which has negative connotations.

What I think is really wrong behavior, is a parent molesting a child. This act is TRUELY bad, as it damages the childs psyche permanently. If your brother FORCED you to participate, or you FORCED a younger brother, that would be wrong, and could be damaging as well. But if you BOTH partipated in consensual sex, then WHY IS THAT WRONG?

Personally, I have no desire to participate with my brother, he's not my type. But I have a couple of cousins that is extremely attractive to me, yet in today's society, would be considered incest as well. Go figure.

IMHO, don't beat yourself up over it. You are probably very young, and in the beginning stages of discovering your sexuality. Try not to become obsessed with it, as that is what taboos create.....obsessions. Obsessions are not healthy. Accept it as a natural process of maturity.

- Moon

 

[wolfy]

Screw todays society.
I don't see why any man would ever want to sleep with a woman who dosn't want to sleep with him. So I think prostitution is totally wrong and don't understand the concept behind it.

On the other hand I totally think you should be allowed to do what every you want with your own body as long as you arn't hurting anyone else. I think prostitution should be legal but run by the state with manditory testing every week or maybe every day no clue how hard the tests are for any deseases etc. If prostitution and most drugs were legal I think our society would be alot better off. As for incest with a brother well If you are both concenting I don't really se anything wrong with it if you use protection. I don't have a sister so I can't really identify with any of those feelings for a sibling but I do think that not acting on them only beause of what "society" thinks is right is not a good enough reason.
Don't feel bad for any feelings you are having because you think they are "wrong" or "abnormal". We are all abnormal some are just better at hiding it then other. *hugs*

 

[Guest]

Screw todays society.

I would love to, but they keep teaching children to feel bad about what should be natural.

- Moon

 

[Closet Desire]

what is right and wrong?

Some like Battaille would say that sex has always been a power struggle between the genders and that it is more often the woman than the man who "sacrifices" herself to the act. Some women will say that deep down, even if they demand equal power in all other aspects of their lives, they crave a relationship in which they can abandon responsibility...and guilt...and fully experience their sensuality. I don't think there is a right or wrong to this one as long as it is consensual between the lovers...however many there are and whoever they are.

I took think there are too many taboos associated with sex which is, after all, just another form of intimacy between two or more people. I don't have a problem with prostitutes and both my wife and I know several who seem to have no hang ups about it. They certainly don't fit the stereotype the Baptist church would like to describe them as.

Incest. I don't personally have any cravings in that direction, but wouldn't judge what is desirable to others. However there is the bigger picture and that is about the family system. There are many people who develop psychological problems dealing with incest which occurred either consensually or not earlier in life. Whether or not one thinks this is reasonable or not is not relevant, how it affects the individual is and it is quite real to him or her. It also affects the rest of the family, if only because they are not as liberally inclined as the members who choose to participate. If family ties are important then it might be prudent to not test them by going too far beyond the boundaries. I mean, some families freak out over differences in religious beliefs and go totally ballistic over gay or lesbian relations. Incest can push many of them over the top.

Just a few thoughts and...yes...we work professionally with people on both sides of the issue.

ClosetDesire@aol.com

 

[UnConservative]

I just think it's kind of sad how far we have gone in repressing and hiding our desires. I think in a small number of cases incest may not be all that damaging. As mentioned before, I think when interbreeding happens continuously, in the wild or in humanity, serious defects and mental/social problems will occur. But I do think that are society has gone way too far with some things. I almost see no problem in sex b/w cousins if both sides are enjoying it and it is consensual. Plus, I think many people out there in the world have probably had their first "moments" with a cousin or distant relative of some sort. But it's pretty sad to see how in places like the US there is such a massive campaign to get teenagers not to have sex until they are married, even though their hormones are raging furiously and they are walking sex machines at earlier and earlier ages. I'm not saying sex in youths is 100% the best thing in the world and we should let it all go, especially with so many diseases present and risk of pregnancy in this whole abortion hysteria today. Actual intercourse may not be the best way to go, but there are just as many equivalent things to do when you are a teenager. I think it is great, no to mention very healthy, to "work your way up" to having actual sex. Fooling around w/ your little girlfriend in the woods as a pre-teen, moving up in the later years. Humans have advanced to the point where sex plays a beneficial role in our lives many a time, and exploring and discovering this world will not destroy us like the harsh conservatives may have you believe, not if we do it carefully. We've got to do what makes are hearts rush with joy, keeps our minds nice and clear and allows us to breathe better and enjoy the day. We can't continue to repress ourselves. I think that the majority of the people I know who are really happy are those who don't repress so many things like average society... and these aren't just people who have active sex lives, etc... these are people who go for walks in nature, don't live to excess like average Americans do, and have enough time to enjoy a nice walk in the Fall weather because they live simply and don't work full time. We can still get a lot of pleasure and joy w/o all of the rules, materialism, and social regulations that has been created... we have learned from those negative things how to have fun... but I think we need to abandon them now and settle down and, well, get it on!

 

[Closet Desire]

well said...

I was raised in the midwest in the US and now, as I look back, I can't belief how puritan and, at the same time, how pruient sex is. Now that I'm living in Europe I've learned to appreciate that sex is an expression between people. The age of consent is typically 16 or younger, prostitution is essentially legal (solicitation is not), the night after pill is available over the counter without a script. Have any of the things the moralists in the US predicted come true? We have fewer teen pregnancies, lower incidents of HIV and STD, much lower crime rates and, quite bluntly, as I wastch the students touring Europe with their backpacks and shacking up in hostels...I think they have a lot more fun than I did. America has a lot of positive qualities, but it could benefit from slacking off a bit.

 

[swerf]

Swetha,

A good place to start is by discussing your feelings with your brother if you haven't yet done so. Tell him how you feel about what happened and what you'd like to see next. Find out how he feels and where he'd like to go. Afterwards, mull things over for a few days.

That said, it sounds like your heart is made up: you want more! But your mind tells you it's wrong.

I've heard of quite a few stories of siblings having long-term sexual relationships. Often one or both were either married or recently divorced. These relationships are not uncommon, but most of them stay on the sexual level.

Did you tell your aunt what happened when you hid out there? If yes, what did she say?

Good luck, Swetha, and keep us informed on what happens and what you decide to do.

Swerf

 

[aditya]

mail me .. i'll tell you some of my experiences.
its normal to feel guilty...

 

[NudeDad]

Wrong or right?

Some people believe that circumcision and spankings constitute child abuse.

I believe that if you were both willing, are old enough to be sexually active, and are using effective birth control, I believe that you are not doing anything wrong.

That is my opinion.

NudeDad

 

[Guest]

this may help

swetha_sweety read Jane Rolly's work about her uncle and her comments. She a pratical approach to some of you questions.

 

[myker]

Hmm... We know about the potential of birth defects that can result from incestual relationships. Even though we have the technology to prevent such births today, I have to ask... what was nature trying to tell us?

Is it a question of nature? Technology? Morality? Or any combination thereof?

 

[Young Knave]

The appeal of incest.

I think part of the thrill of incest is of course the forbidden nature of it, but also the fact that it is in a strange way truly sex for sex's sake alone. There is no chance of either person wanting to get into a relationship, and the whole thing is bound to remain secret since either side would get in trouble for talking about it. Don't feel too bad, what you did isn't that uncommon. I know a few people who have crossed that line, and there are many more who do but don't let anyone in on it. When you think about it, sex is probably a big temptation between siblings. There's the reasons I mentioned earlier for one thing. There is also the fact that you know each other well, are comfortable with each other, your hormones are raging, and you are living under the same roof in somewhat intimate conditions. You might get illicate glimpses at each other. Perhaps it is only inevitable for an attraction and sexual tension to develope. There are bound to be people who start playing around, and one thing leads to another.

So in other words, I don't think you should worry about it too much. Also, you can always e-mail me and tell me the details of your story if it would make you feel better to confide in someone.

 

[Skitten]

First problem you don't think you did anything wrong. HE IS YOUR BROTHER AND YOU DON"T THINK THAT IS WRONG! There are plenty of ways to get satisfied without doing your own brother. You should feel bad about what happened and another thing if your boyfriend doesn't do it for you, the at least have the decency to let him know.

I don't know how old you or your brother are, but you probably screwed up his mind for the rest of his life now. Happy, I do not know what you were thinking and the line you don't know what you were doing if you use it or not is a bunch of bull.

You have had incest with your own brother and probably screwed up his life emotionally.

 

[Ambrosious]

Yep! Go ahead. Have all the sex you can. I mean MY GOD, you had fun, didn't you? That's all that matters nowadays. Just as long as YOU have a good time. Don't worry about the consequences at all. Why should you? I mean there's birth control right? And EVERYONE knows that birth control is 100% effective, everytime! Just in case it fails, you can always opt for an abortion or you can put up the retard for adoption and let the state (ME) raise it for you.

Don't WORRY about what other people think! Just because society frowns on an action doesn't mean you have to stop. I mean, hell, you are enjoying yourself, right? Move in with bro and set up house. Hey, ya'll have the same last name right? The charade is complete.

Don't wait any longer to tell mom and dad. Heck, they will understand! Ya'll are just having fun. They may even throw you two a mock wedding, so the two of you can stop LIVING IN SIN. Which brings me to this, the least important of my points. Do NOT worry about the moral part of your dilemma! I mean, after all, what is your spoiritual well being compared to a couple of mind shattering orgasms. You can always repent later.

This is so sad. And my last post on this subject. Hopefully.

[Edited by Ambrosious on 11-12-2000 at 02:55 PM]

 

[Guest]

This Ambrosious is a fucken hypocrite. Here he is moderating a role playing forum that includes incest and then turns around and craps on swetha_sweety.

Laurel, what the fuck’s going on here? Get rid of this puke! If he isn’t ready to listen to all types of opinions he is not ready to be a moderator!

Ambrosious, if fucking her bother pisses you so much, let me suggest a new site for you. Maybe something with religious overtones that has nothing that will offend your tender little brain. How about http://www.religion.com . Watch out, someone posted previously you may still find incest in the book.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Guest]

Ambros, dear, seeing as how you are a friend I shall try to be as polite as I can with you. Let me start off by saying that some of your words disturbed me hon. I have been on both sides of adoption now (and am adopted myself). Tax payers didn't pay for me when I was growing up, my parents did.

I'm not going to get into a large debate (yet again) over incest vs. molestation. My views have been expressed here in the past, and for anyone who truly wants to know what they are, they can mail me or do a search on the word "incest" here.

~Tiggs~
http://www.freebackgrounds.com/kit12.gif

 

[Ravenloft]

Listen, Ambros's opinions have nothin to do with his duties as a moderator here... He didn't remove anything regarding incest he is just saying his piece, we are free to disagree if we like, arn't we? Now Ambros should be thanking his lucky stars that this troll didn't dig up his story here at lit and throw that in his face... HEheh! Love them toes man! Love them toes!

[Edited by Ravenloft on 11-13-2000 at 03:48 PM]

 

[naudiz]

Hypocrisy

Indulging in an incest fantasy isn't the same as committing or even supporting incest. Maybe Ambrosious is just drawing a distinct line between fiction and non-fiction; which is something I think more people should do.

I don't agree with everything Ambros says. In fact, I think he and I probably come from opposite ends of the societal/political spectrum, but I would hate to see him yanked as a moderator or otherwise stifled just because he's got the balls to state his opinion. Even though I don't always agree with the opinion, I'm glad he says what's on his mind, and I'm glad he doesn't sugar-coat it. Gives me food for thought.

I do agree on one point: 'because it feels good' is not reason enough to throw consequences to the wind and go for it. When it comes to family, there are more than the two people getting it on to consider. There are parents, other siblings, grandparents, cousins, you name it. These people could get hurt. Unlike the stories, they aren't likely to strip down and join in. Fantasy equals fantasy. Fantasy does not equal reality. Do whatever you think is best, but think about the consequences, because there will be some.

 

[Ambrosious]

Listen, Ambros's opinions have nothin to do with his duties as a moderator here... He didn't remove anything regarding incest he is just saying his piece, we are free to disagree if we like, arn't we? Now Ambros should be thanking his lucky stars that this troll didn't dig up his story here at lit and throw that in his face... HEheh! Love them toes man! Love them toes!

[Edited by Ravenloft on 11-13-2000 at 03:48 PM]

I knew that story would haunt me when I posted this thread. I think a good author can suspend his or her belief when writing AND make it convincing. Is that hyopocritical as well? Don't know and really don't care. Like the poor girl who started this thread, I am not holding myself responsible for any of my own actions. Don't care what you think. Don't care if it offends your sensitive little butt. Welcome to the year 2000 in the U S of A.

 

[Guest]

one more reason to get rid of you

don't care??? If you don't care why are you a moderator? Man you shit all over that woman. Fuck head it is a sex site.

 

[Ravenloft]

Boy howdy, feelin the love now.

 

[SimplySouthern]

Just my humble opinion

Hate to say it, but *gasp* Ambros is right.

Damn I hate having to agree with someone.

His being a Moderator should not preclude him from being allowed to have an opinion and from voicing said opinion. If you take exception with something he said...or how he said it, take that up with him, but leave his title out of it. This is the GENERAL board and he is the Mod of the SRP board. One thing has nothing to do with the other.

Live and let live, I say. Everyone here has the right to an opinion and the right to voice that opinion.