It must be nice

[Datadr]

Not even sure, but this may be my first post. I have lurked for awhile, and often wondered how all the regulars became so open with their words and thoughts. Guess it just takes a little time and practice.

I have been sitting her this morning wondering about the advantages and or disadvantages those of great looks have to deal with. Atleast on the surface, I'm not Tom Cruise, those with better than average looks carry with them certain advantages.

Just wander into a shoe store, and watch the clerks male or female, work with the tall thin gorgeous people, while the average wait in line like cattle. What would it be like to be so genetically blessed. To be that dark, tall, thin, musclar guy. That petite little blonde lady with the perfect teeth, tanned, 36C-22-34 body with perfect legs, and a great little upturned ass. And to deep down inside know that you look a little better than most.

Ever used your looks to tease or get your way wtih someone?

And to all the average of us, have you found that many of the beautiful people are not really. Have you found them obsessed with them selves.

Finally I guess what brouhgt this up, was scanning thru the pic on this site that were placed there by members. Funny, there were only a few posted by people that might carry their true beauty inside.

Sorry for the rant, just seeking others opinions.

 

[SweetCherry]

Hell, I posted my pics a while back, and I'm just an average looking woman. I do what I can to make myself look nicer, but deep down, I really don't care if people think I'm pretty or not. I know where my true beauty lies. Same goes for anyone else who might not be part of the "beautiful" crowd. I learned long ago that there's more to life than looks.

Welcome to the board, btw. Enjoy your stay and there's straight jackets down the hall. Pick a cell and make yourself at home.

 

[PacificBlue]

First off welcome to Lit., I'm glad you finally decided to stop lurking.

Interesting subject. I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What I consider beautiful and what you consider it could be two very different things. I think there are beautiful people with ugly interiors. Beautiful people with hearts of gold. Average people with ugly interiors. Average people with hearts of gold.

That said...Yes, I do agree with you that there is a social "standard" of what we define as beautiful. Statistically those who fall into the standard have easier lives, they get better jobs, earn better pay, usually waited on first, and are more likely to marry or be in relationships. Just look and high school and college, most things were popularity/beauty contests. I have learned over time that there are exceptions to every rule though, there always are.

I have known some who used their looks to their advantage. Why shouldn't they? If you were blessed with Tom Cruise looks wouldn't you use your physical genetics to get ahead? I would venture to guess that you would otherwise you wouldn't even be concerned about this subject.

I can personally say that I spend WAY to much time on this subject instead of just living my life. It bothers me greatly but I've also learned to accept it as part of life. I don't consider myself ugly but I'm not thin, something I'm changing to prove a point to myself. I have had mean things shouted at me while I walk down the street (walking for exercise), I've had strangers come up to me and give me diet tips, and I've been told by men I liked that they can't date me because I'm not thin and their friends wouldn't understand and would make fun of them. I've also had men online stop talking to me because they weren't physically attracted to me, sad but true.

As far as the members here at Lit. I go back to one of my original comments...beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

sweetcherry is right

all that matters what you think of yourself deep down inside.









have a nice day MICK FOLEY

 

[SweetCherry]

Oh yeah, I forgot to say this earlier. I don't think Tom Cruise is all that hot anyhow. He looks artificial, somehow. Almost like a mask someone has made. Just my opinion.

 

[MissTaken]

Hello Dr!

I am happy to see that you have come out of hiding!

~applause~

Without ever having seen a photo, I can attest that you are far above average, my friend.

Oh. Have I used my looks to tease or gain something? Sure. And, what is wonderfully amusing about that is that in the "plastic" sense of the word, I am far from beautiful.

I am learning as I grow older, the many times people do look beyond the wrapping paper and find the gift within!

 

[Datadr]

MissTaken!!!!!

The first friend that I made on this board. A lady with a heart of gold, and the words of an artist. One wonders if I wax to eloquently. Nay, for the words of the soul are to be shared openly..

Take care

 

[Angel]

I quite honestly think I'm ordinary. Maybe cute. But then again I'm not a male.

What pisses me off is people who like me because they like how I look, and then get pissed off when they figure out I have a brain.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Angel]

And welcome to the BB...

 

[*bratcat*]

that was for Datadr...

 

[Angel]

Shh. I'm blonde. (Well in the front)

 

[registered "^^"]

Hell You ever see Brat in the morning

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WELCOME TO LIT

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: Hell You ever see Brat in the morning

 

[Wizard]

Datadr, Welcome to the board.......Most of us all lurked a bit before joining in.............

Myself..well I know I'm not the best looking dude out there ...hell I'm small and now balding...Have a board for a ass but I just pasted 14 years with my wife who in my eyes is the best looking girl out there, but something I have learned as I grew older and maybe wiser was looks really really are not everthing.

I would take a girl that is happy with herself and smart any day of the week over someone shallow and good looking.........

I want to carry on a conversation with her.........Both contribute to each other....

I have learned so much over the years about and from my wife.........

Just my thoughts..........

 

[cymbidia]

Hmmm. Well. you want the truth?

I've always been attractive. I'm a stereotypical California blonde and have had wolf-whistle type comments tossed out from moving cars all my life. (It's *NOT* the compliment one might imagine, either. It mostly just makes one feel paranoid and less-dressed than she should be, whatever she's wearing.)

I *have* used my looks to get better service in a restautrant, to make a poor grocery store bagger all red and flushed, to make the DMV clerk less hostile, and to smooth my way through the many and varied interactions we all have in the course of our daily lives.

However, i know i was awarded the way i look in the genetic poker game that fashions us from a collection of cells into a living breathing entity. I know i did nothing at all to earn the way i look. And i place relatively less value on that, quite frankly - and always have - than you might think.

I've always tried to be a good person, for example. If i was in that shoe store with you and the clerk was going to help me first, even though you were waiting longer, i would and have always insist it was your turn. I don't, and never have, used my looks to get ahead of anyone at all. I've dated all kinds of people, too, from the gorgeous (MS is one such - i feel kinda plain next to him, to be honest) to the downright homely.

I'm drawn to intelligence, first, always. Without this, i go no further with a person. Ever. Period. I want someone at least as smart as i am. Gotta have that. (And i don't mistake intelligence for education, either, though someone in possession of both is nice.)

A wildly rollicking sense of humor is next on my list of the important characteristics in a potential partner.

A willingness to try *anything* at least once, and with a way open mind about it, too - third.

Without those three, the person is a wash as far as i'm concerned, and it's always been so.

Anyway, i don't think i'm obsessed with myself. Never have been. Really. I think you're generalizing about skin-deep beauty. We're all individuals with individual strengths and weaknesses. Besides, my blonde haired, blue-eyed, gorgeous daughter is now 13, and has begun collecting *looks* from the drive-thru McDonald's boys, and from the grocery store baggers, and from the boys in cars as they drive past us on the street. Skin deep beauty fades.

It's always, always, always what you are inside that counts most.

And here, here in the slipstream, all of us are just and only the sum total of our words anyway. It's why i like it here so much. No prejudices to overcome (and stereotypical CA blondes with even half a brain have prejudices to beat, don't think we don't).

 

[registered "^^"]

Kickin' the dirt in my bear feet!!

Gosh us'in pour ferm buoys ain't gotta chainch within' youse city gals........

 

[ChaoticLil]

i remember years ago i was at a dance club with my older sister. She was asked to dance, which i thought was great. What i DIDN'T think was great was the guy's rommie coming up to me and stating "Well, since she is already dancing I guess I'll have to settle for you." That still hits a nerve to this day.

One reason why i don't cyber/phone sex much is because they still want to be fucking the "Cindy Crawford" type (who by the way i think is ugly). i have the voice that will make the dead cum, but when they see a pic, that's the last i usually hear from them. When i meet a guy in person, all they seem to see is my breast. Yes i know, with 50G bra size it's a little hard to see anything else but it's still humiliating.

On an ironic note, both my husband and my Master are ass men. They don't care how large my breast are, or how large i am for that matter. i'm losing weight at this moment for me , not for some brainless prick who doesn't have a clue as to what real love really is.

 

[registered "^^"]

Eyes........Eyes

I always look at the eyes first. They never lie.

 

[MissTaken]

awww shucks, doc!

~kiss~

 

[pabloback]

welcome to the cess pit