ISO ... a sweet, smart, sexy sub

[headdoctor]

I'm attempting to thread the needle out here, hoping to reap what I sew. On this Father's Day, I'm looking for: a woman (25+) who is kind, bright, verbal; submissive or, as good, curious about her submissive side; confident in her world and yet dreaming of more, of better, of wilder. I am especially drawn to women who are sweet (with vulnerabilities, like everyone), who love language, and who wonder, even worry sometimes, about the reach of their desires.

I am (... drum roll, señor ...) early 50s, highly educated, attached (happily), nonjudgmental; I'm drawn to wordplay, role-play, and mental stimulation. (And lots of other things: art, music, literature; soccer, hiking, biking; cooking, gardening, writing; fantasy, kink, taboo.) I'm not a mean or sadistic Dom, though I can be stern and, when necessary, give a punishment; I'm more of a daddy, supportive, attentive, and sometimes controlling.

I adore the play of reality and fantasy with an online friend (message, email, phone), getting to know someone over time, exploring, going deep. I like sharing experiences, imagining scenarios, opening up. Role plays: the classics: girl next door, therapist/patient, friend's father, father/daughter (family) ... anything that feels intimate, honest, considerate, and yet opens the door to unexplored and unexplainable desire.

If you're interested, drop me a pm. What do you have to lose? (hmmm)

 

[headdoctor]

I'm going to bump myself (and ignore the metaphorical implications of that phrase). I started this thread many months ago and made a couple lovely friends. It has been some time since I've been out here and I'm going to refine my search. Here goes:

My current dream is to find a dark angel, a woman ideally under 40 with an inchoate submissive side and a secret suspicion that she might be attracted to the dark side. Perhaps she is not so drawn that she topples into the abyss but at least she likes to be encouraged into contemplation of its depths. A fun tour of taboo country with an experienced guide. It is an enormous pleasure for me to encourage and bring out those fantasies and desires.

I mean this, less abstractly: I long for a sensible and bright woman who, though perhaps inexperienced and reserved, though perhaps a lurker out here, knows that her role is to give herself, to open herself, carefully, to the world of forbidden pleasure. I especially enjoy family fantasies (more than realities), plays of consensual sharing that, though at first reluctantly undertaken, become a powerful passion. It's the hesitation at the edge, followed by the delicious indulgence, that I find erotic. It doesn't matter to me what the roles are; I like the intimacy with so much at stake.

I'm writing here like a second-rate Henry James--argh. So less abstractly still: I like to pm and message but ultimately I want someone who can talk on the phone, thinking into and thinking up all kinds of inventive strategies (role plays, stories, and so on). "Under 40" only because I love the double Daddy role: being the older Dom and also a father figure; that said, I also love women over 40... And, frankly, the smarter the better and, from my experience, the less experienced the better. I like a wide margin and open spaces. And I adore a good girl (professional, thoughtful, respectable) who doesn't like to admit her dirty, filthy mind but is willing to let the right Daddy discover it.

Finally, I'll repeat my other post: there's nothing to lose with a pm. Who knows what might happen!

 

[headdoctor]

Perhaps I should emphasize that my hope is to hear from women interested in the possibility of a real exchange of ideas and desires ... in sentences and paragraphs ... playful but deep ... sharing and exploring together.

I've been on and off this forum for about five years and am used to the run of things, but the responses to my ad were a mixed bag, with a number of very short messages wanting to jump to instant messaging and texting (and at least two bits of spam). That's all fine and par for the course, but really--I'm sorry to sound old-fashioned--I like to know the person a bit before lighting out for the territory. In fact, for me it's deeper and dirtier when we know each other.

That said, women of Literotica, say hello; my inbox awaits.

 

[headdoctor]

Women of Literotica, I'm doing my taxes this morning and I need ... a ... distraction! Naughty or nice, as long as it doesn't involve paperwork and numbers and writing a check to the government ...

 

[headdoctor]

I've had some wonderful exchanges lately but I'm going to re-up this ad and hope for the perfect woman: 25-38, cautious and yet obliquely aware of a sexual curiosity that goes all the way down, open to the possibility of something BIG yet ready to start small, perhaps someone attached and yet keen on freedoms both fantastic and intellectual. I like flirtations and it's always fun to message and see if the stars are aligned ... but ultimately I'm looking for something intimate, personal, and even "real" in an online sense. I've got my fetishes and kinks and perversions, but let's not start there; let's start with that something small and let it grow, organic and flowering. I'm finally a daddy looking for his girl.

So what's happening tonight on your end? For me: listening to a fun combination of old punk (Clash, Circle Jerks, X) and jam bands (Dead, Phish); drinking a fantastic Lagavulin 8, something of a special issue; finishing a Jack Reacher novel (though I was teaching some heady, heady literature today); and hoping for some bright sweetheart to say hello.

 

[Ryoushur]

You intrigue me...your posts lead me to believe you could stimulate my mind, which is the first step to something more. Would be interested in getting to know you on a personal level to see if we click. As you say, what have you got to lose?

 

[Ryoushur]

Getting to know you

I am intrigued by your posts. And you are both witty and well spoken, which I must say is refreshing and intoxicating in and of itself. I would love the chance to see if we pique each other's interest personally or otherwise. Hope to chat soon.