Is your relationship monogamous?

[Kenny9990]

Is Your Relationship Monogamous or Not?

For those of you who are married or living together, is your relationship monogamous or non-monogamous? Have you discussed this issue specifically with your spouse/SO and do you agree? Or do you feel you have an unspoken agreement?

Are you non-possessive--that is comfortable with the idea of your spouse/SO having other sexual partners or is this idea totally unacceptable to you?

Have you been unfaithful to your spouse/SO? Do you know/suspect that a partner was unfaithful to you now or in the past? How did you handle it--discuss it rationally, leave them, etc.

 

[alexandraaah]

We are monogamous.

Except I'm allowed to have sex with Ruby.

 

[QuickDuck]

We are monogamous.

Except I'm allowed to have sex with Ruby.

can i watch?

 

[bad kitty]

We have an open relationship, but you knew that already. How have ya been Ducky?

 

[Guest]

 

[lobito]

my hand doesn't cheat on me, if that's what you mean.

 

[intrigued]

We are monogamous because that is our nature, and we believe it is the only way to achieve the level of intimacy we need, and nurture a relationship that we feel blessed to have.

 

[Lost Cause]

Yes..

I'm committed to my right hand, and no other.

 

[Trail48]

We are monogamous because that is our nature, and we believe it is the only way to achieve the level of intimacy we need, and nurture a relationship that we feel blessed to have.

and don't underestimate the value of the Bobbit newspaper clippings

 

[intrigued]

and don't underestimate the value of the Bobbit newspaper clippings

Nah, I wouldn't resort to violence, but you'd probably wish I had.

 

[badasschick]

I'm in serial monogamy rehab at the moment.

 

[Trail48]

Nah, I wouldn't resort to violence, but you'd probably wish I had.

Sorry, that was written to you, not about you...LOL

 

[intrigued]

Sorry, that was written to you, not about you...LOL

Well, I'll be damned!

 

[*rose of lit*]

does it need to be?

 

[Sillyman]

Generally when I am in a relationship, I prefer it understood openly that we are monogamous except for certain circumstances, such as say if we were to engage in multiple partner sex.

 

[Ham Murabi]

The Surgeon General's Office is about to air a series of commercials about personal values and the danger of STDs. It will feature a furry little creature known as "Monoga Mouse."

 

[Trail48]

Generally when I am in a relationship, I prefer it understood openly that we are monogamous except for certain circumstances, such as say if we were to engage in multiple partner sex.

 

[Lasz]

I would need to be monogomous first, before I become polygomus. Right now my relationship is palmonomous.

 

[Sillyman]

Good thing we're on a "porn board"

Because of my shocking statement or my shocking grammer?

 

[Comshaw]

Kenny9990

Is Your Relationship Monogamous or Not?

No; at this time it's polyamory.

For those of you who are married or living together, is your relationship monogamous or non-monogamous?

As I said the first time: No; It's polyamory.

Have you discussed this issue specifically with
your spouse/SO and do you agree?

The only way a good long lived relationship can last and prosper is with total honesty and completely open communication, so of course we talked about it and we both agree, for now. Either one of us can change our mind of course. And if that happens we sit down and hammer out what will be our course of action.

Or do you feel you have an unspoken agreement?

For my money, anyone that assumes such a thing, without finding out how their partner feels, is asking for a peck of trouble and is stupid to boot! Unless they really don't give a rat's ass how their partner feels. In that case it really wouldn't matter whether they discussed it or not!

Are you non-possessive--that is comfortable with the idea of your spouse/SO having other sexual partners or is this idea totally unacceptable to you?

Totally comfortable, as long asd I like the guy (or girl). At the moment we are in an exclusive relationship with another couple and have been for about two years. We plan to keep it that way for the forseeable future.

Have you been unfaithful to your spouse/SO?

If you mean have I had sex with other women and she didn't know it? Unfortunately, yes. But that was quite a few years ago, before we got the communication rules ironed out. Would I do it again? Not even for money! Why? Because I value the openess we have now and don't want to loose it. And the best way to loose it is break our existing rules.

Do you know/suspect that a partner was unfaithful to you now or in the past?

From a couple of our discussions when we were hammering things out, I think, like me, she did at one time.

How did you handle it--discuss it rationally, leave them, etc.

It was a totally rational discussion. The longest, hardest, most stressful one I've ever had. But also the most rewarding.

Comshaw

 

[fond of facials]

Completely monogamous. Monogamy is extremely important to me.

 

[Tranquility]

We live the poly relationship

 

[intrigued]

We live the poly relationship

I'm just curious...hows it working out? Have their been problems that needed a great deal of effort to resolve?

 

[Olivianna]

I prefer endogamy.

 

[Tranquility]

I'm just curious...hows it working out? Have their been problems that needed a great deal of effort to resolve?

It's working out just wonderfully,Aneliza and I are on the same page about alot of things. She puts a new spin on things for our 14 yr old son and he loves her also just like she is his other mom/best friend. As for problems the only one I can think of is when hubby takes the entire bed or tries to and she and I are holding onto the edges of the blankets with a death grip. She has a Dom but that doesn't interfere with our relationship as we talk about everything and I do mean everything,so all and all in the long and short of it I would give it a 9.9 not a 10 cause sometimes she snores in harmony with the man