Is this section of Literotica friendly?

[JohnnyA]

I have some things to get off my chest , but it's nerveracking and the last time I was at Literotica the people posting seemed to be getting a little mean and nasty.

Is this section of the board friendly and open minded? Will I get mocked for writing about transgendered problems?

Is this the write part of the message board to even begin?

Thanks

edit: I normally wouldn't preface anything, I'd just post, but I want to write a pretty long message and I'd hate to have it wasted.

 

[gumby123]

I'm not exactly sure what a transgender problem is, so I don't think i can help you but I understand your fear of posting. I'm new here and I find some people like to feel superior.

Good Luck

 

[deezire1900]

I would be happy to listen. But yes, some posters in here are only here to be mean.

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

I found most are nice especially in this area. There are exceptions but if you gloss past that I am sure you will find that most of us here would love to help.

 

[Queersetti]

There will always be the risk of some negativity on an open forum, but we have a very good contingent from the transgendered community here who, I am sure, would be happy to discuss your issues with you.

 

[John Doe]

What's wrong?

 

[gumby123]

I would rather stay in this section of the board, you guys and gals seem much friendlier here.
trouble is I'm not well informed on these issues. Transvestite, crossdresser, transgender, I don't really know the difference.
I am learning new things every day.

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

You can never know if you do not ask. Thats what this section is all about. learning about each other.

that and really hot guys and gals

 

[gumby123]

I think we need to hear about JohnnyA's problem. So JohnnyA, maybe someone can help you but you'll never find an answer without asking a question.

 

[John Doe]

JohnnyA, if you've changed your mind, please let us know.

 

[gumby123]

I'm still waiting for JohnnyA to come back, but in the mean time Stuponfucious I love your AV picture. I find myself wanting to use it as a reply to everyone who bugs me.

So JohnnyA, are you coming back? we're still interested and non judgemental.

 

[apexpark]

usually i'd beat this poster to a pulp, but todays a happy day! so i ask: Johnny, whats up?

 

[John Doe]

I'm still waiting for JohnnyA to come back, but in the mean time Stuponfucious I love your AV picture. I find myself wanting to use it as a reply to everyone who bugs me...

Thanks.

 

[Barushko]

new to the thread

no problem JohnnyA

transvestite - wearing clothes normally worn by the
opposite sex - generally male in popular consciousness but can be female

crossdresser - slang for transvestitie

transgendered person - seeks to change assigned gender via drug regimens (hormones) and/or surgery

some nicknames - she-males, TGs, chix with dix

 

[JohnnyA]

I'll post soon, I've wanted to, just still thinking of what to write.

 

[Etoile]

Re: new to the thread

crossdresser - slang for transvestite

That's oversimplifying it a little bit...I know we've had threads on the difference between CD and TV, I will have to dig them up.

 

[Etoile]

I would say that this section of Lit is much friendlier than the GB, but as has been mentioned we do have occasional troublemakers. The difference is that here there is a rule against both gay-bashing and picking on any one individual. Those posts get removed.

 

[Honeydew56]

My husband recently came out to me that he is a CD. He does not like the term transvestite, he feels it is an outdated slang.
We feel that transgender fits better since he is mostly male, but loves his fem side also. . We are both still trying to figure it all out, even though he has been dressing on and off for most of his life although in secret.
He just loves all the womens trappings, but not all the time 'she' comes out only sometimes now that he has a supportive wife we are both enjoying both sides.

Because there seems to be some confusion as to what's what here is a list of definitions that should help clear it up.

"Transgender" is an umbrella term for people whose gender identity or gender expression differs from their anatomical sex. The term may include but is not limited to:

Cross-dressers: People who routinely wear clothes associated with the opposite sex. Cross-dressing is a form of gender expression and is not necessarily tied to sexual orientation. Many cross-dressers are heterosexual.

Transvestites: A term that many transgender people consider derogatory. Often synonymous with female or male cross-dressers who are heterosexual.

"'Drag queens" or "kings": Female or male cross-dressers who are lesbian, gay or bisexual.

Female or male impersonators: Individuals who impersonate a different gender for entertainment purposes.

Intersexed: People whose sexual organs are ambiguous at birth. The commonly used term is hermaphrodite.

Gender transition: The process of altering one's sex that includes one or all of the following: changing one's name and/or sex on legal documents, hormone therapy, hair removal and chest and genital alteration.

Preoperative transsexuals: People who identify as one gender at all times -- a gender that conflicts with their anatomy. Many are either about to begin or are in the process of getting sex-change operations. This may also include people who have undergone or are undergoing hormonal treatment.

Postoperative transsexuals: People who have had full or partial surgery to change their gender. Transgender groups prefer the term "gender reassignment surgery" over "sex-change operation."


As you can see there are many levels to this and it can be very confusing, mostly for the Transgendered person, be it male or female. But also confusing for SO's too..
I think mostly everyone has a need for some acceptance in what ever level you are.

AS to the friendlyness of this board, I am new here and I am still trying to figure out just how friendly it is. Some of what I have read makes me think that the 'T's around here might need to have their own area. Since it says that this is a area for everything that is NOT hetrosexual. Well my husband and the majority of CD's anyway are hetro. So where does that leave us on this board??
Not trying to cause a problem here but there alot of issues that the 'T' community would like to talk about.

Honey

 

[Etoile]

Hi Honey,

While some of your definitions seem correct to me, some of them don't. (For example, there are plenty of straight drag queens and kings running around.) I think trying to define these words is only going to have us running around in circles, because they mean different things to different people. Some of the words you list as derogatory are not so to some of the people I know, and you don't mention some words as derogatory that I consider to be so. (Hermaphrodite being an example.) The T community is too loose (that is, not close knit) to really be able to give concise easy definitions like that. While it would make things easier for talking about online, I don't think it's fair to say "this is the definition"...we have to accept that others might define it in different ways.

And welcome!

 

[JeanetteLv2]

The difference is that here there is a rule against both gay-bashing and picking on any one individual.

You probably know, Etoile, that I think you're one of the best non-TG advocates we have in here. But it is sort of worrying that you say gay-bashing is against the rules but don't mention if trans bashing is also.

 

[Etoile]

You probably know, Etoile, that I think you're one of the best non-TG advocates we have in here. But it is sort of worrying that you say gay-bashing is against the rules but don't mention if trans bashing is also.

Excellent point, and thank you for mentioning it! Yes, trans bashing is not permitted here either. I was using "gay" as a blanket term when I probably should have used "queer," as all too often T issues are not included by those groups advocating for gay rights. I'm going to update the "rules" thread to mention trans bashing as well. Thank you again.

 

[Queersetti]

Excellent point, and thank you for mentioning it! Yes, trans bashing is not permitted here either. I was using "gay" as a blanket term when I probably should have used "queer," as all too often T issues are not included by those groups advocating for gay rights. I'm going to update the "rules" thread to mention trans bashing as well. Thank you again.

I'm shoulder to shoulder with you on that, Etoile!

Thank you, Jeanette!

 

[JeanetteLv2]

Cool. Thanks Etoile & Queersetti

But am wondering if something like 'bashing based on sexual orientation or gender idenity' may be better wording and cover the full gamut. Or at minimum 'trans' >> 'transgender'. Just nitpicking at this point I suppose and should be happy with the inclusion of transpeople into the 'no bashing' policy.

 

[Etoile]

You don't have to just be happy with it. You have every right to suggest more complete and explicit words. I'll make some changes.

 

[JeanetteLv2]

Thanks Etoile! ((hugs))