Is this girl playing me?

[andrewchin11]

Dear Literotica members,

I seek your advice. I'll try to keep it short and am just wondering what your thoughts were on my Drama situation

Basically, I met a girl through her friends one day, invited her over for a movie, and we made out. Then I asked what she wanted from it, she wasn't sure.

We started talking daily (She would call me), and then started hanging out more, just casually hooking up (no sex). After a few weeks, I asked again, "What do you want from this?" She states, "I don't know... I like you. The ball is in your court. However, we should keep it open. If you meet another girl... you should date her too."

Just within the last 2 weeks, we stepped it up. We fucked. Multiple times. Multiple days. Quite intensely. Did every position, everywhere. She did buy me a birthday present, and I got her Xmas/Bday presents as well.

She introduced me to her father recently, who doesn't want her to date guys. He hates guys in fact. Well, she did it anyways, and told her mom that she likes me.

However, she still hasn't spoken of becoming bf/gf. Seems like a fucked up scenario if you ask me. Any thoughts - especially from the mind of a female? Now she's in another country for a week, and hasn't really tried to chat with me much.

Thanks!

 

[rawkchik]

If I introduced a partner to my parents, I'd have assumed they realised we were dating, though she might be different.

 

[andrewchin11]

If I introduced a partner to my parents, I'd have assumed they realised we were dating, though she might be different.

Quite a possibility. I think she's just stringing me along until she finds something better.

 

[mogulboy74]

If you have to ask........

then probably so. Always trust your instincts.

 

[andrewchin11]

If you have to ask........

then probably so. Always trust your instincts.

Even after sex... she isn't going to want something? It's just for the hormones?

 

[thiscouldbtricky]

Personally, I'm sort of a believer in, why does she have to make a plan or put a title on your relationship when there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with the way things are?
If it ain't broke, don't fix it, type of thing. Why complicate things?
You're having a good time the way things stand, and you are ruining it by thinking too much.

 

[bigman_569]

well the question i think you should ask...is it worth it.

If she is worth not dating others then enjoy the sex when you get it.
If she isnt worth the wait...move on and if she still wants to try and be with you, then maybe you should re-evaluate.

as the movie "girl next door" says, you gotta ask yourself, is the juice worth the squeeze?

 

[andrewchin11]

Personally, I'm sort of a believer in, why does she have to make a plan or put a title on your relationship when there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with the way things are?
If it ain't broke, don't fix it, type of thing. Why complicate things?
You're having a good time the way things stand, and you are ruining it by thinking too much.

Thank you for that... I think that put me at ease

 

[swamszi]

She introduced me to her father recently, who doesn't want her to date guys.

what does he want her to date?

You two are hooked.

 

[thiscouldbtricky]

Thank you for that... I think that put me at ease

lol, mind you.... just because my philosophy works for me, doesn't mean it works for everyone. But dammit, everyone would be a lot happier if it did. lol

 

[andrewchin11]

lol, mind you.... just because my philosophy works for me, doesn't mean it works for everyone. But dammit, everyone would be a lot happier if it did. lol

Good call.. she's also insecure. She did ask me if all I'm in it for is the sex..... she said, "There has to be something more than just the sex"

 

[thiscouldbtricky]

Good call.. she's also insecure. She did ask me if all I'm in it for is the sex..... she said, "There has to be something more than just the sex"

And your reply...?

 

[andrewchin11]

And your reply...?

Of course I said it's just more than the sex... and I like her.

I'm quite honest with her. I don't play games with her really. I am just straight forward

 

[thiscouldbtricky]

Of course I said it's just more than the sex... and I like her.

I'm quite honest with her. I don't play games with her really. I am just straight forward

Then I really think she just doesn't want to put a label on what you guys have got. You're having fun, go with it. If you both decide to take it to another level, more power to it.

 

[andrewchin11]

Then I really think she just doesn't want to put a label on what you guys have got. You're having fun, go with it. If you both decide to take it to another level, more power to it.

Should I ask her if we're exclusive or not? I just don't want her touching other guys...

But at the same time, I don't see myself marrying her so I'm just confused myself as well.

 

[eurotripper]

just do what you feel

i am married 28 years and in an open marriage now; if you try to figure out what a woman is thinking you wlll lose your mind, i guarantee it; the more important thing is to figure out what you want; she clearly has feellings for you but for some reason doesnt want to commit to an exclusive relationship; why she feels that way is both unknowable and immaterial; the only question you need to ask is whether you feel okay with the relationship you have; if you feel okay, dont over-intellectualize the situation and just see where it goes; if you do not feel okay with the situation, end it and move on

 

[TheDivineMsM]

Good luck!
I'm with the no lables, don't ask don't tell crowd...LOL

 

[toddzilla03]

you meet the parents so yeah your dating basicaly but some people are diffrent on how they chose to let people know

 

[TheOlderGuy]

She introduced me to her father recently, who doesn't want her to date guys. He hates guys in fact. Well, she did it anyways, and told her mom that she likes me.


Thanks!

we have four daughters. we just dump the boyfriends bodies in the swamp.

 

[andrewchin11]

i am married 28 years and in an open marriage now; if you try to figure out what a woman is thinking you wlll lose your mind, i guarantee it; the more important thing is to figure out what you want; she clearly has feellings for you but for some reason doesnt want to commit to an exclusive relationship; why she feels that way is both unknowable and immaterial; the only question you need to ask is whether you feel okay with the relationship you have; if you feel okay, dont over-intellectualize the situation and just see where it goes; if you do not feel okay with the situation, end it and move on

Great point. Thank you. Not sure what I want either... I guess she and I are exactly in the same type of "unsure" boat

I also told her, before she travelled to another country for a week, "try not to hook up with too many guys."

And she states, "Besides you? NAH!"

She'll tell me I should date other girls, yet she says that she is not in the market to date other guys and is not looking.....

Thanks guys. She's also going to start seeing a gynecologist because of getting sexually active with me. She has had sex before with an ex, but she told me she is the type that likes to "please the guy." Thus, it's as if she's always trying to please me..

Always wanting me to watch her on webcam... always trying to pleasure me.

This is weird

 

[Miss Eggroll]

I may be wrong, but it sounds like you've been seeing each other for a month, maybe more? What's the rush to figure out what direction you're headed? I liked one of the other replies that basically said, are you better off with her in the situation that you have right now, or would you rather have no companionship, friendship, and a closer relation with your palm? I guess you gotta chose!

 

[Deprived_in_AZ]

Should I ask her if we're exclusive or not? I just don't want her touching other guys...

But at the same time, I don't see myself marrying her so I'm just confused myself as well.

It might be just a little early to talk about marriage!

Instead of asking her what she wants and getting a wishy washy reply, maybe you should tell her what it is you want from her. Then she can decide whether or not she wants the same.

Being introduced to her parents could be a good sign, then again, maybe her parents just told her to bring you home so they could see who she's been hanging around with.

As for your not wanting her to touch other guys and telling her to not hook up while out of town, sounds like a bit of a control and trust issue to me. Be careful and good luck!

 

[Deprived_in_AZ]

we have four daughters. we just dump the boyfriends bodies in the swamp.

ROFLMAO!