Is this believable?

[doncarlos]

___ (I) I had a surprisingly candid conversation with a 55 year old school teacher lady I have met casually a couple of times, but so far we have not had sex. Last week on the subject of sex she frankly shared that she was not into receiving oral but she very much enjoyed giving. Her thing was essentially nothing but good old-fashioned PIV from which she claimed she came easily and quickly. Surprisingly she stated that her clit did not give her much pleasure from any kind of stimulation, in fact she had never had a clitoral orgasm.

___ (II) My only similar real experience followed the same pattern – up to a point. The lady declined getting oral and during missionary sex she seemed to orgasm nicely - but soon I realized it was fake. She simply flicked the Kegels a few times, made interesting sounds, and claimed it to be an orgasm. Confronted she admitted that her libido was gone but she badly wanted the closeness of a relationship so she felt she had to put on the performance. A bit sad of course. Not a trace of any orgasm, real or fake, during our few times of subsequent sex.

My only similar personal experience (II) suggests that (I) is not to be believed.

Your comments?

 

[YDB95]

As I understand it, any orgasm a woman has is a clitoral orgasm. Like most of Freud's hypotheses, we now know there is no such thing as a "vaginal orgasm." It is, however, believable that a woman would say her clit "did not give her much pleasure". Many women find direct clitoral stimulation is too intense to feel good.

 

[SweetErika]

It's likely in the same way it's likely for a man to vastly prefer prostate stimulation over penile stimulation. Does it happen? Sure, but it's pretty rare. There have been some women here who have said they enjoy vaginal stimulation far more than clit stimulation and come easily from penetration. There's potentially some motivation to stretch the truth or lie on a forum like this, but not a lot, so I take their word for it and put them in the "rare/unusual" category.

Did you ask if she's willing to share why she doesn't enjoy receiving oral, what her past experiences with clitoral stimulation have been like, what feelings it produces, etc.? I'd imagine someone who's willing to have candid conversations about sex would be willing to share those things (at least with a person they're close to).

FWIW, it seems like most women who don't enjoy receiving oral either have hangups about their body, the activity (e.g. they were taught it's wrong) or they've simply never had a positive experience with oral, so it seems like a waste of time and energy. You'd have to talk to your acquaintance more to see if she falls into any of those categories or has another line of reasoning.

 

[wicked woman]

So because one woman lied to you, you're thinking so is another? Is that how you think for all of your relationships?


I don't see why the first woman couldn't be telling the truth. I'd 100% rather give oral sex than receive it. And between receiving oral and PIV...no contest, I'm a PIV kinda gal. I've got nothing against receiving oral, just there are so many other things that I enjoy more. The only way I differ, is that my clit does give me pleasure.


So yes it's believable from where I'm standing.

 

[NaturistLouise]

Clitoral Stimulation

___ Surprisingly she stated that her clit did not give her much pleasure from any kind of stimulation .......

That surprises me too. My clit is the source of much pleasure and from what I've read and discussions I have had, I thought that was true for all females. First time I've heard this.

 

[NikkiBastion]

There are over 8000 nerves in the clit, it's built for pleasure. Period.

Conclusions:

1. She's not lying, she's baiting your ego
2. She's too hung up to enjoy it so thinks herself out of it or stops when it gets too intense (clit-gasms can be hella intense)
3. She's had some injury that has deadened the nerves and receives no stimulation
4. She has smell hangups and thinks it all smells bad and can't handle your potential bad reaction so she just doesn't let anyone go there
5. Somebody before you was doing it wrong (sadly, as intuitive as it is, some of ya just can't quite get the hang of it and others actually listened to the late, great Sam Kinneson and took that seriously...)


She's old school, though - my guess is it's all in her head.