is there such a thing as too soon?

[sinnamongyrl]

i was wondering if you thought there was such a thing as too soon in a realtionship for having sex.Say you are dating someone...would you think any less of them if they slept with you on the first date?

 

[saxetman]

The answer is within

For different people the answer is different. I personally don't think it is too soon, my current girlfriend and I have been dating a year. Had sex on our first date and have been have intense incredible sex ever since!!!!

i was wondering if you thought there was such a thing as too soon in a realtionship for having sex.Say you are dating someone...would you think any less of them if they slept with you on the first date?

 

[cent_fl_guy]

Talk about too soon

I have a friend whose husband proposed to her on their second date, they were married three weeks later, pregnant a month after that and now 8 or so years later have two wondeful children. I would say sex too soon is way way out of the question at that point.

 

[kevin2657]

Worry

I would worry about it, if I had sex with them after the first date, like maybe she is like this with everyone... But if you wait to long you can become friends instead of lovers...

 

[sinnamongyrl]

I would worry about it, if I had sex with them after the first date, like maybe she is like this with everyone... But if you wait to long you can become friends instead of lovers...

but would that bother you if she DID do that with everyone?(used protection and was clean of course),,and is it would bother you,,why would it?

 

[kevin2657]

but would that bother you if she DID do that with everyone?(used protection and was clean of course),,and is it would bother you,,why would it?

Well I guess if she was like this with everyone and she was still clean... I would hope that this is a sign that she is serious about the relationship... The biggest mistake I think women make is assuming the man doesn't have any emotion tied up in sex..

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Well I guess if she was like this with everyone and she was still clean... I would hope that this is a sign that she is serious about the relationship... The biggest mistake I think women make is assuming the man doesn't have any emotion tied up in sex..

this is just sooo interesting to me........i would just assume the guy ws happy to be getting some ass,,not even thinking his heart may be involved,,wow,,,,,,thanks for that take on it,I am liking this place more and more......

 

[SxyTiger1116]

Depending on how the night went, I have had sex on a few first dates and some turned into great relationships and friendships. I guess I think it goes on how you two are getting along and picking up on one another. I don't really think about what the guy is going to think of me afterwards because I truely don't care, I'm doing what I want to do and if he doesn't like it or thinks badly of me because of it then it's his loss.

However, I've found that on the first date it's usually me that makes the first move and not him.

 

[vibes]

it's not that i don't get the point about certain guys and the 'immaculate' first date but ... i find it more serious when the issue is 'too late'!

as for 'too soon', even for those guys who feel their girl, against human nature, should feel and behave any different than them at the beginning, the behaviours held as the relationship progresses should be telling enough and more relevant to make any assessment about the person's ethics and the relationship itself

 

[sinnamongyrl]

good answer....!

 

[ickle_stace]

I wouldn't do it on a first date, for all i know a guy could be taking me out just to get in my knickers, and I don't like being used, I like to wait until I know he's not gonna screw me and run off

 

[leagel]

I think it always depends upon the situation of that first date. Sometimes, it's just a get to know you sort of thing, but other times, it evolves into a more intense kind of experience. One time, I met someone in Cologne, Germany, we met late at night, stayed up all night talking, (no sex) and then ended up taking a train together to Prague. So, that first date ended up lasting more than a week, and yes, eventually during that week we did have sex...

 

[sinnamongyrl]

no one said you had to sleep with him on your first date,,,,,take your time..you will feel when its right.....

 

[ickle_stace]

no one said you had to sleep with him on your first date,,,,,take your time..you will feel when its right.....

sorry if i sounded bitchy or anything, i didn't mean to, was just saying how i see it

 

[sinnamongyrl]

i think you are too nice to sound bitchy.........NO worries girlie......

 

[ickle_stace]

i think you are too nice to sound bitchy.........NO worries girlie......

thanks

 

[tbg312]

Been there!

Unkown to me, sex was planned on the first date. I'm glad now I did not object, (too much) now married to the woman.

 

[timoren]

I think its a good idea to meet the person before you have sex with them. That is unless you have a 20 foot erection.

 

[ewopper]

i was wondering if you thought there was such a thing as too soon in a realtionship for having sex.Say you are dating someone...would you think any less of them if they slept with you on the first date?

Not me, it all boils down to self esteem, and what's the moral views popular where you live. Although most guys I know haven't grown up to appreciate that a woman thinks he's special enough to give him her most priceless possession, herself.As Davy Crockett used to say.... Be sure you're right... then go ahead.

 

[ewopper]

this is just sooo interesting to me........i would just assume the guy ws happy to be getting some ass,,not even thinking his heart may be involved,,wow,,,,,,thanks for that take on it,I am liking this place more and more......

A lot of women make that assumption, for whatever reason. Unfortunately men tend to hide that for fear he won't be looked at as masculine

 

[Eilan]

I would worry about it, if I had sex with them after the first date, like maybe she is like this with everyone...

I call bullshit. It takes two to tango.

What you seem to be saying is that it's okay for YOU to fuck on the first date, but you'd wonder about whether or not she's like this with everyone if SHE fucks on the first date.

Yeah. Gotta love those double standards.

 

[snakebyte]

I call bullshit. It takes two to tango.

What you seem to be saying is that it's okay for YOU to fuck on the first date, but you'd wonder about whether or not she's like this with everyone if SHE fucks on the first date.

Yeah. Gotta love those double standards.

As a guy I say good point. If I can fuck on a first date and it's ok so can the girl 'm fucking. How else will she know how good I am.

 

[UKrock]

I remember with my gf that we dated for about 2 weeks.

then i asked her out

a couple of days after that she stayed at mine. we spent the evening waching a film with some of my friends (ordered out for pizza). then went up to my room and put music on and sat on the bed chatting. soon kissing and cuddeling started. once we were ready for bed (her in her cute pyjamas me in my boxers) we curled up and were kissing and cuddling (nothing particularly sexual, a little heavy petting. i was horny as hell (just wanted to fuck her hard, but wanted to be a gentalman and not have sex on the first night), and so was she.

rolling arrounbd o n the bed i was harder than i'd been in a long time and she was sat on my lap kissing me sat on my hard cock (she had to have fealt it under her). and all of a sudden i had this beautifull pair of tits in my face (they are wonderfull). so i kissed them gently. and began to suck on them and lick them. she got hotter and hotter wriggling ontop of me as my mouth hungrily worked its way over her sweet nipples. then it went back to kissing and petting. there was no genital playing envolved that niught. (both of us eventualy curled up to sleep when we were tired.

since then we have fucked like rabbits every night we have been together (for 11 months now) often waiking in the night for a quicky. my point is this, we both wanted to fuck but being a gentalman etc... we didn't the downside is that i had to wate annother week before i could slide my hard cock into her and feel her wetness arround me and pump her horny fuck hole with cum. but we have made up for this weeks worth i'm sure. the plus side, it has given me one hell of an erotic memory. the whole tease and play but not have sex thing can be elcecric.

i had a similar first night in bed with annother X. she had to ask me to stop kissing her and running my hands over her body because she was getting too horny and didn''t want to have sex the first night (second time i saw her) and knew that if we continued our kisses and caresses she would give into her lust.

god i'm so horny now thinking about all that.

does that offer any insight?

 

[sxylilslut]

I would worry about it, if I had sex with them after the first date, like maybe she is like this with everyone... But if you wait to long you can become friends instead of lovers...

I agree with Eilan. Unfortunately I'm afraid this is true but I say so what if she does it with every guy? Madonna vs slut complex, double standard where the guy who sleeps with a woman on a first date scores but a woman who does the same is a slut and is in no way marriage material. Not that I ever plan on getting married but still.

 

[SxyTiger1116]

well if it's a true man.......he won't care about your sexual past or how many partners youve had or whether you've always done it on the first date......
the same way a woman shouldn't care about his sexual past......
You can't even blame a person for being honest about who they are.