Is there such a thing as too much sex...I have been with my guy for about nine months and we started having sex immediately. We have sex about twice a week at this point. But lately i have noticed that I am never horny anymore, I'm never wet, etc. Its not that he doesn't turn me on anymore, but I feel like i have lost my sex drive and it is very frustrating for both of us. We try to have sex and then he notices how dry i am and that I am usually in pain. We dont always have lube available so we have to stop and that ends in bad feelings for both of us. I dont want to depend entirely on KY or astroglide...I want to know why I'm not producing enough lubrication on my own...any suggestions...?
Is there such a thing as too much sex??
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I would definately look into any side effects from the type of birth control you are using.....I had same problem couple of years afo w/ "the shot".....talk to your doc about changing maybe to something different....
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No sqweek21, there is no such thing as too much.
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OK this is gonna sound weird but... do you guys basically do the same stuff everytime?
I may not be too much sex.. but too much of the same sex...
i know i had that problem and when we did a little exploring online for fun and interesting things to try.. we got the moisture back in no time
I may not be too much sex.. but too much of the same sex...
i know i had that problem and when we did a little exploring online for fun and interesting things to try.. we got the moisture back in no time
You really do need to rule out medical reasons first. If you are on antidepressants they can account for your lack of drive. Another is seasonal affective disorder (depression).
Stress, resentments, boredom or even low grade viral illness can account for it too. Try building up or teasing yourself through the day. You didn't say if you could get wet with self stimualtion. When all else fails you could just talk to him about it.
Stress, resentments, boredom or even low grade viral illness can account for it too. Try building up or teasing yourself through the day. You didn't say if you could get wet with self stimualtion. When all else fails you could just talk to him about it.
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Only if......
Yer dick turns black and falls off.
Yer dick turns black and falls off.
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Re: Only if......
Thank goodness I've been spared that fate, but by the fourth orgasm my balls feel pretty much turned inside-out.
One of those moments where the pain feels OH SO GOOD!
Sparky Kronkite said:
Thank goodness I've been spared that fate, but by the fourth orgasm my balls feel pretty much turned inside-out.
One of those moments where the pain feels OH SO GOOD!
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LOL at the use of the word "Egads"
whew... okok.
Never such a thing as too much sex. No nope noway. What you should do is approach it in a different way. There must be something you need to add to your sex life, change it up a little.. if you never talk dirty - lean up and whisper something really nasty in his ear and watch him go crazy. Most of the time adding something new to sex will immediately get your juices flowing.
Print out a couple of the stories here and take them to bed with you next time and read them aloud to each other before sex...
something like that.
whew... okok.
Never such a thing as too much sex. No nope noway. What you should do is approach it in a different way. There must be something you need to add to your sex life, change it up a little.. if you never talk dirty - lean up and whisper something really nasty in his ear and watch him go crazy. Most of the time adding something new to sex will immediately get your juices flowing.
Print out a couple of the stories here and take them to bed with you next time and read them aloud to each other before sex...
something like that.
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I've been so depleted that I had to eat to get out of bed. But, no such thing as to much sex. Better check the medical angles.
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This is more common than most people would imagine, and it's usually a mind thing. The more you think there's something wrong, the more it becomes so.
The answer to all this is simple, change you're location, use some toys, smother yourself with whiped cream, in short anything that you don't or haven't tried. They say that variety is the spice of life, that's holds true where sex is concerned.
Above all, be in the mood for sex before even contemplating it. Try experimenting, before you give up on what could possibly be just a phaze.
Carl
The answer to all this is simple, change you're location, use some toys, smother yourself with whiped cream, in short anything that you don't or haven't tried. They say that variety is the spice of life, that's holds true where sex is concerned.
Above all, be in the mood for sex before even contemplating it. Try experimenting, before you give up on what could possibly be just a phaze.
Carl
Ok maybe I'm not the most qualified person to answer this...but I wouldn't be so quick to say that you can't get too much sex...thats bullshit...you can get too much of anything: sex is a physical activity, and while it feels good, it is a very strenous physical activity, and like anything else, you can send the corresponding parts into overdrive. Its no different if you jogged every day...eventually you'd sprain something or tear something from simple overuse. Personally I'd take a week or two off, shoot the shit, relax, build up the tension but not actually screw. Then pick up and see what happens. If you're still in dire straits..then I'd go see a gynecologist. If you're really strapped for cash though I have a set of Medical Encyclopedias and a really wide kitchen table...Ill see what we can work out ^_^
To much sex never, just needs to me moderated. The secret is variety, never the same way twice, and do you fore play?
Plenty of touching until your aroused, lots of kissing every part of each other. I could make you wet by just talking to you, making you feel wanted, creating a desire, and hold you in an aroused state, unitl you could stand it no more. Does you boy friend need lessons? He should never attempt penetration, if you are not wet and ready. Seems he is thinking to much of his own needs more than yours. All I need is a hug.
Plenty of touching until your aroused, lots of kissing every part of each other. I could make you wet by just talking to you, making you feel wanted, creating a desire, and hold you in an aroused state, unitl you could stand it no more. Does you boy friend need lessons? He should never attempt penetration, if you are not wet and ready. Seems he is thinking to much of his own needs more than yours. All I need is a hug.
dehydration is a real risk from a lot of sex, so
drink a lot of fluids... *s*
To really answer your question, you might consider seeing your gynecologist. Any birth control you're taking might be a factor. And there are other things that might be effecting your ability to get wet, as well as your interest level.
Beyond that, experiment and play. Find things that are fun and exciting.
Hey, if "fun" has drifted out of your sexual relationship, look for ways to put it back.
But in the end, the question to answer is whether or not you are still attracted to your lover.
drink a lot of fluids... *s*
To really answer your question, you might consider seeing your gynecologist. Any birth control you're taking might be a factor. And there are other things that might be effecting your ability to get wet, as well as your interest level.
Beyond that, experiment and play. Find things that are fun and exciting.
Hey, if "fun" has drifted out of your sexual relationship, look for ways to put it back.
But in the end, the question to answer is whether or not you are still attracted to your lover.
