Is there such a thing as a homophobic homosexual?

[lesbiaphrodite]

Can a homosexual be homophobic?

 

[sunandshadow]

Absolutely. If someone is biologically programmed to be a homosexual, but socially programmed before and during puberty that homosexuality is disgusting and sinful and etc, you get a very internally conflicted person who probably hates their 'unnatural urges', hates the people who trigger this attraction and the ones who embrace their own homosexuality. A homosexual who has been raised to be homophobic finds themself under a huge amount of psychological pressure because the two really aren't compatible, the person either has to constantly fight to ignore their sexuality or has to gather up the courage to reject their socialization and maybe lose all their family and friends.

I think is really shows how sad and poisonous bigotry is when you see a good person stuck on this path of self-destruction and lashing out at others just because of some religious dogma or social prejudice they were taught to believe before they were old enough to think for themself.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

Yes, it is so intensely sad. I was reading some terribly stupid material from an old Wall St. Journal article written awhile ago about a bunch of guys trying to "convert" themselves from being gay to becoming straight, and I just thought that they truly had to hate themselves to even get into such a "program."

 

[pa-guy]

there is a common belief, I don't know if its supported by any evidence, that the individuals who are most homophobic are in fact, at least to some degree, homosexual. They could be bisexual, or not, but they at least have some homosexual interest and lack the ability or willingness to accept that interest and so they turn to hate to attempt to disguise their true impulses and desires.

Whether any of that is true or not, I havent a clue.

 

[Etoile]

Yup, it causes a lot of confusion and self-loathing. Most people who voluntarily enter "ex-gay" programs are homophobic homosexuals.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ex-gay

 

[fauconier]

Ted Haggard might be a very good example. He is held up as a hypocrite, and there is some truth to this. But he also preached for years against what he was secretly doing himself.

 

[lilsub4u]

Can a homosexual be homophobic?

Absolutely....TED HAGGARD!

Any supposed "Ex-gay"
Most homophobics are said to be projecting internalized homophobia.

 

[Vail_Indigo]

sadly, there is.
Given how horribly gays and lesbians are treated in society, its not surprising that a person who is really homosexual might take to denying that part of themselves, and hating it as well.
And so hating others.

 

[bi_asian_guy]

*****

 

[gagginforit]

Look at J. Edgar Hoover.

There was a man with issues.

 

[Chicklet]

Things like this make me so happy that i'm comfortable with who I am and all the different aspects of my sexuality.

I think it's horrible that people out there hate themselves so much. I've known quite a few homophobic people who I believe are probably homosexuals themselves, but who will live their lives absolutely squashing any desires like that, and therefore never be content with sex.

 

[RisiaSkye]

There are self-hating people of all stripes, and homophobes from any variety of corners, sadly. From there, it's not a big leap really, is it?

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

Definitely. I have a sibling who was a gay basher but was secretly bisexual. Our family is very homophobic and religiously dogmatic because of this so there was a lot hate distilled in us from a very young age. I'm bi also but I've never hated others. I just denied that part of myself. In our family gay and bi would be bad but it is worse for the man not to be "manly". So, I think he has more "I hate myself" issues. I have my fair share, don't get me wrong. There was just a big macho attitude in the family.

So, yes I do believe there are homophobic homosexuals.

Ivy

 

[gagginforit]

I'm not completely comfortable with my bi side, if you'd even call it that. I don't know why, I don't believe there's anything wrong with it, and part of me seems to need it. But part of me doesn't like it. Perhaps because that side of me is such a sub.

It never occured to me to be hostile to anyone because of it though. I'm proud to think of myself as gay friendly.

Just part of the puzzle wrapped in an enigma that is me.