Is there a way to make masturbation better?

[Ladyrookie123]

Here's the run down as my name says I'm a rookie when it comes to ladies, so right off the bad that means virgin. Worse part is I'm 30 and still a virgin due to my repressing my sexual desires for years and never having an interest in releasing that side of myself, so my only way of getting release is through masturbation.

Now when first started masturbating 3 years ago it was actually quite an interesting experience and I'll never forget the feeling I had when I came for the first time, however I've never been able to recapture that feeling at all and in my pursuit to recapture it I also had to learn my body and training my endurance to knowing when I'm about to cum.

However this ended up making things get out of hand and I used to masturbate a total of 7 times a day, every single day for a whole year and every single time I finish I just feel very depressed and angry that it wasn't sex and I end up feeling even more thirsty to have sex each time. Now currently I'm merely doing 3 - 4 times a day while bouncing back and forth between taking a day off in between and trying to stop for a week(only to fail every time) but my strong urge is still there.

So If I'm going to be stuck with this STRONG annoyance, I would like some advice to AT LEAST make this habit useful or pleasurable until I'm finally able to experience the better alternative to this habit which is sex, but I have no idea what I can do to make it worthwhile or any other ways I can somehow use this to my advantage.

Also I would like advice on increasing my chances of shooting when I cum instead of oozing out because I've found out that when I do shoot instead of ooze I don't feel any depression or anger, but my urge to bang is still there.

 

[Debbie]

Here's the run down as my name says I'm a rookie when it comes to ladies, so right off the bad that means virgin. Worse part is I'm 30 and still a virgin due to my repressing my sexual desires for years and never having an interest in releasing that side of myself, so my only way of getting release is through masturbation.

Now when first started masturbating 3 years ago it was actually quite an interesting experience and I'll never forget the feeling I had when I came for the first time, however I've never been able to recapture that feeling at all and in my pursuit to recapture it I also had to learn my body and training my endurance to knowing when I'm about to cum.

However this ended up making things get out of hand and I used to masturbate a total of 7 times a day, every single day for a whole year and every single time I finish I just feel very depressed and angry that it wasn't sex and I end up feeling even more thirsty to have sex each time. Now currently I'm merely doing 3 - 4 times a day while bouncing back and forth between taking a day off in between and trying to stop for a week(only to fail every time) but my strong urge is still there.

So If I'm going to be stuck with this STRONG annoyance, I would like some advice to AT LEAST make this habit useful or pleasurable until I'm finally able to experience the better alternative to this habit which is sex, but I have no idea what I can do to make it worthwhile or any other ways I can somehow use this to my advantage.

Also I would like advice on increasing my chances of shooting when I cum instead of oozing out because I've found out that when I do shoot instead of ooze I don't feel any depression or anger, but my urge to bang is still there.

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My advice is relax. Have a lovely bubble bath, a glass of bubbly or your favourite tipple, play some music. It's not a dash to the finish line. Enjoy yourself.

Go to a small discreet sex shop or shop online and find a few toys that tickle your fancy.

I think you're over thinking things and instead of relaxing you're all tense and annoyed.

Good luck.

 

[Saint Peter]

Take a day off now and then.

Fuck.

 

[Ms_Ann]

Have you tried the David Carradine Method?

 

[LincolnDuncan]

weed improves everything

 

[jezzilee]

I am an evil clown.



Masturbation. Its a beautiful thing. Noone knows you like you know yourseslf, Orgasm, is such a personal thing. To achieve it by yourself is easy. Letting someone else attempt to take you there is a little more difficult at times.

 

[Tryharder62]

To be honest I think you have masturbation down pat. I am wondering about your feelings about not having a relationship. You mentioned some negative emotions. Maybe spend some time figuring out what you want in a relationship and how to go about getting one. Good luck!

 

[Wrong Element]

Get the advice of a serious expert.

PM Eyer.

 

[Aquagal]

You want to shoot instead of ooze, this reads like a dude. Find a masturbator partner, that'll make it better.

 

[pointless]

weed improves everything

truth. they've actually done studies. weed makes sex and jerking it better.

and unlike booze you don't have to worry about whisky dick.

or not fucking remembering it.

or puking all over yourself.

so, yeah, smoke a bowl and treat yourself. you've earned it.

 

[Typo Fu Master]

However this ended up making things get out of hand and I used to masturbate a total of 7 times a day, every single day for a whole year and every single time I finish I just feel very depressed and angry that it wasn't sex and I end up feeling even more thirsty to have sex each time. Now currently I'm merely doing 3 - 4 times a day while bouncing back and forth between taking a day off in between and trying to stop for a week(only to fail every time) but my strong urge is still there.

So If I'm going to be stuck with this STRONG annoyance, I would like some advice to AT LEAST make this habit useful or pleasurable until I'm finally able to experience the better alternative to this habit which is sex, but I have no idea what I can do to make it worthwhile or any other ways I can somehow use this to my advantage

Why is masturbation so unpleasant if you have an orgasm? What do you think will happen with a partner? If all goes according to plan, you'll have an orgasm. Being with someone won't change what you feel (sexually). Some orgasms are better than others but they all feel good. You're too hung up on being a virgin. Unfortunately, I don't think anyone will be able to help you get past that but you.

 

[pointless]

i actually didn't even read the op. i just wanted to remind you all of the benefits of weed.

mainly because i really wish i had some fucking weed right now.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

One of the best ways to make masturbation better is to contract it out.

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[tactful]

Wow, you're definitely off and running. You surely must have some vivid imagination, with various scenarios, for that I applaud you, and you might as well enjoy yourself. Looking to enhance masturbation, may I suggest the "How to Section" and "Story Area", which just might give you the information you seek. Best of Luck, and try not to wake up the neighborhood.

 

[mtrainer]

Order you up a Fleshlight, dont forget to get the accessory warming rod and might as well get the recommended lube... pick up a can of cornstarch at the local Piggly Wiggly... for proper care and maintenance of your new one handed bride.. follow all above instruction about self medicating with pot or freelance out on your own with a nice Merlot or Single Malt.. not too much, mind you... we won't hear from you for another thirty years, you'll forget all about finding a real woman and you'll probably be fabulously wealthy, wearing bi-focals and smiling a lot.

 

[Ladyrookie123]

To be honest I think you have masturbation down pat. I am wondering about your feelings about not having a relationship. You mentioned some negative emotions. Maybe spend some time figuring out what you want in a relationship and how to go about getting one. Good luck!

I just know for a fact once I get a relationship I WILL want to bang ALOT. What I want out of a relationship other than that is just a partner who likes and appreciates me and likes to spend time with me AND is not boring.

 

[Ladyrookie123]

Why is masturbation so unpleasant if you have an orgasm? What do you think will happen with a partner? If all goes according to plan, you'll have an orgasm. Being with someone won't change what you feel (sexually). Some orgasms are better than others but they all feel good. You're too hung up on being a virgin. Unfortunately, I don't think anyone will be able to help you get past that but you.

Because I keep feeling angsty, depressed and annoyed that I ended up cumming from my hand and not by another person. The only exception is when I shoot instead of ooze but that does NOT happen often hence why I'm wondering what I can do to increase the chances of shooting more often.

And how the heck do I multi-quote on here?

 

[Debbie]

Are you finding it hard to meet people in the hope of a sexual relationship or a booty call?


There is no shame in spending time with a ladies/men of the night. Even if it's to ask them to watch you masturbate for your own excitement.


Just be careful for safety reasons. As in common sense. Don't go somewhere where no one knows where you are etc.

 

[Ladyrookie123]

Are you finding it hard to meet people in the hope of a sexual relationship or a booty call?


There is no shame in spending time with a ladies/men of the night. Even if it's to ask them to watch you masturbate for your own excitement.


Just be careful for safety reasons. As in common sense. Don't go somewhere where no one knows where you are etc.

Yes I am finding it hard because I have no idea how to go about getting either of these exactly.

I know there's no shame in it, I just personally don't want to lose my virginity to a lady of the night, the most I'd be okay with doing with them is letting them give me a blowjob.

 

[Debbie]

Good places to meet people can be singles nights, friends who know you and you can trust to try and set you up on blind dates or a double date, there are always dating agencies that will help you. Of course it's not free but it's an idea.

Do you have hobbies?

That can be a great way to meet people.

Book clubs

Bowling.

Volunteering at pet shelters

Nightclubs

Golf.

Chess.

Gardening.

You might like to try some of the other forums and strike up conversations with other posters and have some joy meeting someone in your area or maybe emailing, chatting etc.

 

[Ladyrookie123]

Good places to meet people can be singles nights, friends who know you and you can trust to try and set you up on blind dates or a double date, there are always dating agencies that will help you. Of course it's not free but it's an idea.

Do you have hobbies?

That can be a great way to meet people.

Book clubs

Bowling.

Volunteering at pet shelters

Nightclubs

Golf.

Chess.

Gardening.

You might like to try some of the other forums and strike up conversations with other posters and have some joy meeting someone in your area or maybe emailing, chatting etc.

Well unfortunately I don't have any closeby friends anymore as all of them either moved or stopped talking to me. I don't exactly know what you mean by singles night though and I've actually never heard of dating agencies.

Of course I have hobbies, but other than nightclubs(which I haven't done in a while) they're all nerdy by nature.

I thought people on message forums generally don't try to meet, but I suppose that's an idea.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Saint Peter]

How far are you from New Zealand?

 

[Ladyrookie123]

I'm quite far from New Zealand. Never been there actually. I'm from crappy Ohio

 

[Debbie]

Well unfortunately I don't have any closeby friends anymore as all of them either moved or stopped talking to me. I don't exactly know what you mean by singles night though and I've actually never heard of dating agencies.

Of course I have hobbies, but other than nightclubs(which I haven't done in a while) they're all nerdy by nature.

I thought people on message forums generally don't try to meet, but I suppose that's an idea.

Maybe try and make new friends. Friendship for most humans is very important.


Many have met here and coupled up. Some have been together now for years even decades.

Just be sensible. Don't be too trusting. Don't give out TMI but go have fun and may you go forth and prosper, newbie.