Is the Seven Year Itch the Same for the GLBT community

[Erinite]

I hear so much about the seven year itch that couples go through in hetro relationships. My partner and I are going on 7 years, and I think we have already been through the itch a few years ago.

So do you think we go through the Itch the same as hetrosexuals?

Have you and yours been through the Itch and survived?

 

[CrowdedStranger]

married just over 20 years here. bi,wife knows. i get the itch for both genders. we've survived but i feel more alienated now than ever. maybe its that midlife thing now. i really needed another problem lol

 

[none2_none2]

I think it is human nature to fantasize about sex. I don't think there is something special about 7 years. My partner and I have been together now for 7 years and almost 5 months. From my perspective, there is a lot of stress, but it is over financial matters, etc -- not over sexual matters. Even if I someone else who was "my type" was all over me and it was in a situation that my partner would never know, I still wouldn't act on it.

Why? For me there are several reasons:

1)Over years of living you learn what really matters. You realize that there will always be someone more attractive, more endowed, more charming, more intelligent, etc. What matters is your reputation. I never could understand telling someone you are romantically in love with them, but want others too. In the past, when I was on the other end of such relationships, I realized just how shallow the relationships were. The relationships revolved around THEM and their sex/romantic needs. The funny thing is that it had little to do with sex drive. I was always the one with the higher sex drive. No matter how drained they were, they still felt the need for more partners. My partner knows, I can be a pain to live with at times, but one thing he can count on is that he has all of me. I don't hold out something, some other side life -- neither a romantic trist nor an anonymous mouth or ass on the other side of a gloryhole.

2) I think another difference is age. Having sex twice in a row just doesn't happen anymore. I used to be able to be good for a few rounds a night. Those Olympic days are over now. So the urgency of having sex because my partner isn't around, isn't in the mood, or we have had an argument and I need a sex stress relief just isn't there anymore. I'll take matters into my own hands, or wait until he is in the mood.

3) Another difference is that past experiences have let me know that most encounters with someone new doesn't usually surpass those with someone who you mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually understand over time. I have had SO many partners in the past, that I know that any uniqueness in the experience is rather overrated. Any excitement in a "new" individual would be diminished with all the "work" that would go into me enjoying the encounter. Would the individual want to get fucked? If not, what is really in it for me? Would I want to go back to the less enjoyable sex days of wearing a condom or risk an STD to my partner? Would I enjoy having to get a magnifying glass out afterwards to make sure I didn't get crabs? Would this guy be clean? If the guy is gay, is he going to get all weird on me afterwards because I am very unique in my opinions on many topics? Even worse, if he is not gay, is he going to get all "I'm not really gay" on me during the act or afterwards? It is very rude. To make analogy, imagine going to the store and seeing a shinny pair of patent leather shoes. They look FANTASTIC, but they are never as comfortable as a pair of your own worn loafers.