Is she? Isn't she?

[JennyRocks]

Is it worth it to risk losing a friend when you really actually want to date and have a relationship with them?

My friend knows I'm bisexual and if I make too much of a pass at her to test the waters I might lose her as a friend.
I don't know if she'd be comfortable around me if I try to take it to another level and she never had the idea in her head. I think we are both on the same wavelength, but what if I'm just reading siglnals wrong. And what if she is bisexual and I just don't know, but what if I approach her and it goes bad and I lose a wonderful and needed friendship?

Oh, and the reason I think we are on the same wave length is that I did take a small chance and I was rubbing her arm outside a club. She didn't shy away or seem upset.

 

[John Doe]

My advice is to talk to her about it, unless you think the conversation itself would strain the relationship.

 

[geishaGirl]

I would say to bring it up with your friend I say this for a few reasons but mostly because my current girlfriend told me of how a long time ago she liked a girl who was a friend of hers and never told her and talked to her about it and they lost touch but got back in contact again and found out that both of them had liked each other anyway!

As far as pushing the friendship and making things uncomfortable, maybe you could reassure your friend that whatever she tells you will be respected by you....that way she shouldn't feel 'funny' afterwards if she's not interested in you more than a friend.

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

A great way is to make a hypothetical question game out of it. Ask a few question steering it towards sex and eventually include yourself in the hypothetical situations. That should get you the information you want.

 

[JennyRocks]

A great way is to make a hypothetical question game out of it. Ask a few question steering it towards sex and eventually include yourself in the hypothetical situations. That should get you the information you want.

Fantastic advice. I laid the groundwork to add my own name into the hypothetical situations, but this weekend I did have her over at my house and I was posing hypo questions to delve into her sexuality.

We were both a drunk and we had some good naughty fun playing a game of Truth or Truth (i think if dare had been in there I would have pushed it too far)

She found stuff out about me and I know some things too.

Like,

she has kissed a girl before

thought about a female relationship

hung out with women in the nude(changing clothes, comparing breasts)

and more.

We're set to go to the Zoo on Monday so that I can take some photos of the tiger pit for a project I'm working on.

so new question

Where do I find GUTS? Never asked a person out on a real date before, let alone a member of the same sex. It's happened to me before, but I never had to be the one "putting myself out there"