Is quality better than quantity?

[peeeepers]

Just curious, do you think it's better to make glorious, passionate love one to two times a week or to do it more often with less passion? I'm a 48 year old woman with a 54 year old husband and he's just not in the mood as often as I am. But when he is it is great! I know, you all will tell me to use a vibrator but that just isn't the same for me. How do I get him in the mood more often or should I just accept things the way they are? I don't think he likes it when I'm too aggressive. (maybe I need a hobby. )

 

[likes_to_purr]

well maybe it's cuz I'm married and have had the same lover now for over ten years that I'd have to go with quality...I'd rather have mindblowing, sweaty, screaming at the top of my lungs body wracking sex once or twice a week (which lucky me happens to be the case) than to have bland eh why not sex every day...

 

[dreamer]

quality

Masturbation is for the quantity. When I'm with someone I want quality, even if the moons have to align for us to both be in the right mood..hehe.

 

[schatz]

I must also agree that quality is the forerunner. I may be in the minority of men, but I'm not too fond of quickies either. I like to take my time and enjoy my partner's body and see to her pleasure. I am also not interested in sex every day of the week. I would count myself lucky that you have a man that enjoys satisfying you and is not just looking to "bust a quick nut".

 

[DDebby]

Quality is much more important to me than quantity. Masterbation is a nice way to fill in the blanks, toys, fruits or veggies, especially with a shower massage...

 

[dreamer]

shower

You gals and that damn shower nozzel. I wish it worked for me as well as so many of you report...sigh...

 

[lovetoread]

I would ask him if he minded if I masturbated in the bed next to him. Not hidden away,but right there. Dont be ugly about it-just tell him you are feeling horny and if he doesnt want to make love,you are going to get off because you need to.

Make alot of noise when you do this.

Dont hide under the blankets either.

Spread yourself wide and get busy. A loud vibrater would work good also. Let the sounds of your wetness and moans fill the bedroom.

A night or two like this and he will definitely be in the mood.

Other ways to get him going is to find a story or two that you know would make him hot,print it out and give it to him when he has a chance to read it.

Take some nudie shots of yourself and give it to him.

Some people have this idea that older women dont want sex,dont need sex, and dont have the "urge".

Show him that you do.

Have fun and dont make sex the end all be all. If he likes to snuggle and kiss...do that and then get yourself off. It may not be the same,but at least its something.

Also,if its not too embarrassing for you,give him the vibrator and let him get you off if he isnt in the mood.

That is something I think is very erotic.

(p.s. I personally love the shower head. )

 

[Different Guy]

It's what a married couple's sex life should be about. Quality lurv makin! I say in all cases it should be quality over quantity or else it's just crap if it ain't good ain't it?

 

[Luvinit]

Quality!

After all these years, quantity just ain't happenin'. I love it when my man and I "click" in our lovemaking. Why, ever since I found this website, sex for us is getting better and better! I'm getting so many ideas for him from the How To threads and I can't wait to try them out.

We've been through the non-quality sessions. Damn. That's too much like work.

 

[OldAllisWD45]

Re: quality

Masturbation is for the quantity. When I'm with someone I want quality, even if the moons have to align for us to both be in the right mood..hehe.

I agree with Dreamer....... If I just want to get off i'll masturbate if I want something more I talk the wife into it.....

 

[huskie]

Re: Quality!

After all these years, quantity just ain't happenin'. I love it when my man and I "click" in our lovemaking. Why, ever since I found this website, sex for us is getting better and better! I'm getting so many ideas for him from the How To threads and I can't wait to try them out.

We've been through the non-quality sessions. Damn. That's too much like work.

It's good that he will listen to your new ideas (from this board and other places) and then try them out...... That is really the key, is to at least TRY!

Peeepers
54 yr. old man sex drive down. Will he try some of the vitemans out there that will boost it up? Like Ginsyng and Gynco?? I personaly like Ginsyng Tea. If he drinks it after say 5 pm it will keep him up and make it hard to sleep...... course that may be a good thing for you.

 

[DopeyAngel]

*sigh* you are all so right!

 

[peeeepers]

Re: Re: Quality!

It's good that he will listen to your new ideas (from this board and other places) and then try them out...... That is really the key, is to at least TRY!

Peeepers
54 yr. old man sex drive down. Will he try some of the vitemans out there that will boost it up? Like Ginsyng and Gynco?? I personaly like Ginsyng Tea. If he drinks it after say 5 pm it will keep him up and make it hard to sleep...... course that may be a good thing for you.

Huskie- He takes vitamins and high blood pressure medicine which I think is the problem. I would love to have him take the gingko biloba or ginseng but he can't with the medication. I guess the best thing that works is to leave the Adam & Eve catalog out where he will find it. So what if he gets turned on by the pictures? I get the benefits
Thanks to all of you that responded with all the good ideas. I appreciate your help.

 

[huskie]

Re: Re: Re: Quality!

Huskie- He takes vitamins and high blood pressure medicine which I think is the problem. I would love to have him take the gingko biloba or ginseng but he can't with the medication. I guess the best thing that works is to leave the Adam & Eve catalog out where he will find it. So what if he gets turned on by the pictures? I get the benefits
Thanks to all of you that responded with all the good ideas. I appreciate your help.

Oh NO. I didn't know that ginsyng and ginko could mess with your blood pressure?? Or does it just mess with the high blood pressure medicine?? Most of the men in my family are on it. I'm 35 and I guess my time is coming up?? I take gynsing every morning. Am I doing my self harm?? blood pressure wise??

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

I don't remember who said it....

But one of my favorite Quotes is " I would rather make love for 7 hours once a week then to make love for an hour everyday". With that said I just want the record to reflect that I am willing to compramise and do both! Or I would be willing to go as far as to say I would even take giving up sex for a month to a one 30 hour session of unbridled love making.

But that is just my opinion and it is worth what I charge for it.

HMC

 

[huskie]

To answer the post.

Quality is always better than quantity. Assuming that the high quality sex lasted more than an hour, I cam more than once and my wife actualy did get a little kinky. If that was not enough, for what ever reason I could allways jack off.

huskie

 

[marksgirl]

I agree wit "Luvinit" Quantity ain't happening! But Quality is! Make it special each time, it's worth the time!

 

[Belilica]

I'd personally go for quality myself, but if you really want to get some, this always worked for me, wake him up with oral sex. He wakes up hard and aroused. You could also make him wait all day for the grand finale, and make it a day of foreplay. That can be satisfying too. You know, fondle him in the hallway... etc. That way, you could get quality as well as quantity....

-Bel

 

[Route66Girl]

Hehehe

Quality all the way, baby! Just as the others have said.

Everything else is a waste of time.

Believe me, I know. When it comes to waiting for quality, as opposed to settling for quantity...well, I've been down both avenues.

Quanitity =

Quality = + YEOW!

 

[peeeepers]

I'd personally go for quality myself, but if you really want to get some, this always worked for me, wake him up with oral sex. He wakes up hard and aroused. You could also make him wait all day for the grand finale, and make it a day of foreplay. That can be satisfying too. You know, fondle him in the hallway... etc. That way, you could get quality as well as quantity....

-Bel

Thanks Belilica! Maybe after a few hours of sleep he would be ready. I don't know why I didn't think of this. I love to be woke up with him at my nipple. Ummmm!

 

[Belilica]

Not a prob, glad to be of assistance. It is great when woken up this way too. Maybe you could go about it by telling him "fair is fair" hehe.....

-Bel

 

[petrel]

quality and quantity

I'm afraid i like it both ways (well as a bI switch i woudl wouldn't i) I find that if we don't get more than the national average (twice a week) I get moody and depressed and then go off sex entirely (aaaargh)

I like to have sex often but for me sex includes talking about sexy thoughts, cuddles in bed, mutual masturbation, kissing and licking massages etc etc right through to hard core nasty screaming sex.

It can be fun when you've been apart or unable to have sex for a while thoguh and then you finally get some so I guess in this case quality wins out. I actually find that quality increases with a reasonable amount of sex. As stated above if I only have sex once a week or less I start to lose interest as my body switches off in self defence. Kinda like when you are hungry and can't get any food after a while you stop being hungry - you've 'gone past it'.