Is Porn Ruining Our Sex Lives?

[PennLady]

When mommy went to work was the same time that everybody started to get the labor saving devices. Who sold them to the working folks of america. Who made a profit when Mommy needed to get a second car to drive to work.

I know that when you make statements like this it is easy to say I'm being extreme . But am I? When I look at my country today, I don't see anything to make me think I am wrong.

Women really entered the work force in numbers during WWII, right? So probably yes, there was a rise in demand for labor-saving devices. Because there was no one else to take up the slack. However, they didn't all stay after that; when the men returned, women were out of many jobs.

Everyone looks at their country and thinks it was better way back when. Truth is it wasn't, although it wasn't so bad, either.

Things would not particularly be better if women remained at home, as SAHMs, washing dishes by hand. Times change, technology advances -- societal change is harder.

And to get way back to the subject, is porn ruining our sex lives, let's not act like pron didn't exist before the internet, or before playboy. It's been around a long time. It may be more accessible, or plentiful now, but if it's ruining sex lives that's hardly a new development.

 

[JackLuis]

Or is the availability of Porn making us aware of how unsatisfied we are?

Could it be that the access to Hard Core Porn makes us eager for a sexual life, more open, more available, and more... If a quiet fuck in the Morning is good, why not a Blow Job with every tank of fuel? We certainly are paying the price and getting little of the perks.

 

[Virtual_Burlesque]

I agree that business is getting two workers for the price of one these days, but it is not because women have joined the workforce. Women have always worked, and quite often for cheap, disagreeable bosses. It is just that originally these bosses were their fathers or husbands and (practically) their owners. When mommy went to work, she probably did so with a whoop of joy!

I may have the timing a bit off, but I believe the first career, offering women the ability to earn their own living was in education. About that same time, the nursing profession was being revolutionized, and offered hard, specialized labor for which women were ideally suited.

Young women began creeping into the business world with the invention of the typewriter and the telephone. By combining typewriter (the original name for both the machine and its operator) with the telephone, as well as the skills of a personal servant, the secretary was born.

To a lesser degree in World War One, but much more so during World War Two, women followed their men to war in ancillary roles. Both times, as in every war, the women left behind had to take up the slack of her missing father, brother, or husband. During World War Two, especially, heavy industry required women to not only take over the roles of the missing men, but to beef up production to an even higher output.

Of course, once the war was over, the women were bustled back to their kitchens and again told that they were only good to feed and clean their menfolk, give birth and maintain the children while not failing to look as young and pretty as they once did when the old geezers they married walked them down the aisle.

Since the 1920's companies had begun manufacturing and improving equipment to help take some of the labor out of labor-intensive household chores. These mechanical aids combined with memories of the satisfaction derived from being a wage earner was all the motivation some women needed. Instead of remaining her husband’s complete dependent, many women returned to the workforce.

Understandably, there was a backlash both from men who found themselves in competition with women for a job, as well as from men no longer the only income earner, and upset by the decreased authority this allowed them. This backlash became both heated and obsessive.

The advent of the birth control pill promised women freedom from unplanned and unanticipated childbirth, ringing the death knell for the final, fallacious objection to women holding important business positions.

Early in the 1970's, women’s battle to be taken seriously in the workplace and their fight to control their own reproduction system coalesced into the Feminist Movement.

Over the decades those women have helped to raise this nation as close as it has ever been to a caring, nurturing, sustaining society — women and men with intelligence who have desired to see everyone with, at worst, the minimum that they require, the freedom to seek more, and the hope that those extra efforts help to raise all to a higher minimum.

Unfortunately, there are men in tall buildings, with large savings, fabulous salaries and insatiable appetites, who apparently conceive of America as a giant Monopoly game, where slowly everybody is forced out, until all the money and property belongs to them.

This is obviously so ridiculous a concept that it is a wonder any sentient being can hold it. What is even more unimaginable is that they still have influence over the game’s losers, and players with a few more rounds to play before they must resign. Somehow, they have convinced these misguided players that the game isn’t fixed, and that they still have a chance to win.

It is not that the corporations have dangled any “shiny object of independence” before women. Women have fought many bloody battles over their concept of what society should be, and their place in it. They have won their freedom on their own merit.

If you really wish to learn why we have so little of what we once had in abundance just forty years ago, first, stop blaming women. Second, attend the nearest OCCUPY WALL STREET protest.

They frequently have lectures. Keep both your ears and your mind open. If nothing else, it might change your definition of what is pornographic.