Is my wife too straight, or am I too bi?

[Wildthoughts228]

Ok, Ive been meaning to post this thread for a while. I need advice, please, from people with experience or people who know something about what I'm going through.

My wife and I have been married 8 years, family, successful...etc. I am also military and currently gone overseas in a "bad" place.

For years, I have wanted to try to "fuck" and "be fucked"...not always mind you, but sometimes I just need sex to be "fucking". I do not ever remember a time when we have really "fucked"...but we make incredible love...sounds sappy sometimes, but that is the truth. I have also expressed my desire to be penetrated by her with a vibe that I have (and I have also told her the idea of getting fucked by her with a strapon is a huge turn-on for me...but it always freaked her out. Since, I've been gone, she has told me she "may" be more open to something like that in the future...but we will see.

Lately though, through talking to people, I have openly discovered that I desire to try new things also, like bringing new people in for free sex, couples, MFM, FMF, swinging, and expiriment with my bisexuality, which has always loomed over me. I can understand that some of it may be too much, but she is really tuning most of it out. She claims to identify with some of it in fantasy, but not at all , really, in the prospect of any of it becoming reality...ever. She used to verbalize a desire to try women, but I do not believe that urge would ever materialize in her anymore. I desire oral, anal, dom, sub fnatasies with both genders...and my fantasies are very strong these days...part of the reason I'm so bent out of shape about all this.

I have met people on the internet and a few couples who I actually know, who have found incredible fulfillment in these acts...and I really want to do it too. I want to suck men off...sometimes I am infatuated by the thought of being a bottom or a cumslut...I really think I would love it...for real. She is very weirded out about it. But since I know her so well, I truly believe that if she ever got the chance to fuck another guy or girl herself, she would love it! (as long as the ice was broken properly). I am never trying to get her to do anything she does not want, but at the same time, I think she has a lot of sexual potential she is not meeting. She is totally hot, and a very sexual creature by nature, but just very reserved and emotional in her attachment of love to sex. I love her, but I want to try new things, cuz I'm not getting any younger, and I want complete fulfillment before Im old and wrinkly. LOL.

In future posts, I will DEFINITELY want to expand on my desires and my kinks...I have a lot of them. Almost none of them have ever been fulfilled before, so my sexual tank is pretty empty most of the time.

It is worthy to mention that my wife is 33, works part time, and fulfilling the role of mom, dad, teacher, housewife, paying bills, and still trying to have time for herself while I'm gone. She is an incredible woman, and nobody can imagine how much I love her. She is a knockout.

Please note that I am willing to hear anybody's views or advice on this. She is a lurker on Lit, so she I have informed her this thread will be here to read what we post, and I have a couple other close friends online who have already agreed to post here as well. Please, nobody proposition me for meetings or photos on this thread. If you want to talk offline, please PM me.

Thanks guys, I'll be in and out, and always turned on to discuss anything sexual.

-Wild

 

[infinity706]

Well, if these are something you want, but she doesn't why not ask her if it would be ok for you to try some of them on your own? Who knows, she might even like to watch even if she has no desire to participate.

 

[Wildthoughts228]

well....

Well, if these are something you want, but she doesn't why not ask her if it would be ok for you to try some of them on your own? Who knows, she might even like to watch even if she has no desire to participate.

I can say that she does not have any interest in watching or participating at this time. If it were that simple, I would come home and go crazy...but in my mind that is cheating (well...maybe not if she knew about it, but it could still present a problem with her). One of my main fantasies is a cum facial from several guys who are into both me and my wife...(In case you couldn't figure it out, I am a very oral person whe it cums to sex)

I'm looking for ways of convincing her that this might be something that I need to explore, but also convince her that I have a sexual side that wants to be explored with her, and not separate from her. If she could see just how much pleasure could be gained from other people and trying new things, I truly think that it would strengthen out relationship even more, and add a hot new dimension that has always been absent in out sex life together.

And a lot of the fantasies do not even involve other people, just her performing acts with me, such as domination and submission, spanking, F2M Strapon, role playing, etc etc etc. I'm a pretty bad boy sometimes, but not at the expense of pushing her limits. I need advice on how to expand her limits, so I don't have to overstep them. I'm a fun, wild, enthusiastic dude who needs an outlet. I want my sexy wife to be the catalyst, not a sidebar or distraction, but rather the main attraction!

Thanks for the response....keep em cumming.

 

[texharley]

Ok, Ive been meaning to post this thread for a while. I need advice, please, from people with experience or people who know something about what I'm going through.

My wife and I have been married 8 years, family, successful...etc. I am also military and currently gone overseas in a "bad" place.

For years, I have wanted to try to "fuck" and "be fucked"...not always mind you, but sometimes I just need sex to be "fucking". I do not ever remember a time when we have really "fucked"...but we make incredible love...sounds sappy sometimes, but that is the truth. I have also expressed my desire to be penetrated by her with a vibe that I have (and I have also told her the idea of getting fucked by her with a strapon is a huge turn-on for me...but it always freaked her out. Since, I've been gone, she has told me she "may" be more open to something like that in the future...but we will see.

Lately though, through talking to people, I have openly discovered that I desire to try new things also, like bringing new people in for free sex, couples, MFM, FMF, swinging, and expiriment with my bisexuality, which has always loomed over me. I can understand that some of it may be too much, but she is really tuning most of it out. She claims to identify with some of it in fantasy, but not at all , really, in the prospect of any of it becoming reality...ever. She used to verbalize a desire to try women, but I do not believe that urge would ever materialize in her anymore. I desire oral, anal, dom, sub fnatasies with both genders...and my fantasies are very strong these days...part of the reason I'm so bent out of shape about all this.

I have met people on the internet and a few couples who I actually know, who have found incredible fulfillment in these acts...and I really want to do it too. I want to suck men off...sometimes I am infatuated by the thought of being a bottom or a cumslut...I really think I would love it...for real. She is very weirded out about it. But since I know her so well, I truly believe that if she ever got the chance to fuck another guy or girl herself, she would love it! (as long as the ice was broken properly). I am never trying to get her to do anything she does not want, but at the same time, I think she has a lot of sexual potential she is not meeting. She is totally hot, and a very sexual creature by nature, but just very reserved and emotional in her attachment of love to sex. I love her, but I want to try new things, cuz I'm not getting any younger, and I want complete fulfillment before Im old and wrinkly. LOL.

In future posts, I will DEFINITELY want to expand on my desires and my kinks...I have a lot of them. Almost none of them have ever been fulfilled before, so my sexual tank is pretty empty most of the time.

It is worthy to mention that my wife is 33, works part time, and fulfilling the role of mom, dad, teacher, housewife, paying bills, and still trying to have time for herself while I'm gone. She is an incredible woman, and nobody can imagine how much I love her. She is a knockout.

Please note that I am willing to hear anybody's views or advice on this. She is a lurker on Lit, so she I have informed her this thread will be here to read what we post, and I have a couple other close friends online who have already agreed to post here as well. Please, nobody proposition me for meetings or photos on this thread. If you want to talk offline, please PM me.

Thanks guys, I'll be in and out, and always turned on to discuss anything sexual.

-Wild

Well I do have a little experience with a wife that is not open to such things. Your wife being a lurker here is in my opinion somewhat opened. I love my wife and I get my bi side out on forums like this. As much as I would love to suck a dick and be assfucked and share a cock with a lady I do not because I do love my wife and respect her enough to supress my desires. Some women are just not willing to have sex with anyone than their spouses. If a woman is willing great open marriages are great. I do feel that if my wife would allow herself to experience another oman and another man she would love it but I also know she would be guilt ridden because she feels it is sinful. Just know that since your wife does lurk here then she could be open to your fantasies someday. Good luck to you both.

 

[texharley]

I can say that she does not have any interest in watching or participating at this time. If it were that simple, I would come home and go crazy...but in my mind that is cheating (well...maybe not if she knew about it, but it could still present a problem with her). One of my main fantasies is a cum facial from several guys who are into both me and my wife...(In case you couldn't figure it out, I am a very oral person whe it cums to sex)

I'm looking for ways of convincing her that this might be something that I need to explore, but also convince her that I have a sexual side that wants to be explored with her, and not separate from her. If she could see just how much pleasure could be gained from other people and trying new things, I truly think that it would strengthen out relationship even more, and add a hot new dimension that has always been absent in out sex life together.

And a lot of the fantasies do not even involve other people, just her performing acts with me, such as domination and submission, spanking, F2M Strapon, role playing, etc etc etc. I'm a pretty bad boy sometimes, but not at the expense of pushing her limits. I need advice on how to expand her limits, so I don't have to overstep them. I'm a fun, wild, enthusiastic dude who needs an outlet. I want my sexy wife to be the catalyst, not a sidebar or distraction, but rather the main attraction!

Thanks for the response....keep em cumming.

well I do suggest you do nothing without her approval. That would be bad. If she gives you the okay to expeiement with gusy then go for it. Just keep the bi talk open with her.

 

[iswallowloads]

Ok, Ive been meaning to post this thread for a while. I need advice, please, from people with experience or people who know something about what I'm going through.

My wife and I have been married 8 years, family, successful...etc. I am also military and currently gone overseas in a "bad" place.

For years, I have wanted to try to "fuck" and "be fucked"...not always mind you, but sometimes I just need sex to be "fucking". I do not ever remember a time when we have really "fucked"...but we make incredible love...sounds sappy sometimes, but that is the truth. I have also expressed my desire to be penetrated by her with a vibe that I have (and I have also told her the idea of getting fucked by her with a strapon is a huge turn-on for me...but it always freaked her out. Since, I've been gone, she has told me she "may" be more open to something like that in the future...but we will see.

Lately though, through talking to people, I have openly discovered that I desire to try new things also, like bringing new people in for free sex, couples, MFM, FMF, swinging, and expiriment with my bisexuality, which has always loomed over me. I can understand that some of it may be too much, but she is really tuning most of it out. She claims to identify with some of it in fantasy, but not at all , really, in the prospect of any of it becoming reality...ever. She used to verbalize a desire to try women, but I do not believe that urge would ever materialize in her anymore. I desire oral, anal, dom, sub fnatasies with both genders...and my fantasies are very strong these days...part of the reason I'm so bent out of shape about all this.

I have met people on the internet and a few couples who I actually know, who have found incredible fulfillment in these acts...and I really want to do it too. I want to suck men off...sometimes I am infatuated by the thought of being a bottom or a cumslut...I really think I would love it...for real. She is very weirded out about it. But since I know her so well, I truly believe that if she ever got the chance to fuck another guy or girl herself, she would love it! (as long as the ice was broken properly). I am never trying to get her to do anything she does not want, but at the same time, I think she has a lot of sexual potential she is not meeting. She is totally hot, and a very sexual creature by nature, but just very reserved and emotional in her attachment of love to sex. I love her, but I want to try new things, cuz I'm not getting any younger, and I want complete fulfillment before Im old and wrinkly. LOL.

In future posts, I will DEFINITELY want to expand on my desires and my kinks...I have a lot of them. Almost none of them have ever been fulfilled before, so my sexual tank is pretty empty most of the time.

It is worthy to mention that my wife is 33, works part time, and fulfilling the role of mom, dad, teacher, housewife, paying bills, and still trying to have time for herself while I'm gone. She is an incredible woman, and nobody can imagine how much I love her. She is a knockout.

Please note that I am willing to hear anybody's views or advice on this. She is a lurker on Lit, so she I have informed her this thread will be here to read what we post, and I have a couple other close friends online who have already agreed to post here as well. Please, nobody proposition me for meetings or photos on this thread. If you want to talk offline, please PM me.

Thanks guys, I'll be in and out, and always turned on to discuss anything sexual.

-Wild

I can see how she would identify with it in fantasy but not want to try it. A lot of people are like that, and a good number of them try out their fantasies and don't end up liking them. Sexuality is one of, if not THE, most complicated part of a person. So don't make the mistake of thinking she's holding herself back from reaching her "sexual potential". She might be, but not wanting fantasy to become reality isn't really enough evidence of it.

I also think you may already have the answer to your dilemma. Her "attachment of love to sex" might just be a big part of who she is. I'm a pretty monogamous person myself. I'm lucky to have a woman in my life that doesn't mind my little fetish, but if we get more serious and she asks me to stop, I won't think twice about it. Love is an emotion, sex is physical. For many people, maybe even most, combining the two is all they'll ever need.

That being said, I think the strap-on option is a pretty good compromise. It's probably even fairly common.

On a side note, thanks for being in that bad place, try to stay safe and good luck to both of you.

 

[romantic_always]

My boyfriend has fooled around with men and I appreciate the openness it has brought to our relationship-I don't feel threatened or worried, but mainly that's because we have no desire to be with other people.

I agree with what others have said-using a vibrator or strap-on would be a great compromise-it's what my bf and I are currently experimenting with and enjoying it! I was a bit turned off when he first suggested it, but I love him and I want to make him happy (within my limits, of course), so I gave it a shot, and hey, it's pretty fun!




:::I also think you may already have the answer to your dilemma. Her "attachment of love to sex" might just be a big part of who she is. I'm a pretty monogamous person myself. I'm lucky to have a woman in my life that doesn't mind my little fetish, but if we get more serious and she asks me to stop, I won't think twice about it. Love is an emotion, sex is physical. For many people, maybe even most, combining the two is all they'll ever need.:::


I agree with this post-also, fantasies are fantasies and can be incorporated into sex without fully going through with the fantasy-perhaps dominant roleplay would help with your submissive side?

 

[Wildthoughts228]

I guess it's all about baby steps

Today was a good morning here in Iraq for me. It's my 8th anniversary today, I went to bed early and woke up at 5 feeling good. I had my coffee and called the wife...of course it's the night before out anniversary where she is. (Incidentally, I need to apologize to her, I made a typo...she is almost 32, not 33 and I know that...not sure whay I put 33! LOL! Sorry babe!!) We talked for well over an hour and it was great.

So we talked about stuff. I'm taking the advice a few friends have given me...not pressing the issue at all. So for the first time in a while, she initiated the conversation of sex and my kinks, etc. That was cool...made me realize it was a time when she felt comfortable talking about it. We also talked a lot of other things for over an hour...we communicate very well...and I know that is important for women. Life, kids, school, money, missing each other, tattoos, whatever...if conversation does not flow freely, I cannot expect to just interject random thoughts to her her such as "I want you to watch guys jerk off my my face and then smear it around and feed it to me!!!" LOL! (Just an example there...hehe)

Bottom line is, she is NOT cool about everything I have asked of her sexually, and I doubt she ever will be 100% about all of it. But as long as I let talks proceed at her pace, I'm more likely to succeed in my quest.

I'll still play my cards right, so I don't mess this up. My buddy and I really want to get it on when I get home. My wife rocks, but I'm still not totally convinced that she is going to raise the gate immediately and say "Go for it! anything you want to do!" That's just not reasonable.

So, I'm getting ready to have a good JO and cum-smearing and eating session after I run and work out this morning! It helps satiate me! I love the way I taste.

Peace! more to follow!

 

[Wildthoughts228]

Thanks R_A

And thanks for the PM.

We both realize the intimacy and trust involved in doing that. Anal is a yet-to-explore region for us. I desire it more thsn she does, but that is also changing in her thoughts. Personally, I think it feels un-freakin-believable.

I just imagine there is no substitute for the real thing, but regardless...somebody attached to a dong being pounded inside me is better than me lying on my back with a vibe and doing it myself. I just don't want to be in control of the penetration. I want it to be a guy, or my wife...so I can lose myself in a trance and be filled up and fucked into sexual ecstacy.

 

[Wildthoughts228]

Oh, and one more thing...

Sandrason, KS_man, and Romantic,

You can all feel free to post whatever you want on this thread. Everything that have PM'ed back and forth is fair game on this thread. In fact, thats kind of my goal...as many thoughts and perspectives on this subject as possible. Especially since my wife plans on just lurking and reading, but rarely, if ever posting.

She has already comlimented on what's here so far.