Is my GF Straight?

[JohnZee]

Hi,

My new GF likes to watch porn - lesbian porn. She wants a 3-some - strictly with another woman (the most nympho GFs I've had wanted both - and often preferred 2 guys - not that I'd go for that!). She doesn't enjoy watching me jack off (have yet to meet a straight girl who didn't dig that). She doesn't like straight M/F porn. She doesn't seem overtly fascinated with dicks, although loves getting screwed - i.e. the function of the dick.

Hmmm... She obviously has a bi tendency (states obvious). What do you reckon? Should I just see what happens? We get on pretty well, although don't have a massive amount in common in general.

Thanks for any comments.

 

[Ricanbandit]

Dude, are you fucking with me?

have your babe invite a friend and let them use your cock (functionally)

I am trying to sell mine on the idea, just be prepared to feel a little bit inadequate, when women start to get off together it is a force of nature. And knowing that you are just there to add a prop will mess with some guys minds. But if you can get past that, it is the sexiest experience you will probably ever have.

But sooo damn sexy it aint funny. In my opinion there is nothing in the world that can compare with two women sucking on your cock. NOTHING!

Let it happen, sit back relax and have fun

 

[AmandaJane]

No she is not straight and she probably not a lesbian either. Like most of us she falls somewhere in between.

 

[favoritesgoddess]

I had a discussion with a straight friend the other day and she says that she prefers lesbian porn because it's gentler, and it looks like the women are being touched in a way that feels good. M/F porn looks, to her, like the guy is churning butter or using her to get himself off. It's more about the pleasure, not who is giving/receiving it.

 

[subwannabe]

I don't think you are in a long term relationship here. In other words, if you want to be with that one special person for the rest of your life then I think it's time to move on. Otherwise, I say get as much out of this relationship as you can and take advantage of your good fortune while you have it.

 

[Tony_Stark]

have your babe invite a friend and let them use your cock (functionally)

LOL... this made me laugh! "Fuctionally" lol

 

[Tony_Stark]

I had a discussion with a straight friend the other day and she says that she prefers lesbian porn because it's gentler, and it looks like the women are being touched in a way that feels good. M/F porn looks, to her, like the guy is churning butter or using her to get himself off. It's more about the pleasure, not who is giving/receiving it.

This is exactly what my wife says. Females are "prettier" and "cleaner" and more gently... I don't know many females who like to see a guys hairy ass and balls slamming a chick and cumming in her mouth or spitting on them. (Yes, I know there are PLENTY of women that do dig that)

 

[JohnZee]

I don't think you are in a long term relationship here. In other words, if you want to be with that one special person for the rest of your life then I think it's time to move on. Otherwise, I say get as much out of this relationship as you can and take advantage of your good fortune while you have it.

Not that I'm going on the assumption we're getting married - that would improbable, but this is what concerns me. Do you (or anyone else) mind elaborating on why you suspect the above? Thanks.

Yeah - she's pretty much hinted that she has friends who can join us. I have yet to see if they're cute though

 

[SweetErika]

Not that I'm going on the assumption we're getting married - that would improbable, but this is what concerns me. Do you (or anyone else) mind elaborating on why you suspect the above? Thanks.

Yeah - she's pretty much hinted that she has friends who can join us. I have yet to see if they're cute though

It sounds like you'd take issue with her being bi. If that's the case, she's probably not a woman you want to have an LTR with because she may not be straight.

Only she can answer where she feels she falls on the gay-straight spectrum at this point in her life. And, hey, she may not even know for sure because she's never had experiences with women, the right women, etc. But my point is that you need to ask her how she identifies, and discuss any issues surrounding her answer, rather than people on a discussion board.

 

[coastal-boy]

Not that I'm going on the assumption we're getting married - that would improbable...

Given this statement, I have to ask why do you care if she is "straight"?

 

[JohnZee]

Given this statement, I have to ask why do you care if she is "straight"?

I should qualify why I said 'improbable'. I did so purely based on statistical chance. Who knows where we'll be in a year's time?

 

[JohnZee]

It sounds like you'd take issue with her being bi. If that's the case, she's probably not a woman you want to have an LTR with because she may not be straight.

Only she can answer where she feels she falls on the gay-straight spectrum at this point in her life. And, hey, she may not even know for sure because she's never had experiences with women, the right women, etc. But my point is that you need to ask her how she identifies, and discuss any issues surrounding her answer, rather than people on a discussion board.

I don't take issue. My concern is purely that our sex life may not (or may will) evolve in the way I want it to, if she is bi. I guess there could also be emotional issues if she is bi, so that means I probably do take issue...oh what the hell.

If I were advising myself, I'd say pretty much what the guys here have: 'enjoy the ride, chill out and don't think too deeply about the whole thing' - right?

Thanks for all the advice.

 

[SweetErika]

I don't take issue. My concern is purely that our sex life may not (or may will) evolve in the way I want it to, if she is bi. I guess there could also be emotional issues if she is bi, so that means I probably do take issue...oh what the hell.

If I were advising myself, I'd say pretty much what the guys here have: 'enjoy the ride, chill out and don't think too deeply about the whole thing' - right?

Thanks for all the advice.

If you didn't take issue with her sexuality, you probably would be thinking something more along the lines of, 'I might have a girlfriend who enjoys women as well as men...how cool is that?'

Personally, I'd discuss it with her because it may have other implications and I wouldn't want to waste my time or hers if there were likely a major incompatibility. I mean, if you two have agreed the relationship is unlikely to become serious and/or you're totally fine with her being bi and/or possibly exploring with women, there's probably nothing to discuss. If, however, any of those things are factors in how you'll feel or proceed, you really should talk about it ASAP.

 

[subwannabe]

Aside from the fact that you may not be sexually compatible in the long term, you said that you also don't have much in common. That's two strikes already. Three strikes and your relationship is out.

 

[liv21]

Just to be fair, the things you describe about her do not necessarily make her bi/lesbian. I for one am a straight female who enjoys gay (male) porn. Go figure.

Just playing devil's advocate. Although you have gotten a good amount of advice here. This doesn't seem to be working out to be a long-term relationship anyway, but if you want any chance of it surviving, you'll need to have open communication with her.

 

[Reba67]

She doesn't enjoy watching me jack off (have yet to meet a straight girl who didn't dig that).

Well, there are certainly a number of us straight women who don't want to watch you (or any other man) jack off.

You really need to have a conversation with her about sex etc. This isn't something a bunch of people on a discussion board can answer.

 

[coastal-boy]

I don't take issue. My concern is purely that our sex life may not (or may will) evolve in the way I want it to, if she is bi. I guess there could also be emotional issues if she is bi, so that means I probably do take issue...

I see an awful lot of "I" in this reply. I think that says alot. For example...your sex life may not "evolve" the way "you" want it to. Hate to tell you, but good sex involves two people so if this is your attitude, your relationship may be in trouble already. Then there is the comment about "emotional issues"? WTF?

 

[SweetErika]

Then there is the comment about "emotional issues"? WTF?

An awful lot of guys like the idea of bi women, MFFs, lesbian porn, etc., but can't handle the reality at all, even if their partner is completely monogamous. There's always that question of 'What if she meets another woman she likes better than me and/or "goes gay"?' They're totally threatened by their gf/wife liking other women.

To be fair, the same is probably true for a lot of women regarding bi men.

I'm thankful everyday that I'm not married to one of these people.

 

[DuckLover]

Girlfriend

I agree that talking to her is key at this stage. It's possible that she thinks her interest in lesbian porn and MFF threesomes would be LESS threatening and emotionally challenging to you because 1) they fulfill a near-universal male fantasy, and 2) there's no other guy for you to feel competitive with or worry about comparisons.

 

[favoritesgoddess]

Just to be fair, the things you describe about her do not necessarily make her bi/lesbian. I for one am a straight female who enjoys gay (male) porn. Go figure.

Me too! But then there is a chance I'm actually a gay man trapped in a woman's body.

 

[coastal-boy]

An awful lot of guys like the idea of bi women, MFFs, lesbian porn, etc., but can't handle the reality at all, even if their partner is completely monogamous. There's always that question of 'What if she meets another woman she likes better than me and/or "goes gay"?' They're totally threatened by their gf/wife liking other women.

To be fair, the same is probably true for a lot of women regarding bi men.

I'm thankful everyday that I'm not married to one of these people.

that may be it Erika...I may have incorrectly assumed that he was referring to his partner having emotional issue because she may be "bi" and not the issue he may feel. If that is the case then what I am saying is totally 100% wrong.

 

[VikingVito]

I had a discussion with a straight friend the other day and she says that she prefers lesbian porn because it's gentler, and it looks like the women are being touched in a way that feels good. M/F porn looks, to her, like the guy is churning butter or using her to get himself off. It's more about the pleasure, not who is giving/receiving it.

Now that's an interesting way of putting it.
True too

I fucking LOVE 2 chicks going at it.

 

[VikingVito]

Not that I'm going on the assumption we're getting married - that would improbable, but this is what concerns me. Do you (or anyone else) mind elaborating on why you suspect the above? Thanks.

Yeah - she's pretty much hinted that she has friends who can join us. I have yet to see if they're cute though

Dog JUMP THAT TRAIN !

Ask for a cute one and ENJOY
2 chicks licking and sucking your boner and many other good things.

Man Boobs and Holes all around !

Baaaooooohhhhhhhhh !

 

[Eilan]

Dog JUMP THAT TRAIN !

Ask for a cute one and ENJOY
2 chicks licking and sucking your boner and many other good things.

Man Boobs and Holes all around !

Baaaooooohhhhhhhhh !

Man boobs?

 

[BertrandRussell]

Man boobs?

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