Is kissing more intimate than fucking?

[CoolidgEffect]

I am curious about others opinions about this. My first lover would not kiss me. I was essentially a boy toy to her and by not kissing she was putting up a boundry.

I think both are intimate, but fucking without kissing does lack something. Does it make it less personal? Is just kissing more personal than just fucking?

 

[Orwell84]

Depends on what you're kissing.

 

[Jim_Henson]

I've kissed less people than I have fucked, it means more to me.

 

[ksmybuttons]

But making love is the most intimate of all...

 

[cutie pie]

Kissing is way more intimate. If you're holding back on kissing me, then you're holding back on something else. That's been my experience anyway.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

In some ways I equate it to looking at the person when you are talking to them. Eye contact. You might not open your eyes while kissing, but it is a similar thing.

 

[pipercatt]

I think kissing is essential for intimacy. The ex and I got out of the habbit of kissing regularly during sex, and when we realized it, and starting trying to incorporate it more, it just didn't feel right anymore.

Another reason why he's called the ex.

 

[sunstruck]

Yes.

 

[glamorilla]

no lips,no hips.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

I think kissing is essential for intimacy.
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And I read your sig line. I guess Freya's quote doesn't necessarily equate "I love you" with intimacy.

 

[perks]

when I'm doing the penetrating, kissing is more intimate, when I'm being penetrated, it's not.

 

[pipercatt]

And I read your sig line. I guess Freya's quote doesn't necessarily equate "I love you" with intimacy.

Maybe I'm just fickle that way.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

when I'm doing the penetrating, kissing is more intimate, when I'm being penetrated, it's not.

Is this a passive vs. active thing? Kissing is active so it goes with you doing the penetrating, while you view being penetrated as more of a passive experience. You just want to be swept away by it?

Am I making any sense?

 

[perks]

Is this a passive vs. active thing? Kissing is active so it goes with you doing the penetrating, while you view being penetrated as more of a passive experience. You just want to be swept away by it?

Am I making any sense?

you're making sense, but I'm not really passive, unless I'm in a scene.

I think the act of being penetrated by another human being is incredibly intimate. I mean if it is a carrot or something like that, not so intimate, but a throbbing live cock inside you? that's completely intimate.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

you're making sense, but I'm not really passive, unless I'm in a scene.

I think the act of being penetrated by another human being is incredibly intimate. I mean if it is a carrot or something like that, not so intimate, but a throbbing live cock inside you? that's completely intimate.

Okay, so the throbbing live cock rings the intimacy bell and kissing doesn't increase the intimacy level at that point.

But if you are doing the penetrating, as you aren't using a throbbing live cock, then kissing helps ring that bell.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

no lips,no hips.

This situation is interesting to me. I can picture kissing a guy. I suppose it is because I have kissed a family member of the same sex. But I can't see kissing him ... below the belt.

Is it similar for you with women? Kissing a woman doesn't necessary create intimacy?

 

[DevilBoy79]

sometimes, a good kiss can totally turn your life around, trust me i know, right Angel honey? and kissing is very intimate, its the first form of intamacy in a relationship i believe anyway

 

[alltherage]

Kissing hands down.

 

[dreamer]

But making love is the most intimate of all...

Couldn't agree more.

Although kissing is an amazing thing...something I have rediscovered recently after quite a few years of mediocre feelings...

 

[Summery]

Kissing. It all begins not only in my mind, but with a kiss.

 

[perks]

Okay, so the throbbing live cock rings the intimacy bell and kissing doesn't increase the intimacy level at that point.

But if you are doing the penetrating, as you aren't using a throbbing live cock, then kissing helps ring that bell.

of course kissing increases the intimacy but you didn't ask if it increased it, you just asked if kissing was more intimate.

but other than that, I agree with what you said.

 

[intrigued]

Kissing is extremely intimate to me, as is giving oral sex. Therefore, i imagine that kissing while making love would have to be the ultimate...especially if you are looking into eachothers eyes, you are being explored, you are sharing and giving everything you are, ummm...oh, my. I shall stop now.

 

[pipercatt]

This situation is interesting to me. I can picture kissing a guy. I suppose it is because I have kissed a family member of the same sex. But I can't see kissing him ... below the belt.

Is that a little unusual, CE? I've heard hetero guys say that they might be more willing to consider giving another guy oral sex in some situations, but would never Kiss another man for any reason.

 

[InnocentAngel81]

sometimes, a good kiss can totally turn your life around, trust me i know, right Angel honey? and kissing is very intimate, its the first form of intamacy in a relationship i believe anyway

lol i told you that we shouldnt kiss, but thats almost was two years ago. oh well cant return you lost the receipt

 

[juicylips]

This thread made me think. If I could meet the man of my dreams and I had a choice whether to kiss him or fuck him and I could only choose the one......god..

Considering him and how he is...I would choose a long, thorough kiss. I think I would feel totally and utterly devoured and desired if he did that.

JL