Is it wrong to be upset?

[LittleRedDevil]

A week or so ago, I was chatting with a friend of mine from high school. We were talking and I told her things and she said those fateful words. "I have something to tell you."

I an aprehension crawl up my back. I hate those words, they never bode well for me. Then she says, "Promise you won't get mad." I never should have made that promise.

When we were in high school, I knew she had a crush on my brother. Lots of my friends did. Some were friends with me because they wanted to get close to him, but I ignored it because they were hanging out with me. I was a very insecure teenager, I was an insecure everything I guess. I just wanted to fit in.

Basically she told me, in no uncertain terms, She slept with my brother. I was shocked. I didn't know what to say. All those old insecurities welled up and choked me. Was she my friend? I knew she was, but it didn't stop the thought from happening.

Am I wrong to be upset?

 

[CoolCucumber]

Nah, I don't think it's wrong to be upset. But I think you have a right to know why she did it, and if it was her, or him who initiated things. Oh, and don't worry. I'll be your friend just because. If you'd like another friend.
-CoolCucumber

 

[scylis]

she wasn't one of those who was your "friend" just to get a shot at him, was she?

if not, then why should it matter?

 

[LittleRedDevil]

Thank you CC, I can use all the friends I can get.

No, she's not one of those friends, at least I don't think she is. She has always been very geniuine.

Oh, by the way Scylis, I like your icon.

 

[CoolCucumber]

You're welcome. I like making friends. It's so...I don't know, friendly? Nah, I think it's cool to meet people with some similar interests, and want to be cool with as many as possible.
-CoolCucumber

 

[scylis]

Thank you CC, I can use all the friends I can get.

No, she's not one of those friends, at least I don't think she is. She has always been very geniuine.

Oh, by the way Scylis, I like your icon.

why, thank you! actually, thank Mistress, b/c she did most of it..

 

[OUTSIDER]

I think you should ask yourself first, has this person been a good friend, if so then maybe you should just forgive and try to forget......good friends are hard to find but even harder to keep.

 

[Guest]

My thoughts are... let it go. That's the past.

and just be glad she didn't sleep with all of your boyfriends like my ex best friend did.....

 

[Orlanth]

If my bestfriend sleeped with my sister, I would indeed be anoyed. But if they were serious and actully wanted something more then just sex, then I would be a little better about it. Not that I still wont be mad, I'll find it hard to talk to him for awile and get over it. More things in life to worry about.

But to answer the question: Yes, you should be upset.

Just my opinnion.

 

[Angel]

I'd be pretty fucking pissed off if any of my friends wanted to bang my brother...but only because he's 12.


Seriously no. Because it's in the past and you're already sure that she wasn't using you to get to him.

 

[Xander]

actually I think all my friends through teen years, and later, has wanted to sleep with my sister. Only three, as far as I know actually succeeded.

Didn't piss me off. My sister is only a year younger than me. She dont need big brother to look after her.

Actually i found it quite amuzing to watch them cringe in my presence after they did it.

LRD, let it slide

 

[Beebeeblue]

So she fucked your brother. Im sorry, but it was their decision, and it shouldnt bother you. Now, if she had said she slept with your boyfriend? Id kick her ass. But thats just me.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Basically - what BBB said.

I don't get what's wrong with her sleeping with your brother, and certainly don't think there's anything for you to forgive, it's none of your buiiness.

 

[LittleRedDevil]

I guess I'm more worried about her than anything. I know my brother. He's a player to say the least. I've seen him do it countless times to other girls. I don't want to say anything because like you all said it's none of my business. But she is my friend, and I love her like a sister.

 

[LittleRedDevil]

Basically - what BBB said.

I don't get what's wrong with her sleeping with your brother, and certainly don't think there's anything for you to forgive, it's none of your buiiness.

I never said I had anything to forgive her for, I just asked if it was wrong for me to be upset.