Is it worse

[Radiohead]

to be in love with someone

 

[RedShambhala]

to be in love with someone

Love is like Mozart.
At best, wonderfully beautiful but always with a tender depression, a vulnerable melancholy in it...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQWJkUUptZg
...and often simply overrated in the sense of being deified and mysticized.

(Karl Barth once wrote that if he'd make it to heaven, he wouldn't look for Augustine, Aquinas and Calvin first but for Mozart; and Kierkegaard wrote about founding a cult that only worships Mozart's opera "Don Giovanni". Admittedly, he called his own adoration of him "a bit effeminate and silly" and who am I to disagree with the great philosopher here...)

 

[elli1point1]

Love is like Mozart. At best, wonderfully beautiful but always with a tender depression, a vulnerable melancholy in it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQWJkUUptZg
And often simply overrated.

when it's mutual, how can the feeling of being in love be overrated?
it fills me with joy and excitement; makes me silly and optimistic and anxious all at once; makes my heart beat so fast I can feel it from my cheeks to my toes; and, sometimes, makes me cry.

 

[RedShambhala]

when it's mutual, how can the feeling of being in love be overrated?

I think it's "overrated" in the sense that at the end of the day, "love" is also not a rock on which you can confidently build your house on, but sand that more often than not gives away come rain and flood. Consider, for instance, how many marriages are getting divorced, how the occurrence of love can be predicted by socio-economical factors, how parents kill their own children, how not all parents actually DO love their own children, how it results in suicide, despair and depression and so on.

Love often seems to be the floor to which people fall after they feel that all other dreams have collapsed. It's held to be solid when nothing else is and although it often gives away and dumps them into a basement of despair, it enjoys a reputation of dependability and transgression.

No matter that this reputation is illogical (it's neither dependable nor does it really tend to transgress socio-economical lines; for example, having at least the same socio-economical status is, statistically speaking, still prerequisite for experiencing the love of a woman) people are attached to it and cling to it.

In some ways, love or the "myth of love" almost seems to have become a surrogate religion for people who have lost all trust in religious institutions, in political ideologies, have seen everything heroic and transcendental being "deconstructed" and so on, and now they make more out of love than it actually is.

At the end of the day, craving romantic love is like craving other kinds of pleasures. It's what we do, of course, craving the pleasures of sexuality, love, friendships, intimacy, culture, art, food and so on, but you gotta put it into perspective and not deify it.

 

[Radiohead]

I didnt post it while I was going through the poll options, and it went through anyway.

Half assed, hell, maybe someone will learn something

 

[raindancer]

Worse than what?

 

[LiamAnthony]

Poor sentence construction is such a turnoff. My cock was turgid and almost grand mal, then i saw this thread’s incomplete thought.

 

[pink]

I would say yes.

 

[Radiohead]

Worse than what?

I'm leaving it with what lit processed through.

 

[processnotes]

I didnt post it while I was going through the poll options, and it went through anyway.

Half assed, hell, maybe someone will learn something

Is it one of those music back and forth contests, Radioguy?
I might have one for you then : https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yKsNfccUTuk

But don't check the EV links below any further, or you'll be in for a surprise: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8fvLtTRzdHw
Lol The World Has gotten crazy over there

 

[Radiohead]

You know Conchita was 3 years ago.

And Australia is part of Eurovision now

 

[processnotes]

You know Conchita was 3 years ago.

And Australia is part of Eurovision now

Yes. Dami In.

I always enjoyed watching Eurovision - all those different people -.
In saying that, the songs never matched up to the professionalism of American ones.

Not Dami In. Great singer, fantastic videoclip. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2EG_Jtw4OyU
The Bolgarian girl and her montage came in second for me.

 

[Aglaopheme]

I think it's "overrated" in the sense that at the end of the day, "love" is also not a rock on which you can confidently build your house on, but sand that more often than not gives away come rain and flood.


"myth of love" almost seems to have become a surrogate religion for people who have lost all trust in religious institutions, in political ideologies, have seen everything heroic and transcendental being "deconstructed" and so on, and now they make more out of love than it actually is.

At the end of the day, craving romantic love is like craving other kinds of pleasures. It's what we do, of course, craving the pleasures of sexuality, love, friendships, intimacy, culture, art, food and so on, but you gotta put it into perspective and not deify it.

I think people settle for the unsustainable “myth”. Generally, folks that feel that need love, need to be part of a couple, or feel societal pressure to couple up.

 

[Saint_Ann]

Love is like cheese.

 

[Not Normal]

to be in love with someone

Worse than what? Not understanding the question, because it is ridiculously incomplete.

 

[elli1point1]

I think it's "overrated" in the sense that at the end of the day, "love" is also not a rock on which you can confidently build your house on, but sand that more often than not gives away come rain and flood.

well, yes, depending on one other person for one's happiness is lazy and will mostly not end well; love doesn't solve other problems one might have.

[...] how parents kill their own children, how not all parents actually DO love their own children, how it results in suicide, despair and depression and so on.

those are case of either absence of love or something else entirely.

Love often seems to be the floor to which people fall after they feel that all other dreams have collapsed. It's held to be solid when nothing else is and although it often gives away and dumps them into a basement of despair, it enjoys a reputation of dependability and transgression.

yeah, see above; it seems to me that people's absurd and unrealistic conceptions of 'love' or 'being in love' are the issue.

[...] nor does it really tend to transgress socio-economical lines; for example, having at least the same socio-economical status is, statistically speaking, still prerequisite for experiencing the love of a woman) [...]

ehm, don't know about that....

 

[Hypoxia]

Is being in love worse than...

* Being a groady Australian?
* Being Limburger cheeze?
* Being taken for granted?
* Hot stick poked into eye?
* Expecting real anssers?
* A bad case of swine flu?

For answers to questions of this nature, please deposit one bitcoin.

 

[thør]

Worse than what?

Exactly!