Is it possible to overwhem someone

[MissTaken]

with love?

Sometimes, when getting close to someone, my feelings are so all consuming, I am afraid to let them be free.

I am afraid that the depth of my emotions are too much to be handled by someone else.

Hmmm

just wondered if it was an idiosyncrasy of mine?

or if anyone has ever felt overwhelmed by love, true and genuine love. Not obsession or anything unhealthy, just plain ole love.

 

[sexyspank]

with love?

Sometimes, when getting close to someone, my feelings are so all consuming, I am afraid to let them be free.

I am afraid that the depth of my emotions are too much to be handled by someone else.

Hmmm

just wondered if it was an idiosyncrasy of mine?

or if anyone has ever felt overwhelmed by love, true and genuine love. Not obsession or anything unhealthy, just plain ole love.

If it is casual then the other person has to have their own space but when it is that special one then you are able to discuss and agree what is right for both of you.





Wendy

 

[Jewelz]

Overwhelmed in a good way simply because I am not used to someone loving me this much. But it feels damn good! And I know I can overwhelmed people with my love whether it be my lover or my friends because I do love deeply. I care deeply. Ive always been the huggy, kissy, touchy, feely type of person.

May be a fault or may be a gift to care so much and love so much

 

[MissTaken]

Sometimes, I feel like my feelings are a dam ready to burst.

It can be frightening for me as well. It takes a vast amount of trust for me to freely express my emotions.

We all deserve that love, that One.

I wonder if he will be ready for me when the dam finally breaks.

IN some ways, it feels like what I offer should be a gift. It should be treasured. I wonder if it will, or if it will overwhelm.

 

[Jewelz]

Sometimes, I feel like my feelings are a dam ready to burst.

It can be frightening for me as well. It takes a vast amount of trust for me to freely express my emotions.

We all deserve that love, that One.

I wonder if he will be ready for me when the dam finally breaks.

IN some ways, it feels like what I offer should be a gift. It should be treasured. I wonder if it will, or if it will overwhelm.

Have faith MissT...I bet he is having the same feelings for you!! It can overwhelm, but in a good way. I wish you nothing but happiness and hoping that when the dam breaks, he will be there to catch you as you rage through

 

[psyche]

overwhelmed

I think that it is possible. In my marriage my husband has been very high maintainence (he is, by the way, aware of this so I am not "talking behind his back"). It's to the point that if I walk out of a room he will ask me where I am going. And mind you I am a home body, I don't go out a lot on my own. Since things have become strained between us this is something that really is getting on my nerves. I tell him it is driving me crazy but I don't think he can stop. Tonight he is away for a seminar and he can't stand to leave, whereas I believe we would be better off if we had some time away from each other once in a while. He is smothering me to the point that he is going to push me away.

 

[alwaysawake]

Sometimes, I feel like my feelings are a dam ready to burst.

It can be frightening for me as well. It takes a vast amount of trust for me to freely express my emotions.

We all deserve that love, that One.

I wonder if he will be ready for me when the dam finally breaks.

IN some ways, it feels like what I offer should be a gift. It should be treasured. I wonder if it will, or if it will overwhelm.

I feel the same way Miss--I have a vast reservoir of love that has never been tapped and may never be. Sexyspank hit it right on the nose...if you are able to discuss it, there should never be a problem!

 

[MissTaken]

I am not able to discuss it.

It is my issue.

My hang up.

I tend to shy away from that sort of discussion and ultimately hurt feelings.

I don't want to.

I hope that I am not the only one who is foolish enough to do this!

 

[artful]

Re: overwhelmed

I think that it is possible. In my marriage my husband has been very high maintainence (he is, by the way, aware of this so I am not "talking behind his back"). It's to the point that if I walk out of a room he will ask me where I am going. And mind you I am a home body, I don't go out a lot on my own. Since things have become strained between us this is something that really is getting on my nerves. I tell him it is driving me crazy but I don't think he can stop. Tonight he is away for a seminar and he can't stand to leave, whereas I believe we would be better off if we had some time away from each other once in a while. He is smothering me to the point that he is going to push me away.

Sadly,...what you have recounted to us,...happens to many couples,...some sooner, some later. Most often it is misunderstood as pure jealousy. More often, the fact is *FEAR*. Yes fear can cause jealousy to rear it's ugly head,...but many times,...if there is good communication between the parties involved,...the fears can be discovered,...spread out and examined by both parties,...and true resolvement of the problem is quite possible BEFORE jealousies develope. It's a lot of hard work, most people don't put THAT much work into maintaining the relationship. Thus so many divorces, and broken relationships. We all have faults and fears,...it takes courage to examine them, and that's one reason I hold MissTaken in such high regard. She is addressing her fears in a very courageous way,...by exposing her inner self to MANY,...not just a few. Good luck to you all. Just had to put my 2 cents in.
JMHO

 

[ma_guy]

I am not able to discuss it.

It is my issue.

My hang up.

I tend to shy away from that sort of discussion and ultimately hurt feelings.

I don't want to.

I hope that I am not the only one who is foolish enough to do this!

You are not able to discuss it because, perchance, you fear... "rejection"? "embarassment"? Why, that you make you... "normal"!

When the right time comes, with the right person, there will be no fear and you will discuss it - because there will be no reason not to. Then you will realize you are "there".

 

[~Dream~]

also Overwhelmed..

Miss T ...
I think that Real Love overwhelms us all in one way or another ,we certainly dont go "planning for it to happen , sometimes it just "hits us like a ton of bricks" or lightly touches our heart like a feather .. but still alll in all it Is very overwhelming,and normally "frightening" at times.
I believe in my heart that in due time true love will run its couse in your life as well sweet lady , stand back hold your breath and let go of your fear .. let love drift you away..I did ..and you see how happy i am!! I know it's almost sickening sometimes to some but frankly I dont give a damn!! lol <<huggs>>

 

[psyche]

Re: overwhelmed

Sadly,...what you have recounted to us,...happens to many couples,...some sooner, some later. Most often it is misunderstood as pure jealousy. More often, the fact is *FEAR*. Yes fear can cause jealousy to rear it's ugly head,...but many times,...if there is good communication between the parties involved,...the fears can be discovered,...spread out and examined by both parties,...and true resolvement of the problem is quite possible BEFORE jealousies develope. It's a lot of hard work, most people don't put THAT much work into maintaining the relationship. Thus so many divorces, and broken relationships. We all have faults and fears,...it takes courage to examine them, and that's one reason I hold MissTaken in such high regard. She is addressing her fears in a very courageous way,...by exposing her inner self to MANY,...not just a few. Good luck to you all. Just had to put my 2 cents in.
JMHO

artful,
I wanted to thank you for your feedback, if I really think about it my husband is going through a hard time and he many be pulling me in because of his fears. In the meantime, I am in a very good place with myself, very happy to the point that I think I am inadvertantly sending him messages that I could infact go on with my life without him since he is being so difficult. What I should be doing instead is reassuring him that I do still need him and love him in spite of the problems that we are having right now. We've been together for 20 years, and there are times when both of our worst sides seem to come out at the same time, those are the hardest times to see that we do have a good relationship. Thanks for your insight.