Is it possible to fall in love in an online relationship?

[collegeteenm19]

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

 

[Pyro Paul]

love can hit it off in the oddest situations. people can fall inlove in war, imprisonment, or even in hate (romeo and juliet? havnt you heard of it)

Online is just a diffrent way to communicate, but you share the personality first and not the looks. in most relationships you tend to try and fall with a person you find attractive then let if they have the same likes/dislikes then you fall in love get married have little yous and grow old with them... Online relationships are weird since they forgo the first step and you first share likes and dislikes, this in and of it self is enough to build a relationship for a short time, but, you have to also find a common ground in the attractiveness factor, they could be a freaking mirror image of you, but look as pretty as the back end of a cow. in that situation (if you feel that they are not attractive) then the relationship fails for diffrent reasons, as you see that you 2 are on diffrent levels of attractiveness even though you share the same emotional levels.

but, the thing about online relationships is you got a 50/50 chance and is also a thousand times quicker than traditional relationships. opposed where you find a hot sexy girl that will give you good sex but when you go out and date you find out she is about as shallow as a puddle.... in death valley... durring a drought... and the relationship will end there (or fall apart then end) and you 2 shall never see eachother again. online, a simple picture of them that turns your stomach will turn you off to them, or mannerisums that they do will turn you off, found out on first dates or... first visits. but even though it will be weird and stop near instantly, the tend to stay 'friends' since you still share the same intrests. sometimes youll continue to talk for a while.

 

[collegeteenm19]

again, thanks for the advice, im getting a lot of good stuff here!

 

[Pyro Paul]

for the most part, you have to be reallly weairy of online relationships since you technicly Dont know them. also people tend to be extreamly hazey on online communa-k's and often may not be what your really thinking of.

love online is not a hard thing to think that you have, love is a deep bond that you feel towards a person emotionaly, sexualy, and physicaly. and it is mostly an emotional bond. so if you fill the emotional bond first you feel really in love, but remember you need to fill them all to be in love.

its very complex but, like in real life, dont built your hopes and dreams on a single women (real or online) untill you really totaly know them.

 

[kindlover74]

Yes I think it can happen

 

[babydoll2u]

yes it can happen... and has happened to me.

 

[collegeteenm19]

babydoll, share your story!

 

[Tighter]

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

YES. It is so possible, it's scary. Unfortunately in my situation, the feelings weren't mutual.. he was just out for sex. So I guess my advice is.. make certain (110% certain) that she feels exactly the same about you.
I believe with my whole heart that there is someone for everyone. We just need to know where to look.

 

[Eilan]

Just over four years ago, I met my husband through Yahoo! Personals back when it was still completely free. He was only about 40 miles from me. We corresponded via email for about three weeks before we met in person, and it was at least another month or so before I introduced him to my daughters from my first marriage. I wanted to make sure that we "clicked" before I brought someone into their lives that they might get attached to.

I was cautious, but I also think that you have to take precautions with anyone new, regardless of how you meet him or her.

 

[collegeteenm19]

If anyone else has any stories of online relationships that they've had or that someone theyve known who has had one, please feel free to add your 2 cents

 

[collegeteenm19]

No one else has any take on the concept of online relationships??

 

[Butterflybaby04]

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

Before reading others responses I am going to answer.

I totally thing it's possible. I feel for someone I thought cared for me. He listened and talked to me in ways my husband never did or does. and not just a sexual way. After a few weeks he stopped writing and I am now devistated. I have told myself I would not write him yet I still check everyday to see if he has written. it sucks.

I hope it works out for you cause love is love and if it feels strong enough it's going to fucking hurt like a bitch if it doesn't work out.

Lots of luv.

 

[collegeteenm19]

thanks, i think that advice is probably the best ive heard

 

[Butterflybaby04]

thanks, i think that advice is probably the best ive heard

awe sweetie, many hugs to you cause I know that this fucking hurts. I hope it works out which ever way you want it to. I'm glad I could help. A lot of people don't relize that you can reach the level of love through just words. And it is difficult to explain to anyone who has never had to deal with it.

I wish you the best love, kisses.

 

[Michelrpg]

I was in an online relationship for nearly 2 years. Strangely, the girl and I had NOTHING in common. She was goth, I dont like goths. She likes the dense 'ghetto' talk ("yo my nig") and I cant stand that. basically, she is a real slut (can be good, but in this case bad). She lied a lot, also bad. She did drugs, no no for me. Yet strangely, I was madly in love with her, and she with me. We wrote letters, sent gifts (well, I did -.-; ). However, a long distance relationship wont work IF you let it go to long and not see each other. For personal reasons, we could not visit each other, so that, and a lot of other things, made us break up.

However, make sure it is not just a crush. Crushes tend to fuck with your mind, in a bad way. Make sure you absolutely want to be with her for the rest of your life (it sounds melodramatic, but that is something you need to be thinking in this case). Than ask yourself how much you know of the girl, if she is interested in you (dont ask her, but judge her behaviour towards you). Try and stay friends for some time and think it over. if you are really serious with your feelings, pop the question. However, dont get your hopes up to high (stay realistic).

 

[Sexystagemanager]

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

I think stranger things have happend than falling in love on the internet. I really hope y'all the best. And keep us updated on the progress, especially if y'all meet up.

 

[collegeteenm19]

we;'ve talked about meeting, but that wont be for a while, until we spend more time talking to each other, is there any advice out there on how to keep a relationship like this going? anything other than the advice of not going too fast? lol

 

[talkdirty2me_2]

is it possible to fall in love in an on line relationship

I am living proof that you CAN fall in love and have a succesful relationship on line.I met a lady on line 5 years ago and we are still in love very deeply today. We began as you did by talking every day and for that matter we still do. then we moved to phone sex out of pure frustration and horniness. We loved it and still do it We have met three times once at my town and twice at her house. Se\hewe have had wonderful sex and a perfect relationship including church etc. I plan to make it perminate as soon as we can get free of or current entangelments

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

 

[Time4fun]

we;'ve talked about meeting, but that wont be for a while, until we spend more time talking to each other, is there any advice out there on how to keep a relationship like this going? anything other than the advice of not going too fast? lol

Yeah, don't go too slow either...you can build something up quite a bit online, and then if you meet in person and don't have the chemistry to back it up, you set yourself up for a big letdown.

I say meet up and see if you have that chemistry and then go from there...might save you a lot of time and money (phone bills) and heartache!


- T4f

 

[MoonHaze]

There are two sides to the coin

There are only two possible outcomes to an online relationship. It either goes well or it can be a complete disaster. I've experienced both.

Between 1998 and 2002 I had what I thought to be 4 steady relationships online, all with American girls (I am a Brit).

The first girl said she was 38. In fact '38 was the year of her birth. The pic she sent was beautiful but her own looks turned out to be plain - if you can call a wrinkled pensioner's looks "plain". Not that looks are important to me, as you will see.

The second girl did not deceive me with her age or looks. She deceived me with her intentions. Her purpose for "loving me" and wanting to meet with me was so she could approach the UK branch of the International firm she worked for with the hope of securing a European posting. By quoting our relationship as being "solid" with "marriage plans" well underway, she hoped to convince the firm that her circumstances would therefore be stable.

The third girl was a stunner! Absolutely gorgeous and I do mean it. When she came to visit me in UK she repeatedly visited another town over 120 miles away. I was not allowed to go with her on these trips. This was also, a town with which I was not aware she had any connections. She had no job, yet she found the money to buy cell phones and new clothing every day. Then one day I received word from a guy that was supposed to be dead. (she had told me this). In fact this was the guy she had latched onto previous to me. He told me about the suspicious things she would get upto which echoed what was happening while she was with me. Whether it was drugs or something else, I can't honestly say but that girl was upto no good and needless to say I showed her the door.

I gave up on online women but fate took a hand. Whilst in a chat room, I happened to say that I wrote my own website. A woman chatter (Kathie) asked if I could show her how to do it. Knowing this woman was 9 years my senior, and knowing she had just recently bought her first PC, I expected it to be too much for her to understand. I agreed to teach her thinking she would give up within a couple of days. Days turned to weeks, then months. Eventually, we fell for each other. We have so much in common, even down to our starsign and ailments. Our hobbies and pasttimes are almost identical, it's spooky.

After the three bad experiences, we talked about her visiting UK and decided her first trip would be very short. That way I was not committed and she had an early escape route if we failed to hit it off. However, we did hit it off. She came for a second longer visit which allowed us to get to know each other even more. A few months later Kathie came back to UK complete with a Spouse's visa. We married on 19 October 2002 and have never looked back.

So what's this all about?

Well, Kath is not what anyone might call outwardly attractive. She is also a few years older than I am. Remember the first girl? She was 62 but claimed to be 38. She showed me a photo of goodness knows who and pretended it was her. Her fault was deception! Plain and simple, if she had been straight with me all along, I might have married her.

The other two were users! And there are a lot of users around! Yes they say they "love you" and they can make you "love them" too! So I say this to you, friend. Be careful how you play things. Always make sure you have way out until you have met them and are certain your feelings are mutual and genuine.

If they are genuine and you do truly love each other, I wish you the happiest future possible and hope that you can treasure each other always, like Kathie and I do now.

 

[mikemann]

Ok, what happened to me is this, I met this girl on this site and we've really hit it off, like we have absolutely everything in common and we're really close now and I think Im in love with her, we talk ALL the time which is great.We're even talking about visiting each other I just want to know if its possible to fall in love with someone ive never met and if thats kind of weird or strange? I also was wondering what good can come from an online relationship? Like, in your opinion, how far can things really get-> can it be as fulfilling as a relationship when you see each other everyday? Since we talk like all day everyday, can we be just as close as any other couple that see each other every week?
If you could answer any of these questions or just give your two cents, I'd really appreciate it, thanks

Of course mate, love can happen anywhere as others have said... hopefully she feels the same in reality and all will be well... only way to be sure is meet her and get to know her properly... Be prepared for a comedown if it doesn't work out, but I see no reason why it shouldn't if you've both been honest with each other so far.

Mike

 

[curiousinmich]

Possible maybe, I dont know.

for me personally, I have to be with the person physically (not just sexually) to fall for someone. I think a lot changes with a person, when you know them for real. Then you can see their facial expressions, their reactions, etc. I truly believe the only way to really know someone is to spend some real quality time with them. Until you do that, you dont know much.

Just talking to someone on line isnt enough to get to know the real person. Even if they are open about their daily activities, thoughts, feelings, etc...it isnt enough. There is always a lot more to the person that isnt revealed until you are face to face with someone. I would be beyond hesitant to claim love without ever meeting someone....

Love and relationships are difficult as hell when you have the person with you daily....but online, I do think somewhat of a fantasy is created. I think it is easy to think it is love. But as many have said here, it changes quickly.

I would be very hesitant to call anything love until you take the time to get to know the person offline.

 

[sweetshybbw48]

my experiences ..

Stuck in a boring marriage with an alcoholic hubby, I ventured to the internet, and to the chat rooms .. settled into one, and quickly found a whole new world of people .. people who listened, who cared about what you had to say .. there was one man who I instantly 'clicked' with .. he was/is married .. was just lonely and needed someone to talk to .. we became fast friends, and eventually fell for each other .. but I knew from the start that he had no intention of divorcing his wife of 30 years .. and I certainly understood that .. wasn't asking him to do that at all .. but we formed a bond that's still strong today .. (that was 4 years ago) .. I love this man with my heart and soul .. but its bittersweet, knowing we'll never really be 'together' .. we've talked about meeting a time or two, but I think that would be hard, to turn around and leave him to his family, so I've always held back .. our relationship changed over the years .. we don't spend as much time together as we once did, but we still talk about once a month ..

Then there's my current relationship .. and ohhhhhhhhhhh what a relationship it is!!! I have truly met my best friend .. he's 14 years my junior, but you wouldn't know it to hear us talk .. I adore, ADORE this man .. he's single (and I'm divorced now) but we're in no hurry to meet .. it would be impossible for either of us to make a move right now, and if we were to meet, it would be too hard to miss each other when we came home .. so, we remain online .. and on the phone .. and talk several times a day .. and I know if I ever needed anything, he'd move heaven and earth to get it for me ..

I know I'm not making much sense .. but I just wanted to throw my 2 cents in .. yes it IS possible to find love online .. you just need to be clear on things, so one partner doesn't expect more then the other is willing to give .. if you do that, then there won't be any disappointments ..

 

[nyrjmk]

falling in love

i think that it is entirely possible to fall for someone through the internet and phone, but generally i would advise against it, because you cant really know the person until you have met them in person, or gotten references

If anyone else has any stories of online relationships that they've had or that someone theyve known who has had one, please feel free to add your 2 cents

 

[mansome]

Depends on you what you call or how you define "love".. most people here in Cyberia have trivialized love and watered it down to where it has just as much meaning as the word "sushi" or "laxative".......

People can find a person anywhere.. be it on the street, at a bar, through a friend, at school, at work, through personals (newspapers, online) or through chatrooms.....

The problem is way too many people get way too caught up in an online "relationship" use the word love..They hold off meeting people for real and having real/genuine relationships because of someone they met online but have never met personally..


I for one can not Love... or make a committment to someone I never met... I find it absolutely ridiculous that people do it every day...

Anyone who has been online for any period of time knows this.. if you persist if you look for a person, are desperate enough, try hard enough.. you can find another person who persists, who's desperate, who tries hard just like you.. and you can do this within hours... people do it every day....

At least wait until you physically meet this person you are all excited about... Most communication happens through non-verbal cues that you can not pick up online... My red flag is always this.. if it seems too easy it is.. and online "love" simply is to easy.. if you want it bad enough .. you'll find someone else who wants it bad enough....

Putting your soul, your time, your heart, and your money into someone you never met is risky and 90 percent of the time just foolish..