Is it natural to become inhibited after cum

[Myuniversewithin]

Is it common to become inhibited after cum? From many years, I become inhibited after cum.. not able to recollect whether it is there from early years.

As soon as I get orgasm whether during sex or during mastarbutation or during cuckold/threesome, I inhibit myself and will lose interest in the act which is going on.

For example.. if I am watching Porn and mastarbutating then as soon as I cum, I won't get any interest in porn (and little bit of hate/shame also comes on porn) and I stop watching.

Similarly.. after cum during sex, immediately I pull myself and loses the passion which I had couple of seconds back. After that, I won't cuddle my wife eventhough she is at peak during that time. For this, I do lot of foreplay to give plesure to my wife before actual intercourse.

Another example.. I have very high cuckold fantasy. So in couple of instances, i was watching my wife with other guy and it went into peak. I ejaculated while watching and mastarbutating then lost or reduced interest to watch anymore. Didn't go into shame thing because of very high fantasy for cuckold but lost interest to watch after cum.
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I know many guys who can take some time and restart again for another round of intercourse or mastarbutation etc but in my case.. as soon as I cum, it's over.

Or very strong reason or fantasy like cuckold has to be there to initiate one more session.

Is it very common? And why such thing happens

 

[Goldenfinger]

It is very common.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Regrettably so. I get the biology of why this happens (and why women know "he's the one" when it doesn't [mind over matter]), but the fact is there ARE guys who still are into their partners even after they've gotten their pleasure. I know you females/girls/women have to go through a lot of poseurs to find theirs, but I promise you: He's out there.

 

[Erosfan]

I used to be that way when I was much younger. I would be horribly embarrassed. I have grown out of that. My interest is still lost almost immediately, but I could snuggle with my wife for hours afterwards. Sometimes we would snuggle for a while, get up,take a shower and have another go.

 

[DrHappy]

The pituitary gland in the brain releases prolactin during orgasm which causes fatigue, loss of erection, and loss of interest in sex in men. It affects some men more than others, but it affects virtually all of us. It can also give a feeling of overstimulation (causing withdrawal) or feelings of caution. That's perfectly normal. However, the brain also releases oxytocin which is the "cuddle" hormone. For the sake of your relationship, try to latch onto the cuddly feelings of being close to someone. It's a really wonderful feeling so you don't want to waste it.

 

[Pad_Foot]

Yes? Refractory is a bitch
So ladies? Mount up quick! Cleaning out the mess we leave can keep your flame burning and at least keep our embers a tad red.

Gents ? Not true ?!

Gents ??

 

[FantasySharer1]

I find that the "fantasies only" ideas go away after I cum. Usually like having sex with some random celebrity or model etc. I cum and then realize they are just regular people, probably on drugs, and I wouldn't be interested in cuddling with them after.

The fantasies that I would truly enjoy if they were real like having my wife's brother become her second husband/lover alongside me and cucking me for life, drinking his cum out of her pussy, taking their sloppy seconds, falling asleep with her in between us, etc - thinking about that after I cum actually gets me turned on more because it's something I actually want in my life.

 

[luv23way]

Tell me that you love me, then get the fuck out

 

[jehoram]

Yeah, it's common.

If your (female) partner isn't experienced, she may take it personally. I just explain to her that my orgasms are likely to practically knock me out for a few minutes. It's nothing she did, and I'll be fine after a little while. In fact, it will be worth the wait, because I'll last a bit longer the second time around.

 

[Lvncreampies]

Yes, very common. I hate it when people say "he chickened out " I backed out several times of going down on my wife after filling her with cum to lick her clean. and fantasized about it all the time. So 20 minutes after sex 1 night of not going down on her, I told her "I wish you had forced me to lick you clean. " I started begging her to make me. For a Father's day present, she strapped me down to the bed, played roughly with my cock, and then started riding my hard cock. The entire time, she kept telling me "once you cum I am going to sit my cum filled pussy on your face and mouth and you are going to swallow everything I push out and lick me clean. " once I came I tried to back out but she made me follow through. Now, after sex whether I want to or not she picks a position for me to get in so I can lick her clean. Examples kneel next to the bed, slide under her from doggy style, 69 her on top, ect. Sometimes I loose full interest, part interest, and I loose no interest.

 

[Susscrofa]

As everyone else is saying, it's common.

Happens to me a lot these days. When I was younger, I could often do it two, sometimes three times in a row, at least with a woman who really turned me on. Now, usually after the first fuck, I not only lose interest, but feel vaguely repulsed by the thought of going at it again, at least immediately afterwards. That happened more sporadically when I was younger, but more often than not now.

 

[ctarrantella]

I find this to be true with my cum eating fetish. If I cum on my wife, I lose the desire in licking it off her even though I have begged and asked her if I can do it. Same thing if I cum inside her. I’m very hesitant to go down on her again. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’ve pushed through it many times and done it, but not as often as I’d like to. Maybe a couple times a year as special occasions. I really want to make it a part of our routine sex life. I keep failing to go after it.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

The pituitary gland in the brain releases prolactin during orgasm which causes fatigue, loss of erection, and loss of interest in sex in men. It affects some men more than others, but it affects virtually all of us. It can also give a feeling of overstimulation (causing withdrawal) or feelings of caution. That's perfectly normal. However, the brain also releases oxytocin which is the "cuddle" hormone. For the sake of your relationship, try to latch onto the cuddly feelings of being close to someone. It's a really wonderful feeling so you don't want to waste it.

This is a great description. As a clinical laboratory scientist who worked in reproduction, it is all about the hormones.

Guided meditation for the "cuddle" would help immensely. Teach your mind to go to the cuddle place on command. And you will see the oxytocin effect.

The prolactin point is one that I knew, and forgot.

My ex is transitioning MtoF. Between stopping his T, adding estrogen and progesterone and now T blocker, they have lost all drive and physical abilities. Before the medication, this started. Prolactin could be the answer.

Good luck. You and your partner will be better for your effort.

 

[WrongVerb]

I'm a cis het male and always become inhibited after ejaculation.

 

[Shark9000]

It is common. But also for me, situational. If I'm just taking care of myself. When it is over, it is over. But if I am in a really enjoyable sexual situation. Cumming doesn't end it for me. I just do something else with her for a few minutes till it is time to do it again.

 

[FL30]

Is it common to become inhibited after cum? From many years, I become inhibited after cum.. not able to recollect whether it is there from early years.

As soon as I get orgasm whether during sex or during mastarbutation or during cuckold/threesome, I inhibit myself and will lose interest in the act which is going on.

For example.. if I am watching Porn and mastarbutating then as soon as I cum, I won't get any interest in porn (and little bit of hate/shame also comes on porn) and I stop watching.

Similarly.. after cum during sex, immediately I pull myself and loses the passion which I had couple of seconds back. After that, I won't cuddle my wife eventhough she is at peak during that time. For this, I do lot of foreplay to give plesure to my wife before actual intercourse.

Another example.. I have very high cuckold fantasy. So in couple of instances, i was watching my wife with other guy and it went into peak. I ejaculated while watching and mastarbutating then lost or reduced interest to watch anymore. Didn't go into shame thing because of very high fantasy for cuckold but lost interest to watch after cum.
?

I know many guys who can take some time and restart again for another round of intercourse or mastarbutation etc but in my case.. as soon as I cum, it's over.

Or very strong reason or fantasy like cuckold has to be there to initiate one more session.

Is it very common? And why such thing happens

It's part of human nature and is a natural part of the sex act and the recovery from it

 

[pegnkiss]

Always had this issue with wanting to snowball. I'd tell her to do it right as a I cum. If it is 10 seconds after I lose the urge.

I've found a way around this. Cum inside of her and then just kind of cuddle for about 10 minutes afterwards. Usually that is enough to relax and clear your head. She can then start giving you a blowjob and getting you back into the mood. A 5mg pill of Viagra helps also. After 30 seconds of that, my brain goes back into horny mode and I'm ready again. She mounts my face with her pussy as she still sucks on me and I go to town on her nice cum filled pussy. I can't believe I haven't tried this years ago.