Is it legal to offer a "seduce my wife" reward?

[Guest]

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Not asking for me; asking because it came up in a research/legal matter involving a client at work. Wanted to check laws on this, but not sure how.

 

[sshadows30]

huh

what is that?

 

[ttime5475]

i don't know but i'd be interested in going for it if the okc in your name stands for oklahoma city. 19/m stillwater area

 

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[Jaydoes]

hmmmm....

lets see what she looks like and what the reward is?

 

[ttime5475]

yeah that is totally cool i hope your wife gets her compliments i however am never on the club scene too much studying to do however if ya'll ever make it up to stillwater we can do a tailgate or something before a football game. Tell your wife hey for me lol.

 

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[DonkeyDickSub]

your wife is VERY pretty P

 

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[ttime5475]

If you were willing to have me flirt with your wife at some place other than a club in or around oklahoma city i would be more than willing. I tend to be verry flattering

 

[ThunderJack]

Matt,

First of all, I quite agree that your wife is very attractive. As a rule, I don't mind light banter or the humorous innuendos and sexual seductions that go on in this forum. After all, I enjoy chatting to people with no shame at expressing my sexuality to most people here, no matter their marital status, as I believe that our being able to be openly sexual, while maintaining the utmost respect, is far more beneficial than the stuck in the mud anti-hedonists out there.

Having said that, may I respectfully say that I sense a problem that is greater than a problem because of spontaneous flirtation? In other words, her sudden shyness is most probably due to things unrelated to lack of flirtation. While I can't say for sure, from what you tell me she used to be a dancer (stripper?), which means she had to have had a reasonably fit body, and now she finds she's gained a few pounds. For the first time since she's been cognizant on her ability to attract men sexually, she finds that she's not as attractive to men in this way, relatively speaking, and she is probably going through anxiety that is the real root of her problem.

The answer? Well, of course I'm only going by your posts. I really don't think it will take other men to convince her she's attractive...it must come from YOU. I mean, I do find her attractive myself from the photographs, and would definitely flirt with her (and more if the opportunity arose, given proper boundaries and agreements, of course).

So I really don't think the solution is to artificially create a situation where she can be flirted with. However, have you considered another solution... re-DATING her? Sending her flowers to her work, or a place where othe women can swoon... now THAT actually increases a woman's confidence FAR MORE than simple male lustful flirtation. How about notes in the morning, telling her what she means to you, making sure you make a conscious comment about how her body is gorgeous...and mean it. Take her to dinner, and I don't mean Denny's, but a nice place where they have waiters in suits and bottles of Champagne in buckets. And not for special occasions...do it on a Tuesday for no reason at all. Little things, done over time, is the best flirtation method and seducer possible.

Now, while doing that THEN you can take her to social situations where she can be flirted with. The difference is that she will start radiating her beauty more because of the notes, flowers, and other things you do for her. Finally, go to that swing party and let her wings spread one more time. In my opinion, this will probably awaken the woman you met, and hopefully continue over time.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hi Matt,

Since no one has bothered to actually answer the original question...

Let me begin by saying that while I am NOT an attorney or law enforcement officer with jurisdiction anywhere in Oklahoma, I was a law enforcement officer for seventeen years. If OK's laws are anything like SC's are, then if by "reward" you mean compensation in the form of money or items of value, and if by "seduce my wife" you mean "have a sexual encounter with her", then yes, it's illegal. Paying someone to have sex is prostitution. Just because it's a fellow being paid doesn't change the legal status of the activity... He's a giggillo.

I'm not making any moral or ethical or value judgements here, just answering the question as asked. For a definitive answer for _your_ location, you would do better asking an attorney who is familiar with the state statutes, and ordinances in your local jurisdiction.

Best of luck,
- Geoff

 

[RobbieOC]

I'm in OKC. I wouldn't even need a reward, really. If you were somewhere around north OKC/Edmond, just let me know and I'd love to help her out. She is really pretty.

 

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[Evil_Geoff]

Still, though, WOW are there some unexpectedly "pure" replies from folks reading "literotica personals." Are we all aware of what site we're actually on?

Yes.

A literature site. Where things may be taken literally. Or not. Since this site caters to swingers, BDSM'ers, Poly folk, horney net geeks, and more, communicating clearly should be de riguer! Particularly when someone tosses "quotes" around words, which is a literary device often used to indicate something is meaning "the not usual" meaning.

Me personally, I tend to take a post at face value. If you mean "flirt with my wife", then say "I want someone to flirt with my wife". Not "I want someone to 'seduce' my wife."

Clear communication is a wonderful thing.

 

[ThunderJack]

Fair enough, Matt. The reference to stripper was made because of what comes to mind of most men when they hear a woman was a "dancer", but I was not sure, hence my including in a questioning paragraph aside. In any case, I've talked with all types of dancers, including show dancers, performance dancers, and yes, exotic dancers (or strippers, generically if not technically correct), and most personalities are as diverse as any other profession, with the exception that dancers would have to be in GREAT physical shape, no matter their discipline. Having said shape brings out the Brad Pitt wolf whistles; Angelina, eat your heart out, even if you did leave him.

Anyway, I appreciate the clarification. In reading over the first letter, though, I still don't think I would have answered any differently, except for the stripper aside, as it turned out not to be relevant. (PS I'm not too thrilled with Dr. Phil, who is more ratings oriented than therapeutical, but that's another story.

Does your wife sing? Try a karaoke bar. Although loud, it is a great place to get a lot of flirtations, especially if she can shoot a jazz dance move somwhere in the song.