Is it just me?

[Betticus]

Or are there a lot of new people here who don't have a very good idea of what BDSM is?

Bondage and Masochism is one thing, just a single flavor of the whole dish that is BDSM.

Submissiveness and Dominance is another flavor.

When it is all added together we all have our own special feel for what and who we are.

There are so many different shades of grey when it comes to making a picture of S&M and BDSM that it can't be classified. It just is.

There is not one single answer for who we are, there are as many answers as there are people and we are all unique.

You guys have a lot more patience than I do I suppose. I just want to kiss and cuddle with a special lil subbie. Maybe spank her lil bottom once in a while too

 

[shy slave]

Its not just you.

There has been alot of new faces this summer, I guess some will stay and some will wander off.

There have been days when I would have paid to have a real fire breathing troll wandering through here rather than some people who take everything way too seriously.

Then again my mood changes, if you wait five minutes I will probably disagree with myself

 

[callinectes]

I hate to come off sounding bitchy..but threads like these make new people feel like they aren't welcome. One of the reasons I came here was because I DO have a lot to learn. We aren't all born with some kind of innate knowledge of BDSM..even y'all were newbies at one point.

Just sayin'

 

[CutieMouse]

Wellllllll...

There are a lot of new posters, but they are at least asking questions- which is a good thing. Maybe not the most well thought out questions, but developing a language for this takes time and work. Without new posters, this place would stagnate, quickly.

I look back at what I thought BDSM was when I first came to the forum, and it makes me cringe... then again there are things I know about myself, today, that makes other's cringe, so it all balances out in the wash.

I will add to that, that there are some "old timers" on the BDSM forums who I feel really know their "stuff", and there are some "old timers" on the BDSM forums, who I feel are just as clueless as the "newbies" (if not more so)...on the internet, anyone can be a dog. [cartoon reference]

 

[kiten69]

There are alot of new people...i was one just a few months ago and really in the realm of "BDSM" i still am. And when i came across Lit i knew that i was a "submissive person" but didn't really understand fully what i was inside...through disscussions here and the people that were willing to put up with my questions and my "newbieness" i have learned quite a bit, everyone has to start somewhere...i am sure even you did baby

Or are there a lot of new people here who don't have a very good idea of what BDSM is?

You guys have a lot more patience than I do I suppose. I just want to kiss and cuddle with a special lil subbie. Maybe spank her lil bottom once in a while too

One of the reasons I came here was because I DO have a lot to learn. We aren't all born with some kind of innate knowledge of BDSM

Same reason i came here...i learned alot by hanging around, reading and asking questions...and if you offer to rub Betts belly he'll calm down quickly

 

[angel_girl]

As a really new, newbie I freely admit that I'm doing all sorts of exploring (and probably bumbling) here. I don't have a very clear idea of what I'm looking for other than I'm most comfortable in my skin as a sub. But what I do or can do with that is an unknown to me. So I'll ask the obvious questions...

How does a sub who's brand new to this find a dom willing to train and guide with a loving touch?

Is there some sort of protocol that I'm missing or guidebook that I can read? I've been scouring the internet devouring information but that's not the same as real life stuff.

Thanks to the Lit members who've pm'd me with some great advice. I welcome all suggestions and guidance.

a g

 

[Evil_Geoff]

... There have been days when I would have paid to have a real fire breathing troll wandering through here rather than some people who take everything way too seriously.

Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!
Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!

On yer knees, slut! Bow down and worship Me. And while u r at it, fetch me a beer! I'm your DomlyDom Master now, dontcha know?

What r u laffin at? Im Geoff, the gr8 an terrible troll. Master of All That I C!

*sighs*

Why is it nobody takes me seriously when I do that???

 

[callinectes]

Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!
Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!

On yer knees, slut! Bow down and worship Me. And while u r at it, fetch me a beer! I'm your DomlyDom Master now, dontcha know?

What r u laffin at? Im Geoff, the gr8 an terrible troll. Master of All That I C!

*sighs*

Why is it nobody takes me seriously when I do that???

OMG too funny! And sadly..too close to reality. I had one of those contact me a while back. He was so pathetic and I am so evil that I couldn't help toying with him for a couple of days. After I admitted that I didn't really have my lips and legs parted when e-mailing him, he told me I wasn't submissive and would never find a Dom. I wept into my pillow all night.

 

[Shankara20]

Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!
Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!

On yer knees, slut! Bow down and worship Me. And while u r at it, fetch me a beer! I'm your DomlyDom Master now, dontcha know?

What r u laffin at? Im Geoff, the gr8 an terrible troll. Master of All That I C!

*sighs*

Why is it nobody takes me seriously when I do that???

help meeeeee

I'm sliding back in to sub space just for EG........


help meeeee please.....



please



*sob*

 

[callinectes]

Same reason i came here...i learned alot by hanging around, reading and asking questions...and if you offer to rub Betts belly he'll calm down quickly

I've read about his love of belly rubs and I happen to know where a fig tree is.

 

[kiten69]

I've read about his love of belly rubs and I happen to know where a fig tree is.

there is one in his yard...he is a sucker for a good belly rub and figs from his tree...be careful tho that belly is addicting

 

[kiten69]

help meeeeee

I'm sliding back in to sub space just for EG........


help meeeee please.....



please



*sob*

Shank i have M&Ms just for you, but you may have to work for them

 

[Kajira Callista]

Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!
Heeeeeeeere subbie, subbie, subbie!

On yer knees, slut! Bow down and worship Me. And while u r at it, fetch me a beer! I'm your DomlyDom Master now, dontcha know?

What r u laffin at? Im Geoff, the gr8 an terrible troll. Master of All That I C!

*sighs*

Why is it nobody takes me seriously when I do that???

I don't think that was meant to make me feel the need to fan myself.... was it?

 

[eroticmagik]

Tho i am new to all of this forum type stuff.. i guess in a way and in alot of peoples eyes..ill be considered a newbie when it comes to the D/s lifestyle mostly because even after living the lifestyle for 7 yrs now i still ask questions. i figure thats the only way to learn how different type people do things.what i should be cautious of and what i might enjoy if i only knew about it. well..we cant learn if we dont ask in most cases..not everyone will come right out and tell one exactly what they want so it helps to be imaginative(and darn it..every pic i had was to big to use on here )

 

[Cheshire D]

I've been lurking here for a year (plus some time before I actually registered *shifty eyes*), and I still don't know half the things alot of people know, about myself or about BDSM. Heck, I still think I'm exploring myself.

*grin* Remember, us newbies are going to be changing BDSM as time goes on. Better for us to ask questions and learn how not to hurt someone now.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Quint had a thread about this same topic just less than a month ago... https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=454745

See, all you newbies... even old posters start threads over again. ;-)

Speaking only to the sincere and genuinely earger to learn posters and lurkers:

I've said it before... one can usually tell the sincere poster from the disingenuous ones, fairly quickly. It only takes a couple of posts to ferret out the ones with some class and sincerity and those without it, and those who are here to just stir up shit.

Unfortunately the latter seem to get the most attention. The new genuine poster who is eager to learn gets lumped in with all the newbies (imposters and shit stirrers alike.)

But I agree with Spectre T...
If they'd stop and think for a moment, they'd realize they've got all the time in the world to present themselves in the best possible light; infinite time to choose their phrasing, and by golly, type out entire words.

If you take the time to "present" yourself "in the best possible light," you will be accepted well by most. (And by the way, the best possible light does not neccessarily mean correct spelling, grammer and sans typos. But it sure helps to do your best when trying to convey a coherent thought or question.)

 

[Shankara20]

Shank i have M&Ms just for you, but you may have to work for them

giving you a few well placed and well deliver swats on you ass to shake those M&M's out is not work...

 

[shy slave]

I hate to come off sounding bitchy..but threads like these make new people feel like they aren't welcome. One of the reasons I came here was because I DO have a lot to learn. We aren't all born with some kind of innate knowledge of BDSM..even y'all were newbies at one point.

Just sayin'

Your posts is one of the reasons my mind changes.

I mean that in a good way not a bitchy way.

I did not make my comments in an effort to chase people away, I was thinking of those people who make strange threads such as 'Look at pics of me cumming' or 'Tell me how bad I have been' of which there was a spate of throughout the summer months.

It is then I long for a troll just to liven things up.

I have been here a couple years and I like to read new POV's and see new discussions but some people post without thinking if their post is in the best forum for it.

I also agree with ADR's post apart from I don't have the same inbuilt ability to spot disingenuous posters;
What normally happens is ADR spots them and then months later I end up agreeing
*sigh*

 

[FurryFury]

No, it's not just you, you hunka, hunka, um, maybe I should go find my husband right now.

Fury

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I don't think that was meant to make me feel the need to fan myself.... was it?

*grins impishyl*

Wasn't actually _intended_ that way, but if it worked for you, I'm tickled to death! *lol*

 

[kristyna]

As a long time lurker .. newbie poster, I'd just like to say that sometimes I feel intimidated by the posters who have been here a while. There have been times that I would like to comment on a post, but haven't because I am new and feel as if what I had to say would be overlooked. Please, don't get me wrong. I am not looking for validation of my opinions or point of views but feel that what I would have to say would carry no weight or more accurately that nobody would actually give a shit.

To answer the question, I have noticed an influx of new people. Some seem very genuine and some not so much.

 

[callinectes]

Your posts is one of the reasons my mind changes.

I mean that in a good way not a bitchy way.

I did not make my comments in an effort to chase people away, I was thinking of those people who make strange threads such as 'Look at pics of me cumming' or 'Tell me how bad I have been' of which there was a spate of throughout the summer months.

It is then I long for a troll just to liven things up.

I have been here a couple years and I like to read new POV's and see new discussions but some people post without thinking if their post is in the best forum for it.

I also agree with ADR's post apart from I don't have the same inbuilt ability to spot disingenuous posters;
What normally happens is ADR spots them and then months later I end up agreeing
*sigh*

*bows to Miss Shy* thank you

Soo you are saying that I shouldn't start a thread telling you all about my last session and how bad I was... because, you know, my Dom instructed me to do that as my punishment.

 

[FurryFury]

As a long time lurker .. newbie poster, I'd just like to say that sometimes I feel intimidated by the posters who have been here a while. There have been times that I would like to comment on a post, but haven't because I am new and feel as if what I had to say would be overlooked. Please, don't get me wrong. I am not looking for validation of my opinions or point of views but feel that what I would have to say would carry no weight or more accurately that nobody would actually give a shit.

To answer the question, I have noticed an influx of new people. Some seem very genuine and some not so much.

You sound like a thoughtful and intelligent person. IMO that is exactly the sort of poster the community here enjoys!

Fury

 

[Kajira Callista]

*grins impishyl*

Wasn't actually _intended_ that way, but if it worked for you, I'm tickled to death! *lol*

*mew*

 

[A Desert Rose]

As a long time lurker .. newbie poster, I'd just like to say that sometimes I feel intimidated by the posters who have been here a while. There have been times that I would like to comment on a post, but haven't because I am new and feel as if what I had to say would be overlooked. Please, don't get me wrong. I am not looking for validation of my opinions or point of views but feel that what I would have to say would carry no weight or more accurately that nobody would actually give a shit.

To answer the question, I have noticed an influx of new people. Some seem very genuine and some not so much.

At the risk of coming off sounding bitchy, which is what I seem to be known for anyway, only you are in control of how you feel. No one can make you feel intimidated, but you. If you have something to say that YOU feel is a contribution, then post it. Don't let other people control you.

I've been here a while and in this lifestyle for a while longer than many here, and I can assure you that most people don't give a shit what I have to say. And that's not hard to confirm either... just look at the threads I start and see how far they go. But it's not going to stop me from posting my opinions when the mood strikes me (though, lately that isn't very often.)

This is beginning to look and sound like that cligue poll thread. You will find your niche (or clique) and fit in fine. It doesn't take long to make friends here. And I'm sure you will.

Happy posting and have a good time. And stop worrying about what other people will think of your posts. This is an online PORN forum board... in the scheme of your life, how important is this... really?