Is it in your genes?

[carlg111901]

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[gaymm]

For sometime I have been very curious about giving oral to a guy. I am very straight (married), but have always fantasized about playing with a cock other than my own. A few years ago i started surfing the net to see if i could find anybody who shared the same thoughts/desires/fantasies as me. through searching i found Lit, along with some other sites that were full of people just like me. It made me feel somewhat normal.

At times i had enough courage to post on craigslist, and have chatted with a ton of people. I never had the courage to actually go through with it, until early last year. That experience is here on lit, so if you are interested about reading about my first time just search my posts.

A few months ago my brother gave me his email name and password. I wrote the info down on a piece of paper and forgot about it until today when i came accross it on my desk. I logged onto his account and found replies from a craigslist post he had made. through further investigation i found his post and it was him looking to try giving a guy oral for the first time.

I know that there are a ton of guys out there like me, but i never thought my brother would be 1 of those guys. he is very straight and is actually in a long term relationship now. He has always had a girlfriend ever since he was in his teens.

is this something i should try to be open with him about? No, I'm not looking to go swapping BJ's with my bro, I'm just looking to see what other people think about this. honestly, im a bit in shock still. i'm beginning to think every guy no matter how macho they may seem to be are bi-curious in some way.

Well I guess that is a common thing for a lot of guys, see here: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=569635

As for the bigger question, this doesn't make your brother gay, or even bisexual, just curious to experiment. He may never even intend to follow through, just the act of playing along may titillate him. Who knows. But why should it matter. It is his private life.

I am a little taken aback by your hopefully inadvertant stereotype at the end though. There are lots of gay macho men. Being gay does not mean you are effeminate, or like musicals, or madonna, or like to decorate. I am almost none of those. I am just an average guy, I like sports, and am somewhat of a jock, I like to read, am pretty handy with mechanical and DIY projects, can't stand madonna (but I do like to dance to disco ) But I prefer rock. But I do enjoy the occasional broadway/off broadway musical, but I don't live or die by them. Likewise, I don't wear panties, nor do I get turned on by that, but I do like a guy in a bikini briefs, or a sexy thong (men's thong that is).

Anyway, I think what it shows is that sexual preference is personal, and it is a shame that in this day and age we still need to stereotype about it.

Should you talk to him about it? I vote a big NO WAY. What purpose would it serve? Should you discuss your experience with him? That is up to you, but again, what purpose would it serve?

FWIW, you being married, has absolutely nothing to do with your orientation either. I know many men who are either married or divorced who are gay. Some are out of the closet, some are still very deep in it. But they are gay none the less. Again, does your experience make you gay? Only you can answer that question, but why should it matter?

Me, I label myself gay, simply because I really truly enjoy meeting/socializing with other gay men, or at least men who are not going to bash my brains in because I am gay. Plus my gaydar, while good most of the time, is wrong a lot too.

chris

 

[rbone04]

...Should you talk to him about it? I vote a big NO WAY. What purpose would it serve? Should you discuss your experience with him? That is up to you, but again, what purpose would it serve?...

I totally agree. For starters, even though it may have been a 100% innocent mistake, you found that info by going into his personal shit. You didn't know about it before that, so it must be something he doesn't want you to know about. Even if you went about this in a way where you just brought up how you were feeling and hoped he would admit to his situation, there would really be no point. The only difference is you both have to go through life carrying the same secret about one another, and you never know if a situation will occur where the other lets the secret out.

You could very well damage your relationship with him because of how you found out. Furthermore, it could damage his relationship with your other family members if he is not comfortable with you knowing. If he is married, that could suffer too. Believe me, telling just one person and praying for them to keep that secret is even harder than coming out of the closet to the world - even if it is your brother in the same exact situation, you will constantly have the burden of knowing that someone else knows your deepest, darkest secret.

It will not be therapeutic if that's what you think...

I suggest you say nothing, but take solace in knowing that you have proven are not alone. Alfred Kinsey spent his entire life scientifically proving that most men have, at the very least, some sort of fascination with the same gender on a sexual level.

 

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