is it cheatting or not

[photobuff56]

I need opinions of both male and female preferably married but any opinion is ok. The question is : if you give and receive only oral sex would you consider that cheating ?

 

[islandman]

Same sex or opposite sex oral?

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I need opinions of both male and female preferably married but any opinion is ok. The question is : if you give and receive only oral sex would you consider that cheating ?

If you are involved in a monogamous relationship of any sort and your significant other has no idea that you stepped out?

Yes, it's cheating. Oral only or not. Married or not.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

as long as you did not swallow you are fine....

 

[islandman]

Did either party enjoy the ministrations of the other?

 

[1sickbastard]

I need opinions of both male and female preferably married but any opinion is ok. The question is : if you give and receive only oral sex would you consider that cheating ?

Here's the 'cheating rule of thumb':

If you're hiding, concealing or not telling your significant other about whatever interactions you are having with someone outside your relationship because you think said interactions will make your SO upset or angry; Then YES you are cheating.

 

[shewantsmore]

If your married then any kind of sexual contact with anyone else could be called cheating

 

[chillywilly2]

Everybody knows...eatin ain't cheatin

 

[Lorilei]

I need opinions of both male and female preferably married but any opinion is ok. The question is : if you give and receive only oral sex would you consider that cheating ?

Yes.

.

 

[VaticanAssassin]

This guy says no...

http://www.southdreamz.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/bill-clinton.jpg

 

[Lancecastor]

It's only cheating if she sticks her finger in your ass.

 

[pointless]

i would, but some wouldn't and that's okay.

i guess.

 

[Ulaven_Demorte]

I need opinions of both male and female preferably married but any opinion is ok. The question is : if you give and receive only oral sex would you consider that cheating ?

In my opinion, yes it's cheating.

But ultimately it's up to the other person (your partner, husband, wife, etc.) to decide if what you did was cheating or not. Just because you may not think so doesn't mean that they will feel the same way.

 

[shoulderblade]

If you are involved in a monogamous relationship of any sort and your significant other has no idea that you stepped out?

Yes, it's cheating. Oral only or not. Married or not.

100% agreed. Won't read the rest of the thread.

 

[laZilla]

I need opinions of both male and female preferably married but any opinion is ok. The question is : if you give and receive only oral sex would you consider that cheating ?

Why don't you ask your spouse and see what they think?

 

[moonglow18f]

if your doing anything that would hurt you to reveal it to your partner or likewise hurt your partner to have it revealed, then it is 'cheating'.

So pretty much what everyone else has said. If the temptation is really great, do what i do and just think of how angry or hurt you would be if the situation were reversed.

 

[Lancecastor]

What if he wears a condom? No actual touching. Loophole?

http://www.history.org/Foundation/journal/Holiday07/images/Love33_R2.jpg

 

[Cratchit]

what are you, a damn idiot? are you really looking for strangers to give you the ok to keep cheating cause its not sex? or to start having oral since the people on lit said its cool?


well, then obviously you need to know that if it happens on a friday morning between 9:34 and 10:03, its not cheating

 

[moonglow18f]

well, then obviously you need to know that if it happens on a friday morning between 9:34 and 10:03, its not cheating

*Sits the alarm on her watch* uhh...what time zone is that?

 

[Cratchit]

*Sits the alarm on her watch* uhh...what time zone is that?

ah, yes, that would be eastern time zone. true story. even judges say its a permitable defense

 

[man_4_milf]

"I did not have sexual relations with that woman.......Ms. Lewisky!" LOL

 

[GobletHolly182]

If you're hiding, concealing or not telling your significant other about whatever interactions you are having with someone outside your relationship because you think said interactions will make your SO upset or angry; Then YES you are cheating.

I absolutely second this!

But... here's me looking for vindication on Literotica because I can't very well ask my priest: What if your definition of 'significant other' is apparently not shared by everyone?

You're only been on a few dates with someone and have slept with them a handful of times. You like this person and are willing to explore the relationship further, but you're FAR from committed and have never discussed a future or titles or how serious it is, anything. You are still getting to know them; in fact, all your dates consist of safe 'this is what I do at work' or 'this is my nephew' introductory type convos.

Then, you sleep with some other people. Cheating or not cheating?

Of course I didn't tell this person I was dating about my sexual activities because I thought it might make them upset or angry. But I also didn't think it was any of their business. I was trying to figure out how into this person I was, and didn't want to force a DTR convo. "I had a threesome this weekend" is the type of statement that forces DTRs. I think that up until you discuss with someone whether or not you're in an exclusive relationship, you both shouldn't make assumptions either way. It's not exclusive, it's not open, it's TBD.

My friends all think I was cheating. But my friends also think anal is gross, so their opinions are questionable.

 

[bronzeage]

Yes.

.

Unless your spouse watches and gives advice.

 

[mediocre]

Depends on your definition of the word is..........

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

If your married then any kind of sexual contact with anyone else could be called cheating

According to Jimmy Carter even thinking about is cheating.