Is he saying he doesn't want to see me?

[cheesysusie]

Ok, so my boyfriend is moving to New York tomorrow. I live in Alabama. We had agreed not to go out tonight, but to go out last night instead. We were going to celebrate Valentine's Day, and say our goodbyes this morning. We just felt like waiting until tonight would put too much pressure on the night to be a good one. And I don't think I could handle waking up next to him tomorrow morning, only to have him rush off to his place to meet the movers. So, anyway, he stood me up last night. I finally broke down and called him, and he said he was still at the office, wrapping things up there, and he'd tried to call me. So he finally came over around 3 am. And he expected me to get up and hang out with him. Problem was, I had to be up this morning to take my great aunt to a dr's appointment, and after waiting up half the night for him already, I needed some sleep. So I got up this morning, and went to take my great aunt. She had forgotten about the appointment, and I ended up back at home like 30 minutes after I'd left. And he was gone. No note, nothing. So is this a classic male way of avoiding me? And if so, why do oyu think he's avoiding me?

 

[bknight2602]

Maybe he just couldn't bring himself to say anything that might be anti-climatic. I hope it works out for you though.

 

[Guest]

Come to UK. Me love you long time.

 

[huskie]

Come to UK. Me love you long time.

I thought you where in the white house???

 

[Ezzie]

Maybe he's having a hard time dealing with the fact that he's moving. I don't think I'd take it personally, yet.

 

[cheesysusie]

Maybe he's having a hard time dealing with the fact that he's moving. I don't think I'd take it personally, yet.

But at this point, I may not see him again before he moves.

 

[estevie]

Why is he moving, susie? Is it a school thing where he'll be home on holidays and such? Or is he moving for work? If thats the case, are you staying together? Have you discussed long distance relationships?

I need more info!

 

[Ezzie]

Call him and tell him that you don't want the goodbye to go this way. Maybe he'll see that he's putting additional stress on the situation.

Are you two still planning on being a couple after he moves? And, why is he moving?

 

[cheesysusie]

He has gotten an amazing job in NYC. And we have discussed staying together. Actually, he wanted me to move with him, I'm just not ready for that kind of thing right now. We aren't breaking up though, and I'm not saying HELL NO, I'm not moving, just not yet. We're going to try to see each other every other weekend, flying back and forth. It's just that this is the last time for a long time that we'll live in the same city. And I hate that he blew me off last night.

 

[estevie]

Perhaps he is just freaking out on his own, ya know? I would think a move such as that would be a little nerve wracking. Maybe he just needs some time alone. I don't know, you know him better than anyone. Why do you think he blew you off?

 

[scrymettet]

afraid

He may be afraid to see you crying or being seen crying.

 

[cheesysusie]

Well, my insecurity is saying that he doesn't wanna see me because he wants to break up with me and is too chickenshit to do it. My more optimistic side is saying he's planned a big surprise for tonight, and was trying to throw me off track. I just don't know what I think, honestly.

 

[cheesysusie]

*bump* Cause I really do need opinions here.

 

[estevie]

Well, I hope it turns out alright for you!

Happy Valentine's Day!

 

[Carp]

Well. there's only one way to have a shot at knpowing, and that is to trot over to his place and ask him. You do deserve an answer, go get it.

 

[Lancecastor]

If what you two have is real and you both believe in it, none of the stuff you've mentioned will make a difference.

So, with that in mind, it might be a good idea to let him have the opportunity to miss you .

After all, it sounds like he has a full plate with the move, new job as well as the emotional attachment to you.

Chill out. Let him go without fanfare.

If you're not breaking up there's no need for fanfare anyway, as you'll see him again in a couple of weeks or a month or whenever.

And if he is leaving for good...why pump up the drama about it? Lots of fish in the sea.

Either way, stop clinging. Guys hate that shit. Too much emotional Venus pressure. Be cool.

;-)

Lance

 

[cheesysusie]

It wouldn't be a big deal if we hadn't made plans for last night. Even guys don't like to be blown off (no puns intended), I'm sure. And I don't think I'm being overly clingy. I'd just like to see him again before he moves away.

 

[estevie]

It sounds very disappointing. I would think he would want to spend time with you before he goes. But maybe a stress thing is involved. If I was you, I'd call and see what was up. I would need to know where things stood before he left. Maybe he is just waitng for you to say something before he opens up.

Good Luck to you, susie!