Is flirting online cheating?

[sheath]

This question is probably going to spark some debate, especially here on Literotica Grand Central Station...

Is flirting online cheating? If you flirt heavily with someone, and discuss what you WOULD do if your s/o was not in your life...if you share little innuendo...and then choose very clearly to not tell your s/o but continue the 'flirting' relationship and make plans to meet...how close is that to cheating? Or is it outright cheating?

The old saying comes to mind: If you do or say something that you would not want your s/o to see or hear, then it is cheating.

What say ye?

S.

 

[Riles]

Doesn't it depend on the intention of the flirtation? Meaning, what's the end product?

 

[sheath]

Assume the flirting occurs just because he's looking for someone to "talk to", and he gives no further explanation than that. But the plans to meet are clearly there AND they both choose not to let his s/o in on said plans.

Intention: Questionable.

S.

 

[Touch1]

I would say that when it evolves to plans to meet, flirtation is no longer the prime motivator and that changes everything. If it's just e-mails back/forth then I don't see any harm. It's a kind of written fantasy.

 

[MissTaken]

Assume the flirting occurs just because he's looking for someone to "talk to", and he gives no further explanation than that. But the plans to meet are clearly there AND they both choose not to let his s/o in on said plans.

Intention: Questionable.

S.

Any time someone feels a need to keep a relationship or contact a secret, it is "cheating."

Just my opinion, of course.

Secrets are destructive to any relationship and this sort, well, the so would probably question the intention of his spouse. What would the response be?

Tehre is no response that shows the so he is his spouse's first consideration.

 

[Kitte]

It is this simple...If it is something you would hide from your SO it is cheating. Now if you have an agreement that certain levels of flirting/Cyber discussions are acceptable then no it isnt.

I know for me...it would be hurtful to have my SO do heavy flirting. We have discussed this...and I think have come to an agreement as to what is acceptable to us. Anything beyond that is considered like a breech of contract so to speak. If I am in the mood for flirting...or a little online dirty talk...I know how to find him

 

[Killswitch]

Yup.....what the two previous girls said........And it's not cheating in the classic sense, but it is dishonest to the core.

They had a couple in Taxi Cab confessions last nite....the guy proposed to the girl and the cabbie was taking them to the Clark County Court building...(I know the name cuz I've been there...heh)...anyways....the guy has cheated on the girl many times and was all this and that about the fact that he hadn't for two months now...patting him self on the back like you wouldn't believe....well earlier when she brought it up he said he didn't think it was cheating because and I quote..." It's not like I had an affair or anything"

Some people just dont get it.

 

[plasticman33]

Hell, I've been a flirt my entire adult life. My SO knows that and knows I'll never change!

 

[curious2c]

This very thing bothered me for quite some time. We had a talk about it and it was decided that if I flirted online that would be ok. However...(always a however isn't there?)...I found that even when not flirting relationships can hit you out of nowhere. Having said that...I still flirt here. I do that because it seems to give me a layer of protection from possible other choices that I would make in seriousness. I love my wife with all my heart, and she knows this. She is also aware that I have in me a need to flirt with members of the opposite sex too. In some ways doing it online is the safest way for me to have fun and her to not worry about things.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

Hell, I've been a flirt my entire adult life. My SO knows that and knows I'll never change!

what he said. Nothing is wrong with flirting, to know you can still attract someone with your charm, wit, massively huge cock (insert inane laughing and eyerolling here), whatever. The key is an understanding partner. I suppose I am rather lucky in the fact she's a big a flirt as I am.

To that, we both also know it is extremely unlikely that either of us took it further than flirting as in actually getting together with someone to fuck.