tiwolf
This is not me
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Hi Y’all I read a message here recently from a wife who was upset when she discovered her husband was cyber-ing and considered it cheating. So, when does cyber-ing constitute cheating?
I guess the obvious instances would be:
1. Trying to arrange a meeting (rendezvous) with your cyber partner(s).
2. Ignoring your mates needs (intimacies) in favor of cyber-ing
3. Place cyber-ing foremost in your life’s priorities.
Now, barring the above is there a big difference between fantasy masturbation (stars/starlets, models, etc) and cyber-ing. If you never intend to go beyond simple fantasy lovers, are you cheating? You read in some sex therapy articles that it is ok to fantasize when making love to your SO. Just be careful whose name you call out when you have that orgasm!
Do some SO’s consider violated because it is happening under their roof and almost in their presence. Some would say that if we are so secretive about what we are doing, there must be guilt and it must not be right. For me, I have an extreme attraction for Asian Ladies and fantasize about having sex with them. Now, I am happily married and would not leave my wife for another, but I would not go running to here to tell her this fantasy or want her to find out. I would not want to hurt her feelings thinking that she is not satisfying me and not making me happy. Quite the contrary is true, but I still have the fantasy. So, is it better to repress the fantasy, explore it through cyber-ing (without any thoughts of making it a reality)?
What are some opinions, thoughts? The thoughts expressed here will not be representative of everyone, but may provide some insight.
Thanks
I guess the obvious instances would be:
1. Trying to arrange a meeting (rendezvous) with your cyber partner(s).
2. Ignoring your mates needs (intimacies) in favor of cyber-ing
3. Place cyber-ing foremost in your life’s priorities.
Now, barring the above is there a big difference between fantasy masturbation (stars/starlets, models, etc) and cyber-ing. If you never intend to go beyond simple fantasy lovers, are you cheating? You read in some sex therapy articles that it is ok to fantasize when making love to your SO. Just be careful whose name you call out when you have that orgasm!
Do some SO’s consider violated because it is happening under their roof and almost in their presence. Some would say that if we are so secretive about what we are doing, there must be guilt and it must not be right. For me, I have an extreme attraction for Asian Ladies and fantasize about having sex with them. Now, I am happily married and would not leave my wife for another, but I would not go running to here to tell her this fantasy or want her to find out. I would not want to hurt her feelings thinking that she is not satisfying me and not making me happy. Quite the contrary is true, but I still have the fantasy. So, is it better to repress the fantasy, explore it through cyber-ing (without any thoughts of making it a reality)?
What are some opinions, thoughts? The thoughts expressed here will not be representative of everyone, but may provide some insight.
Thanks
