I wouldn't recommend "self-medicating" with BDSM... If someone is going through a personal problem, he/she first and foremost obviously needs therapy or some other forms of help, not BDSM. But it sounds like this has more to do with your own needs, and not hers. It sounds like you just tried to find some excuse or justification for her to get into BDSM. She only complied to doing what you wanted to do when she was more vulnerable. But if anyone is uncomfortable with BDSM, then they shouldn't do it and it would be the end of that. Don't idealize BDSM as some magical cure for depression and personal problems. A therapy or some other self-help would obviously be much more suited for that.
I wouldn't recommend "self-medicating" with BDSM... If someone is going through a personal problem, he/she first and foremost obviously needs therapy or some other forms of help, not BDSM. But it sounds like this has more to do with your own needs, and not hers. It sounds like you just tried to find some excuse or justification for her to get into BDSM. She only complied to doing what you wanted to do when she was more vulnerable. But if anyone is uncomfortable with BDSM, then they shouldn't do it and it would be the end of that. Don't idealize BDSM as some magical cure for depression and personal problems. A therapy or some other self-help would obviously be much more suited for that.
