Is anyone truly honest? Is it truth or lies?

[smart_and_sexytxgirl]

Is it just me, or do SO many people who wave the flag of "honesty" actually do the opposite? They tell you x, but want y. They want y but do w. In the middle of it they are supposedly telling you their honest/truthful thoughts, and yet, that is not the whole story.

I am tired of trusting and getting hurt. Its making me so cynical.

Is there any truth or honesty anymore?

I'm curious, guys, how do you walk the line between trusting and calling them on the BS?

I know it may sound naive, but once I get to know and trust a person, I tend to think that they are being straight with me, unless I have proof otherwise. Maybe I'm too trusting.

Please comment on any or all of this topic. I really am interested in seeing how other people view this situation.

 

[rosco rathbone]

What's the backstory here. You're being a little too vague.

 

[Saint Peter]

Trust is a blowjob. I trust that you are not going to sink your teeth into my cock. You trust that I will not be filming the act and posting it on youtube the next morning.

Trust cannot be one sided. It can be unbalanced, but without both sides having something to gain and something to lose, there is no trust.

 

[smart_and_sexytxgirl]

What's the backstory here. You're being a little too vague.

For instance, a person I know recently made this HUGE deal about how import honesty is to him, how people need to communicate and understand each other, how people need to be truthful, and yet, he's not telling me the truth. He's not being honest. And I hate that he is, and that I discovered it. I thought better of him.

What I'm wondering is what I do now? Do I address the issue? Do I leave it alone? And why, for crying out loud, can't what someone says actually be what they mean?

And yes, there are more instances besides this, I just provided this one as an example.

 

[rosco rathbone]

For instance, a person I know recently made this HUGE deal about how import honesty is to him, how people need to communicate and understand each other, how people need to be truthful, and yet, he's not telling me the truth. He's not being honest. And I hate that he is, and that I discovered it. I thought better of him.

What I'm wondering is what I do now? Do I address the issue? Do I leave it alone? And why, for crying out loud, can't what someone says actually be what they mean?

And yes, there are more instances besides this, I just provided this one as an example.

You need to go all Skyler White on his ass.

 

[smart_and_sexytxgirl]

Trust is a blowjob. I trust that you are not going to sink your teeth into my cock. You trust that I will not be filming the act and posting it on youtube the next morning.

Trust cannot be one sided. It can be unbalanced, but without both sides having something to gain and something to lose, there is no trust.

Interesting. That is a simple version of it, but still applicable in most cases.

 

[TallMan69]

Trust is a blowjob. I trust that you are not going to sink your teeth into my cock. You trust that I will not be filming the act and posting it on youtube the next morning.

Trust cannot be one sided. It can be unbalanced, but without both sides having something to gain and something to lose, there is no trust.

Trust is a tricky thing. I like the idea of being completely trusting with someone until that person gives me reason to doubt. Once broken its definitely hard to mend. A breach of trust pays a heavy toll especially with very close relationships.

 

[Johnny_Ray_Wilson]

For instance, a person I know recently made this HUGE deal about how import honesty is to him, how people need to communicate and understand each other, how people need to be truthful, and yet, he's not telling me the truth. He's not being honest. And I hate that he is, and that I discovered it. I thought better of him.

What I'm wondering is what I do now? Do I address the issue? Do I leave it alone? And why, for crying out loud, can't what someone says actually be what they mean?

And yes, there are more instances besides this, I just provided this one as an example.

Then call him out on it. Let him know how you feel. Perhaps he is not being honest with himself without realizing he is not being honest with you as well.

 

[warrior queen]

You are asking two completely separate questions.
Trust and honesty don't always go together.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Is it just me, or do SO many people who wave the flag of "honesty" actually do the opposite? They tell you x, but want y. They want y but do w. In the middle of it they are supposedly telling you their honest/truthful thoughts, and yet, that is not the whole story.

I am tired of trusting and getting hurt. Its making me so cynical.

Is there any truth or honesty anymore?

I'm curious, guys, how do you walk the line between trusting and calling them on the BS?

I know it may sound naive, but once I get to know and trust a person, I tend to think that they are being straight with me, unless I have proof otherwise. Maybe I'm too trusting.

Please comment on any or all of this topic. I really am interested in seeing how other people view this situation.

Trust and honesty matter when the issue is important to you. Quite often its better to lie than start a shit-storm about something thats not worth the furor. My oldest friends mother died recently, I am not gonna reveal my loathing for the old battleaxe, and when asked I always swear she was a saint.

When people lie to me about what matters I dump them.

 

[Bert Notorius]

Get a dog.

 

[Johnny_Ray_Wilson]

You are asking two completely separate questions.
Trust and honesty don't always go together.

True that. Sometimes I am honest to a fault. Brutal with it at times. When it comes to a close friend, I do find it difficult to be honest with someone when I am certain it could hurt their feelings. Then again, I also know if I am NOT honest with them, I fear it would violate their trust in me.

 

[Saint Peter]

Interesting. That is a simple version of it, but still applicable in most cases.

It is not simple!

It is deep and complex.
Trust me.

 

[lovetoread]

Almost never believe any guy on Lit. They are married or are in a relationship. I'm not saying all of them, but a great many are. Also, don't buy the I'm married but she doesn't understand me story either.

Trust and honesty are totally different though. I trust a lot of people who are not totally honest.

But I will say that if some dude was preaching that being honest was important but was lying, kick his butt to the curb.

 

[Saint Peter]

buzzkill!

 

[Fata Morgana]

Get a dog.

I'm with this fella.

I would never trust anyone totally anymore, and I'm not talking just romantic/sexual relationships either. Unfortunately I've found a lot of folks are lacking in the truth telling department when it comes down to it.

Dogs never lie!

 

[Saint Peter]

I said I was sorry.

 

[lovetoread]

buzzkill!

Cause you know I'm right. *nods*

 

[1fromawoodpile]

Is it just me, or do SO many people who wave the flag of "honesty" actually do the opposite? They tell you x, but want y. They want y but do w. In the middle of it they are supposedly telling you their honest/truthful thoughts, and yet, that is not the whole story.

I am tired of trusting and getting hurt. Its making me so cynical.

Is there any truth or honesty anymore?

I'm curious, guys, how do you walk the line between trusting and calling them on the BS?

I know it may sound naive, but once I get to know and trust a person, I tend to think that they are being straight with me, unless I have proof otherwise. Maybe I'm too trusting.

Please comment on any or all of this topic. I really am interested in seeing how other people view this situation.

It's like this, you are a cynical and emotional bitch. Anyone who attempts an intimate relationship with you confirms this quickly and moves on. Hopefully, with at least a good fuck out of it first.

 

[eyer]

1-800-OPRAH must be down again...

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Almost never believe any guy on Lit. They are married or are in a relationship. I'm not saying all of them, but a great many are. Also, don't buy the I'm married but she doesn't understand me story either.

Trust and honesty are totally different though. I trust a lot of people who are not totally honest.

But I will say that if some dude was preaching that being honest was important but was lying, kick his butt to the curb.

Once only, over many many years, I knew a man with a vegetative wife confined to an institution. He had a girlfriend who was related to me. Everyone knew the situation, and everyone was okay with the arrangement they had.

As my aunt usta say, IF MY GUY WAS TRYING TO PICK A WOMAN UP AT A BAR I WOULDNT UNDERSTAND HIM, EITHER.

 

[lovetoread]

Once only, over many many years, I knew a man with a vegetative wife confined to an institution. He had a girlfriend who was related to me. Everyone knew the situation, and everyone was okay with the arrangement they had.

As my aunt usta say, IF MY GUY WAS TRYING TO PICK A WOMAN UP AT A BAR I WOULDNT UNDERSTAND HIM, EITHER.

See that is different, it wasn't hidden or lied about.

I'm ok with that.

 

[fluffPE]

I'm with this fella.

I would never trust anyone totally anymore, and I'm not talking just romantic/sexual relationships either. Unfortunately I've found a lot of folks are lacking in the truth telling department when it comes down to it.

Dogs never lie!

Gobshite!

 

[semen4her]

I'm honest.

Haven't felt the need to lie for at least a decade.

 

[Fata Morgana]

Gobshite!

Cunt!