Introduction to swinging, etc.

[lovedart]

Hello folks,

My wife turns 40 in August and I am taking her to Vegas for a couple of nights. I'd like to get her with another guy, women or couple.
She has been reluctant previously but given the right scenario, she may warm to the possibility.

Any ideas how to meet up with willing participants and make it look spontaneous?

thanks for your comments!

 

[Eilan]

Any ideas how to meet up with willing participants and make it look spontaneous?

What do you mean by "make it look spontaneous"? If your wife is reluctant, you won't want to set anything up without her consent.

 

[lovedart]

Sorry folks, I must clarify. I wouldn't force her to do anything, but sometimes if the stars align and the right situation should become available it may be time to go for it. I just would like to see how things evolve, no pressure.

 

[shiny5437]

Hello folks,

For my wife's birthday I want to indulge my sexual fantasies by tricking her into doing something she doesn't want to do. She's never wanted to do it in the past but if I deceive her enough and team up with other equally deceptive people she might just give in.

Do any anonymous strangers know anybody low enough to collude in this as I don't want to ask my wife what she would actually want as that might mean doing something for her.

thanks for the comments!

Goodluck!

 

[Cattypuss]

Sorry but you need to be 100% sure she wants this otherwise you are running the risk of making her 40th birthday a horrible experience for her - a day on which she feels misunderstood and uncared for.

 

[satindesire]

Sorry but you need to be 100% sure she wants this otherwise you are running the risk of making her 40th birthday a horrible experience for her - a day on which she feels misunderstood and uncared for.

I agree. As much as it looks good in fantasy, even the slightest reluctance can make spontaneous swinging into relationship suicide.

You need to sit down and PLAN with her. TALK with her. Talk it to death, really, making sure that every permutation of this scenario is okay with her. Discuss boundaries, what kind of person/people you'd both agree to, who does what, how far each person can go, what to do afterwards, etc etc.

I'm not kidding. If you try and make her feel pressured in any way, it could be the end of your marriage.

If she's reluctant, honestly hon, it's best to leave this in the realm of your jacking-off fodder and let her be about it.

 

[silverwhisper]

the surprise menage is a popular idea in lit stories, but i don't think it lives very well, dude. in fact, if you spend enough time here, you'll see that every now and again, someone posts about how he did exactly what you're talking about and how it blew up in his face.

ed

 

[lovedart]

Wow, I'm blown away by the feedback. Thanks to all.

I didn't realize the variety of reactions I'd encounter. I guess I thought we'd meet a nice person or couple and chat and if the topic came up, see what played out. Obviously this isn't the way to go after all. How naive of me, right?

I love my wife and her happiness (and exploring some other sexual possibilities) was my goal. I will discuss with her and plan out details and scenarios, but I figured that would take the sizzle out of the whole experience.

Once again thanks for your feedback. Being new at this, I did not know where to begin or what to do.

 

[satindesire]

Wow, I'm blown away by the feedback. Thanks to all.

I didn't realize the variety of reactions I'd encounter. I guess I thought we'd meet a nice person or couple and chat and if the topic came up, see what played out. Obviously this isn't the way to go after all. How naive of me, right?

I love my wife and her happiness (and exploring some other sexual possibilities) was my goal. I will discuss with her and plan out details and scenarios, but I figured that would take the sizzle out of the whole experience.

Once again thanks for your feedback. Being new at this, I did not know where to begin or what to do.

There's no harm in ignorance. If you haven't been taught something, you just haven't been taught, and there's no shame in that whatsoever.

I'm really glad we could help you. I know it seems like planning sucks all the fun out of it, but I think it's worth keeping your wife in the loop and comfortable.

 

[PhxGizmo]

Swinging

Play off of the Las Vegas experience and ask if she would like to go to a Swing Club.

I can recommend the Red Rooster in Las Vegas (vegasredrooster.com).

Nice place, nice people, no pressure...a good place to start...watch...or be watched!