Introduction -My wife and other men

[lovetoread]

There is nothing wrong with man o man loving.

I am with Setti on this one.

 

[Saint Peter]

Stinks in here.

 

[artemesia_g]

This might not be the right place to post this.

Yathink??

 

[larrycando]

You are in the wrong thread....

Go to this thread here, you will find some like minded folks:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=770005

If you want to see another man living out your fantasy.... go here:

http://xhamster.com/movies/2822993/wife_first_time_shared_full_amateur_mmf_threesome.html

 

[BabblingBrooke]

There is nothing wrong with man o man loving.

I am with Setti on this one.

Thirded!

 

[unnissa]

First a little about my wife and me, we have been married 10 years and dated two years prior. She is early ‘40s and I am a couple years older, we have two small children. Both of us are full time professionals and work hard to balance the demands of work and life. Neither of us are Barbie and Ken. She is very beautiful white, fair skinned, blonde, blue eyes with a nice bust. She will complain about the baby weight she has, but I think she is a goddess. Myself I am showing middle age, balding, and overweight.

Given that we have small children and the demands of work we have a pretty good sex life together and enjoy being able to have some time to enjoy ourselves. My only wish would be more frequency, but I am grateful for what we have. I have always felt that for me to enjoy sex my wife must enjoy herself as well and I enjoy being oral with her very much and seeing her climax. She in turn is very passionate in the bedroom and when she gets going can be quite intense.

The thought of her enjoying herself with another man (and he enjoying himself with her) arouses me a great deal. It has since even before we were married. For myself I will certainly notice women I find attractive, but have no interest in having sex with anyone, but my wife. I have been doing a lot of reading online and offline about the hot wife/cuckold phenomena to help me understand this. I also have read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, which I must recommend to anyone with an interest in this topic. I find that evolutionary biology to be a plausible explanation for this as well as female vs. male physiology. Women are built for sex with multiple males at a time or in short sequence. This is harder for us men who need time to “reload”. This makes it easier for a woman to have multiple males.

In many ways, this is an extension of me wanting to give her pleasure and fulfillment. I imagine my wife enjoying variety and the freedom to sample it. In my opinion she can eat her cake and enjoy it to.

I enjoy the thought of her enjoying seeing a man she finds attractive naked, seeing how the sight of her arouses him. I enjoy the thought of her touching and exploring another man, perhaps someone who is fit and trim. I enjoy the idea of her getting pleasure from kissing and feeling his touch. Her seeing how he responds to her and her to him. I enjoy the thought of her feeling her body against his. Her feeling him push into her, the different feeling his penis in her. The new and different positions she gets to discover and enjoy. I enjoy the thought of her climaxing from him and then enjoying being in his arms afterward.

When I see my wife naked, I imagine other men enjoying her beauty. When I touch her and she touches me I imagine she and another man enjoying that. During sex I imagine her enjoying another man enjoying pushing his bare penis into her and her enjoying feeling him. I imagine him enjoying the view of her breasts moving with each thrust. He feels her great body against him, feeling himself going in deeper as she pushes her hands against the head of the bed. As I cum inside her, I imagine another man enjoying the sensation as he cums inside her bare. I have had a vasectomy and the thought of another man going bare with her and cumming inside here is a big turn on for me. I enjoy the thought of another man helping her climax and he enjoying the sight, sound and feeling as she does. I am open to her being with any guy who rings her bell, but the idea of her being with a black man, the contrast, the taboo aspect is a big turn on for me. I am blondish, blue eyes and fair skinned as is my wife...

I imagine a variety of scenarios where this might happen. Perhaps on a girls night out she meets someone, perhaps a younger athletic black man and leaves with him at the end of the evening, enjoys some hot sex with him and comes home for hot sex with me and tells me all about her evening and her new “friend”. Perhaps a professional associate who flirts with her and she reciprocates and takes him as a lover. She does travel to another city a few hours away from us for business on a regular basis. I imagine her meeting a local guy there and inviting him to spend the night with her in her hotel room. I imagine her having a “boyfriend” who she dates and then comes home to enjoy being with me. Having a guy she is interested in over to our home for dinner, seeing her all made up and in a sexy dress. The three of us enjoying wine, food and good conversation all the while they are eying one another. After words I can see the either the two of them going into our bedroom alone, him leaving later thanking me for a wonderful evening telling me how lucky I am. The two of them enjoy each other in our marriage bed. Later he comes out dressed and thanks me for a great evening. I quietly walk in later and see his seed leaking out and quite a mess on the bed as she grins at me laying on the bed. I imagine a number of scenarios where she is enjoying the pleasure of another man while I get sloppy seconds and taking pleasure in knowing she is enjoying herself.

She is well aware of my desire for her to enjoy other men. I have brought it up during sex and after, as well as outside of the bedroom. I feel secure in her love for me and our relationship and am not jealous of her flirting with other men, which she appreciates very much. When she goes out for girls nights she likes having other men chat her up, flirt and buy her drinks. I have enjoyed her flirting with other men when out with her, seeing her enjoy the attention of other men. While she comes home and tells me all about it, her friends whose husbands/boyfriends don’t trust them and/or get jealous envy her being able to share this with me. Before having kids, she would often go out in nice tight fitting and low cut tops, full make up, jeans and boots. Often if I was working late or out with my friends, she would go out with her friends for dinner and drinks. I really liked seeing her before and after and the idea of another man approaching her, flirting and perhaps enjoying her charms. I liked the idea of her enjoying a nice time with her friends, free drinks from guys, flirting and perhaps more. I also really enjoyed the sex after these evenings out and aforementioned imaginings of her enjoying another man.

When I bring up the topic, she laughs, thinks I am crazy/silly, and says it will not happen. I do notice her checking out other men who like the men she dated before me is quite diverse (I am white) including Latin, East Indian, African American and Middle Eastern men. When she goes out, I tell her to stay out a late, as she wants, have fun and enjoy the free drinks. I talk about her enjoying taking a lover and she says who would go for me and laughs it off. She feels that infidelity is very wrong and is dead set against it but at the same time talks about friends of hers who were not meant for monogamy. When we saw Brokeback Mountain, the disturbing part for her was the marital infidelity, not the gay men being lovers as much. She says she would never be with another man. I am slowly introducing the concept of sexual freedom for her while being married to me doesn’t have to hurt what we have. Like others, here in this forum I see it as an opportunity to enhance what we have. However, I am not going to push or force anything. I will continue to enjoy what we have while letting her know she can enjoy herself if she so chooses. I am going to make sure she understands I am ok with her getting to enjoy the best of being in a loving and secure marriage while embracing nature.

She has also responded during sex in a couple ways. Once on a vacation to a resort she headed up to our room alone while I stayed with our child down at the pool so she could take a nap. We came up an hour or so later to find her in bed naked and asleep. After putting the baby down for a nap I joined her in bed and she woke up, we started making out. I was telling her how beautiful she is and how sexy it was to find her in bed naked. She said something to the effect that perhaps another guy already beat me to the punch. That really charged things up. I told her I hope that was the case that she enjoyed herself. I imagine us being at the beach or pool, she meets a guy she finds attractive and then seeing her take him up to our room alone. I go up a while later to not only find her sleeping naked in our bed, but an odor of sex and stained sheets along with it.

Recently during sex I told her how the idea of her taking a lover and enjoying herself made me hot. She then went on to say, oh you mean my "Portuguese Lover" and we both went on from there a bit about him. She was laughing while saying this thinking I was silly.

Once I told her about a scenario I often envision where she wears some sexy clothing showing plenty of cleavage, flattering but nice. I drop her of at a bar/club, park the car and proceed to go in after she has been there for a while. I spot her at the bar making new friends, dancing, flirting. She ends up spending time with this one guy, more touching, flirting, getting closer and finally kissing. She then excuses herself and goes to the ladies room where I meet her after she is done. She asks if I am having a good time and I say I do. She then grabs my hand and introduces me to her new friend. We all have a drink and talk, she is sitting close to him. At this point I suggest we go to a motel room and she and her knew friend enjoy some hot sex while I watch off to the side.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying hotel, not motel.

One time we woke up early and she is hot to trot. She told me she has a had a hot and naughty dream. She said in her dream she was making out with another guy, but ended up not going "all the way". I asked her for details and she was coy. I made it quite clear that I approved and enjoyed this. I proceeded to tell her about a scenario where a guy is over for dinner that she is attracted to. They flirt throughout the evening and I suggest they enjoy some time together in our bedroom. Later I walk in to see how things are going, the room smells of sex and she is in his arms in our marital bed. I then spot the unopened box of condoms I left out on the night stand and proceed to see his seed coming out of her. I enjoy "silky" seconds.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying she wouldn't have sex without the condom.

Interesting developments. I am enjoying the hot fantasy talk and she appears to be as well somewhat or at least enjoying my reaction to her talking about this.

Taking things slowly and enjoying the journey is fine by me. She is still working out to lose weight. Her plan not mine. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky I am.

So she has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

I have considered as I have seen others do here putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels encouraging her to take another man into her bed.

What are some suggestions to ease her into this? I would love to hear ideas from others.

Gooooooooo d

 

[unnissa]

First a little about my wife and me, we have been married 10 years and dated two years prior. She is early ‘40s and I am a couple years older, we have two small children. Both of us are full time professionals and work hard to balance the demands of work and life. Neither of us are Barbie and Ken. She is very beautiful white, fair skinned, blonde, blue eyes with a nice bust. She will complain about the baby weight she has, but I think she is a goddess. Myself I am showing middle age, balding, and overweight.

Given that we have small children and the demands of work we have a pretty good sex life together and enjoy being able to have some time to enjoy ourselves. My only wish would be more frequency, but I am grateful for what we have. I have always felt that for me to enjoy sex my wife must enjoy herself as well and I enjoy being oral with her very much and seeing her climax. She in turn is very passionate in the bedroom and when she gets going can be quite intense.

The thought of her enjoying herself with another man (and he enjoying himself with her) arouses me a great deal. It has since even before we were married. For myself I will certainly notice women I find attractive, but have no interest in having sex with anyone, but my wife. I have been doing a lot of reading online and offline about the hot wife/cuckold phenomena to help me understand this. I also have read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, which I must recommend to anyone with an interest in this topic. I find that evolutionary biology to be a plausible explanation for this as well as female vs. male physiology. Women are built for sex with multiple males at a time or in short sequence. This is harder for us men who need time to “reload”. This makes it easier for a woman to have multiple males.

In many ways, this is an extension of me wanting to give her pleasure and fulfillment. I imagine my wife enjoying variety and the freedom to sample it. In my opinion she can eat her cake and enjoy it to.

I enjoy the thought of her enjoying seeing a man she finds attractive naked, seeing how the sight of her arouses him. I enjoy the thought of her touching and exploring another man, perhaps someone who is fit and trim. I enjoy the idea of her getting pleasure from kissing and feeling his touch. Her seeing how he responds to her and her to him. I enjoy the thought of her feeling her body against his. Her feeling him push into her, the different feeling his penis in her. The new and different positions she gets to discover and enjoy. I enjoy the thought of her climaxing from him and then enjoying being in his arms afterward.

When I see my wife naked, I imagine other men enjoying her beauty. When I touch her and she touches me I imagine she and another man enjoying that. During sex I imagine her enjoying another man enjoying pushing his bare penis into her and her enjoying feeling him. I imagine him enjoying the view of her breasts moving with each thrust. He feels her great body against him, feeling himself going in deeper as she pushes her hands against the head of the bed. As I cum inside her, I imagine another man enjoying the sensation as he cums inside her bare. I have had a vasectomy and the thought of another man going bare with her and cumming inside here is a big turn on for me. I enjoy the thought of another man helping her climax and he enjoying the sight, sound and feeling as she does. I am open to her being with any guy who rings her bell, but the idea of her being with a black man, the contrast, the taboo aspect is a big turn on for me. I am blondish, blue eyes and fair skinned as is my wife...

I imagine a variety of scenarios where this might happen. Perhaps on a girls night out she meets someone, perhaps a younger athletic black man and leaves with him at the end of the evening, enjoys some hot sex with him and comes home for hot sex with me and tells me all about her evening and her new “friend”. Perhaps a professional associate who flirts with her and she reciprocates and takes him as a lover. She does travel to another city a few hours away from us for business on a regular basis. I imagine her meeting a local guy there and inviting him to spend the night with her in her hotel room. I imagine her having a “boyfriend” who she dates and then comes home to enjoy being with me. Having a guy she is interested in over to our home for dinner, seeing her all made up and in a sexy dress. The three of us enjoying wine, food and good conversation all the while they are eying one another. After words I can see the either the two of them going into our bedroom alone, him leaving later thanking me for a wonderful evening telling me how lucky I am. The two of them enjoy each other in our marriage bed. Later he comes out dressed and thanks me for a great evening. I quietly walk in later and see his seed leaking out and quite a mess on the bed as she grins at me laying on the bed. I imagine a number of scenarios where she is enjoying the pleasure of another man while I get sloppy seconds and taking pleasure in knowing she is enjoying herself.

She is well aware of my desire for her to enjoy other men. I have brought it up during sex and after, as well as outside of the bedroom. I feel secure in her love for me and our relationship and am not jealous of her flirting with other men, which she appreciates very much. When she goes out for girls nights she likes having other men chat her up, flirt and buy her drinks. I have enjoyed her flirting with other men when out with her, seeing her enjoy the attention of other men. While she comes home and tells me all about it, her friends whose husbands/boyfriends don’t trust them and/or get jealous envy her being able to share this with me. Before having kids, she would often go out in nice tight fitting and low cut tops, full make up, jeans and boots. Often if I was working late or out with my friends, she would go out with her friends for dinner and drinks. I really liked seeing her before and after and the idea of another man approaching her, flirting and perhaps enjoying her charms. I liked the idea of her enjoying a nice time with her friends, free drinks from guys, flirting and perhaps more. I also really enjoyed the sex after these evenings out and aforementioned imaginings of her enjoying another man.

When I bring up the topic, she laughs, thinks I am crazy/silly, and says it will not happen. I do notice her checking out other men who like the men she dated before me is quite diverse (I am white) including Latin, East Indian, African American and Middle Eastern men. When she goes out, I tell her to stay out a late, as she wants, have fun and enjoy the free drinks. I talk about her enjoying taking a lover and she says who would go for me and laughs it off. She feels that infidelity is very wrong and is dead set against it but at the same time talks about friends of hers who were not meant for monogamy. When we saw Brokeback Mountain, the disturbing part for her was the marital infidelity, not the gay men being lovers as much. She says she would never be with another man. I am slowly introducing the concept of sexual freedom for her while being married to me doesn’t have to hurt what we have. Like others, here in this forum I see it as an opportunity to enhance what we have. However, I am not going to push or force anything. I will continue to enjoy what we have while letting her know she can enjoy herself if she so chooses. I am going to make sure she understands I am ok with her getting to enjoy the best of being in a loving and secure marriage while embracing nature.

She has also responded during sex in a couple ways. Once on a vacation to a resort she headed up to our room alone while I stayed with our child down at the pool so she could take a nap. We came up an hour or so later to find her in bed naked and asleep. After putting the baby down for a nap I joined her in bed and she woke up, we started making out. I was telling her how beautiful she is and how sexy it was to find her in bed naked. She said something to the effect that perhaps another guy already beat me to the punch. That really charged things up. I told her I hope that was the case that she enjoyed herself. I imagine us being at the beach or pool, she meets a guy she finds attractive and then seeing her take him up to our room alone. I go up a while later to not only find her sleeping naked in our bed, but an odor of sex and stained sheets along with it.

Recently during sex I told her how the idea of her taking a lover and enjoying herself made me hot. She then went on to say, oh you mean my "Portuguese Lover" and we both went on from there a bit about him. She was laughing while saying this thinking I was silly.

Once I told her about a scenario I often envision where she wears some sexy clothing showing plenty of cleavage, flattering but nice. I drop her of at a bar/club, park the car and proceed to go in after she has been there for a while. I spot her at the bar making new friends, dancing, flirting. She ends up spending time with this one guy, more touching, flirting, getting closer and finally kissing. She then excuses herself and goes to the ladies room where I meet her after she is done. She asks if I am having a good time and I say I do. She then grabs my hand and introduces me to her new friend. We all have a drink and talk, she is sitting close to him. At this point I suggest we go to a motel room and she and her knew friend enjoy some hot sex while I watch off to the side.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying hotel, not motel.

One time we woke up early and she is hot to trot. She told me she has a had a hot and naughty dream. She said in her dream she was making out with another guy, but ended up not going "all the way". I asked her for details and she was coy. I made it quite clear that I approved and enjoyed this. I proceeded to tell her about a scenario where a guy is over for dinner that she is attracted to. They flirt throughout the evening and I suggest they enjoy some time together in our bedroom. Later I walk in to see how things are going, the room smells of sex and she is in his arms in our marital bed. I then spot the unopened box of condoms I left out on the night stand and proceed to see his seed coming out of her. I enjoy "silky" seconds.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying she wouldn't have sex without the condom.

Interesting developments. I am enjoying the hot fantasy talk and she appears to be as well somewhat or at least enjoying my reaction to her talking about this.

Taking things slowly and enjoying the journey is fine by me. She is still working out to lose weight. Her plan not mine. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky I am.

So she has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

I have considered as I have seen others do here putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels encouraging her to take another man into her bed.

What are some suggestions to ease her into this? I would love to hear ideas from others.

aaaasya

 

[sr71plt]

The question that occurs to me is, if your wife knew you had posted this to a porn board, would she throw you out on your keister?

 

[unnissa]

First a little about my wife and me, we have been married 10 years and dated two years prior. She is early ‘40s and I am a couple years older, we have two small children. Both of us are full time professionals and work hard to balance the demands of work and life. Neither of us are Barbie and Ken. She is very beautiful white, fair skinned, blonde, blue eyes with a nice bust. She will complain about the baby weight she has, but I think she is a goddess. Myself I am showing middle age, balding, and overweight.

Given that we have small children and the demands of work we have a pretty good sex life together and enjoy being able to have some time to enjoy ourselves. My only wish would be more frequency, but I am grateful for what we have. I have always felt that for me to enjoy sex my wife must enjoy herself as well and I enjoy being oral with her very much and seeing her climax. She in turn is very passionate in the bedroom and when she gets going can be quite intense.

The thought of her enjoying herself with another man (and he enjoying himself with her) arouses me a great deal. It has since even before we were married. For myself I will certainly notice women I find attractive, but have no interest in having sex with anyone, but my wife. I have been doing a lot of reading online and offline about the hot wife/cuckold phenomena to help me understand this. I also have read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, which I must recommend to anyone with an interest in this topic. I find that evolutionary biology to be a plausible explanation for this as well as female vs. male physiology. Women are built for sex with multiple males at a time or in short sequence. This is harder for us men who need time to “reload”. This makes it easier for a woman to have multiple males.

In many ways, this is an extension of me wanting to give her pleasure and fulfillment. I imagine my wife enjoying variety and the freedom to sample it. In my opinion she can eat her cake and enjoy it to.

I enjoy the thought of her enjoying seeing a man she finds attractive naked, seeing how the sight of her arouses him. I enjoy the thought of her touching and exploring another man, perhaps someone who is fit and trim. I enjoy the idea of her getting pleasure from kissing and feeling his touch. Her seeing how he responds to her and her to him. I enjoy the thought of her feeling her body against his. Her feeling him push into her, the different feeling his penis in her. The new and different positions she gets to discover and enjoy. I enjoy the thought of her climaxing from him and then enjoying being in his arms afterward.

When I see my wife naked, I imagine other men enjoying her beauty. When I touch her and she touches me I imagine she and another man enjoying that. During sex I imagine her enjoying another man enjoying pushing his bare penis into her and her enjoying feeling him. I imagine him enjoying the view of her breasts moving with each thrust. He feels her great body against him, feeling himself going in deeper as she pushes her hands against the head of the bed. As I cum inside her, I imagine another man enjoying the sensation as he cums inside her bare. I have had a vasectomy and the thought of another man going bare with her and cumming inside here is a big turn on for me. I enjoy the thought of another man helping her climax and he enjoying the sight, sound and feeling as she does. I am open to her being with any guy who rings her bell, but the idea of her being with a black man, the contrast, the taboo aspect is a big turn on for me. I am blondish, blue eyes and fair skinned as is my wife...

I imagine a variety of scenarios where this might happen. Perhaps on a girls night out she meets someone, perhaps a younger athletic black man and leaves with him at the end of the evening, enjoys some hot sex with him and comes home for hot sex with me and tells me all about her evening and her new “friend”. Perhaps a professional associate who flirts with her and she reciprocates and takes him as a lover. She does travel to another city a few hours away from us for business on a regular basis. I imagine her meeting a local guy there and inviting him to spend the night with her in her hotel room. I imagine her having a “boyfriend” who she dates and then comes home to enjoy being with me. Having a guy she is interested in over to our home for dinner, seeing her all made up and in a sexy dress. The three of us enjoying wine, food and good conversation all the while they are eying one another. After words I can see the either the two of them going into our bedroom alone, him leaving later thanking me for a wonderful evening telling me how lucky I am. The two of them enjoy each other in our marriage bed. Later he comes out dressed and thanks me for a great evening. I quietly walk in later and see his seed leaking out and quite a mess on the bed as she grins at me laying on the bed. I imagine a number of scenarios where she is enjoying the pleasure of another man while I get sloppy seconds and taking pleasure in knowing she is enjoying herself.

She is well aware of my desire for her to enjoy other men. I have brought it up during sex and after, as well as outside of the bedroom. I feel secure in her love for me and our relationship and am not jealous of her flirting with other men, which she appreciates very much. When she goes out for girls nights she likes having other men chat her up, flirt and buy her drinks. I have enjoyed her flirting with other men when out with her, seeing her enjoy the attention of other men. While she comes home and tells me all about it, her friends whose husbands/boyfriends don’t trust them and/or get jealous envy her being able to share this with me. Before having kids, she would often go out in nice tight fitting and low cut tops, full make up, jeans and boots. Often if I was working late or out with my friends, she would go out with her friends for dinner and drinks. I really liked seeing her before and after and the idea of another man approaching her, flirting and perhaps enjoying her charms. I liked the idea of her enjoying a nice time with her friends, free drinks from guys, flirting and perhaps more. I also really enjoyed the sex after these evenings out and aforementioned imaginings of her enjoying another man.

When I bring up the topic, she laughs, thinks I am crazy/silly, and says it will not happen. I do notice her checking out other men who like the men she dated before me is quite diverse (I am white) including Latin, East Indian, African American and Middle Eastern men. When she goes out, I tell her to stay out a late, as she wants, have fun and enjoy the free drinks. I talk about her enjoying taking a lover and she says who would go for me and laughs it off. She feels that infidelity is very wrong and is dead set against it but at the same time talks about friends of hers who were not meant for monogamy. When we saw Brokeback Mountain, the disturbing part for her was the marital infidelity, not the gay men being lovers as much. She says she would never be with another man. I am slowly introducing the concept of sexual freedom for her while being married to me doesn’t have to hurt what we have. Like others, here in this forum I see it as an opportunity to enhance what we have. However, I am not going to push or force anything. I will continue to enjoy what we have while letting her know she can enjoy herself if she so chooses. I am going to make sure she understands I am ok with her getting to enjoy the best of being in a loving and secure marriage while embracing nature.

She has also responded during sex in a couple ways. Once on a vacation to a resort she headed up to our room alone while I stayed with our child down at the pool so she could take a nap. We came up an hour or so later to find her in bed naked and asleep. After putting the baby down for a nap I joined her in bed and she woke up, we started making out. I was telling her how beautiful she is and how sexy it was to find her in bed naked. She said something to the effect that perhaps another guy already beat me to the punch. That really charged things up. I told her I hope that was the case that she enjoyed herself. I imagine us being at the beach or pool, she meets a guy she finds attractive and then seeing her take him up to our room alone. I go up a while later to not only find her sleeping naked in our bed, but an odor of sex and stained sheets along with it.

Recently during sex I told her how the idea of her taking a lover and enjoying herself made me hot. She then went on to say, oh you mean my "Portuguese Lover" and we both went on from there a bit about him. She was laughing while saying this thinking I was silly.

Once I told her about a scenario I often envision where she wears some sexy clothing showing plenty of cleavage, flattering but nice. I drop her of at a bar/club, park the car and proceed to go in after she has been there for a while. I spot her at the bar making new friends, dancing, flirting. She ends up spending time with this one guy, more touching, flirting, getting closer and finally kissing. She then excuses herself and goes to the ladies room where I meet her after she is done. She asks if I am having a good time and I say I do. She then grabs my hand and introduces me to her new friend. We all have a drink and talk, she is sitting close to him. At this point I suggest we go to a motel room and she and her knew friend enjoy some hot sex while I watch off to the side.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying hotel, not motel.

One time we woke up early and she is hot to trot. She told me she has a had a hot and naughty dream. She said in her dream she was making out with another guy, but ended up not going "all the way". I asked her for details and she was coy. I made it quite clear that I approved and enjoyed this. I proceeded to tell her about a scenario where a guy is over for dinner that she is attracted to. They flirt throughout the evening and I suggest they enjoy some time together in our bedroom. Later I walk in to see how things are going, the room smells of sex and she is in his arms in our marital bed. I then spot the unopened box of condoms I left out on the night stand and proceed to see his seed coming out of her. I enjoy "silky" seconds.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying she wouldn't have sex without the condom.

Interesting developments. I am enjoying the hot fantasy talk and she appears to be as well somewhat or at least enjoying my reaction to her talking about this.

Taking things slowly and enjoying the journey is fine by me. She is still working out to lose weight. Her plan not mine. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky I am.

So she has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

I have considered as I have seen others do here putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels encouraging her to take another man into her bed.

What are some suggestions to ease her into this? I would love to hear ideas from others.

love d narrative

 

[rocketeer50]

Interesting developments. I am enjoying the hot fantasy talk and she appears to be as well somewhat or at least enjoying my reaction to her talking about this.

Taking things slowly and enjoying the journey is fine by me. She is still working out to lose weight. Her plan not mine. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky I am. 

So she has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

I am not offended by the idea, but like others have said you need to stop pushing this if you want to keep her. Let the playful fantasy of it hang around if she seems to be having fun with it. But also be ready to let her take a lover in with the both of you or at least while you're present and watching if an opportunity presents itself, and SHE is the one taking the initiative with it. I would also completely drop the idea of pushing her to take a lover while she's away from you. If it's something you can share together, it can be reaffirming, especially if you constantly assure her you love her and value her.

Or it might completely blow up your marriage.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

New name, same poster...,



same style.

 

[unnissa]

First a little about my wife and me, we have been married 10 years and dated two years prior. She is early ‘40s and I am a couple years older, we have two small children. Both of us are full time professionals and work hard to balance the demands of work and life. Neither of us are Barbie and Ken. She is very beautiful white, fair skinned, blonde, blue eyes with a nice bust. She will complain about the baby weight she has, but I think she is a goddess. Myself I am showing middle age, balding, and overweight.

Given that we have small children and the demands of work we have a pretty good sex life together and enjoy being able to have some time to enjoy ourselves. My only wish would be more frequency, but I am grateful for what we have. I have always felt that for me to enjoy sex my wife must enjoy herself as well and I enjoy being oral with her very much and seeing her climax. She in turn is very passionate in the bedroom and when she gets going can be quite intense.

The thought of her enjoying herself with another man (and he enjoying himself with her) arouses me a great deal. It has since even before we were married. For myself I will certainly notice women I find attractive, but have no interest in having sex with anyone, but my wife. I have been doing a lot of reading online and offline about the hot wife/cuckold phenomena to help me understand this. I also have read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, which I must recommend to anyone with an interest in this topic. I find that evolutionary biology to be a plausible explanation for this as well as female vs. male physiology. Women are built for sex with multiple males at a time or in short sequence. This is harder for us men who need time to “reload”. This makes it easier for a woman to have multiple males.

In many ways, this is an extension of me wanting to give her pleasure and fulfillment. I imagine my wife enjoying variety and the freedom to sample it. In my opinion she can eat her cake and enjoy it to.

I enjoy the thought of her enjoying seeing a man she finds attractive naked, seeing how the sight of her arouses him. I enjoy the thought of her touching and exploring another man, perhaps someone who is fit and trim. I enjoy the idea of her getting pleasure from kissing and feeling his touch. Her seeing how he responds to her and her to him. I enjoy the thought of her feeling her body against his. Her feeling him push into her, the different feeling his penis in her. The new and different positions she gets to discover and enjoy. I enjoy the thought of her climaxing from him and then enjoying being in his arms afterward.

When I see my wife naked, I imagine other men enjoying her beauty. When I touch her and she touches me I imagine she and another man enjoying that. During sex I imagine her enjoying another man enjoying pushing his bare penis into her and her enjoying feeling him. I imagine him enjoying the view of her breasts moving with each thrust. He feels her great body against him, feeling himself going in deeper as she pushes her hands against the head of the bed. As I cum inside her, I imagine another man enjoying the sensation as he cums inside her bare. I have had a vasectomy and the thought of another man going bare with her and cumming inside here is a big turn on for me. I enjoy the thought of another man helping her climax and he enjoying the sight, sound and feeling as she does. I am open to her being with any guy who rings her bell, but the idea of her being with a black man, the contrast, the taboo aspect is a big turn on for me. I am blondish, blue eyes and fair skinned as is my wife...

I imagine a variety of scenarios where this might happen. Perhaps on a girls night out she meets someone, perhaps a younger athletic black man and leaves with him at the end of the evening, enjoys some hot sex with him and comes home for hot sex with me and tells me all about her evening and her new “friend”. Perhaps a professional associate who flirts with her and she reciprocates and takes him as a lover. She does travel to another city a few hours away from us for business on a regular basis. I imagine her meeting a local guy there and inviting him to spend the night with her in her hotel room. I imagine her having a “boyfriend” who she dates and then comes home to enjoy being with me. Having a guy she is interested in over to our home for dinner, seeing her all made up and in a sexy dress. The three of us enjoying wine, food and good conversation all the while they are eying one another. After words I can see the either the two of them going into our bedroom alone, him leaving later thanking me for a wonderful evening telling me how lucky I am. The two of them enjoy each other in our marriage bed. Later he comes out dressed and thanks me for a great evening. I quietly walk in later and see his seed leaking out and quite a mess on the bed as she grins at me laying on the bed. I imagine a number of scenarios where she is enjoying the pleasure of another man while I get sloppy seconds and taking pleasure in knowing she is enjoying herself.

She is well aware of my desire for her to enjoy other men. I have brought it up during sex and after, as well as outside of the bedroom. I feel secure in her love for me and our relationship and am not jealous of her flirting with other men, which she appreciates very much. When she goes out for girls nights she likes having other men chat her up, flirt and buy her drinks. I have enjoyed her flirting with other men when out with her, seeing her enjoy the attention of other men. While she comes home and tells me all about it, her friends whose husbands/boyfriends don’t trust them and/or get jealous envy her being able to share this with me. Before having kids, she would often go out in nice tight fitting and low cut tops, full make up, jeans and boots. Often if I was working late or out with my friends, she would go out with her friends for dinner and drinks. I really liked seeing her before and after and the idea of another man approaching her, flirting and perhaps enjoying her charms. I liked the idea of her enjoying a nice time with her friends, free drinks from guys, flirting and perhaps more. I also really enjoyed the sex after these evenings out and aforementioned imaginings of her enjoying another man.

When I bring up the topic, she laughs, thinks I am crazy/silly, and says it will not happen. I do notice her checking out other men who like the men she dated before me is quite diverse (I am white) including Latin, East Indian, African American and Middle Eastern men. When she goes out, I tell her to stay out a late, as she wants, have fun and enjoy the free drinks. I talk about her enjoying taking a lover and she says who would go for me and laughs it off. She feels that infidelity is very wrong and is dead set against it but at the same time talks about friends of hers who were not meant for monogamy. When we saw Brokeback Mountain, the disturbing part for her was the marital infidelity, not the gay men being lovers as much. She says she would never be with another man. I am slowly introducing the concept of sexual freedom for her while being married to me doesn’t have to hurt what we have. Like others, here in this forum I see it as an opportunity to enhance what we have. However, I am not going to push or force anything. I will continue to enjoy what we have while letting her know she can enjoy herself if she so chooses. I am going to make sure she understands I am ok with her getting to enjoy the best of being in a loving and secure marriage while embracing nature.

She has also responded during sex in a couple ways. Once on a vacation to a resort she headed up to our room alone while I stayed with our child down at the pool so she could take a nap. We came up an hour or so later to find her in bed naked and asleep. After putting the baby down for a nap I joined her in bed and she woke up, we started making out. I was telling her how beautiful she is and how sexy it was to find her in bed naked. She said something to the effect that perhaps another guy already beat me to the punch. That really charged things up. I told her I hope that was the case that she enjoyed herself. I imagine us being at the beach or pool, she meets a guy she finds attractive and then seeing her take him up to our room alone. I go up a while later to not only find her sleeping naked in our bed, but an odor of sex and stained sheets along with it.

Recently during sex I told her how the idea of her taking a lover and enjoying herself made me hot. She then went on to say, oh you mean my "Portuguese Lover" and we both went on from there a bit about him. She was laughing while saying this thinking I was silly.

Once I told her about a scenario I often envision where she wears some sexy clothing showing plenty of cleavage, flattering but nice. I drop her of at a bar/club, park the car and proceed to go in after she has been there for a while. I spot her at the bar making new friends, dancing, flirting. She ends up spending time with this one guy, more touching, flirting, getting closer and finally kissing. She then excuses herself and goes to the ladies room where I meet her after she is done. She asks if I am having a good time and I say I do. She then grabs my hand and introduces me to her new friend. We all have a drink and talk, she is sitting close to him. At this point I suggest we go to a motel room and she and her knew friend enjoy some hot sex while I watch off to the side.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying hotel, not motel.

One time we woke up early and she is hot to trot. She told me she has a had a hot and naughty dream. She said in her dream she was making out with another guy, but ended up not going "all the way". I asked her for details and she was coy. I made it quite clear that I approved and enjoyed this. I proceeded to tell her about a scenario where a guy is over for dinner that she is attracted to. They flirt throughout the evening and I suggest they enjoy some time together in our bedroom. Later I walk in to see how things are going, the room smells of sex and she is in his arms in our marital bed. I then spot the unopened box of condoms I left out on the night stand and proceed to see his seed coming out of her. I enjoy "silky" seconds.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying she wouldn't have sex without the condom.

Interesting developments. I am enjoying the hot fantasy talk and she appears to be as well somewhat or at least enjoying my reaction to her talking about this.

Taking things slowly and enjoying the journey is fine by me. She is still working out to lose weight. Her plan not mine. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky I am.

So she has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

I have considered as I have seen others do here putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels encouraging her to take another man into her bed.

What are some suggestions to ease her into this? I would love to hear ideas from others.

love to hear more

 

[unnissa]

First a little about my wife and me, we have been married 10 years and dated two years prior. She is early ‘40s and I am a couple years older, we have two small children. Both of us are full time professionals and work hard to balance the demands of work and life. Neither of us are Barbie and Ken. She is very beautiful white, fair skinned, blonde, blue eyes with a nice bust. She will complain about the baby weight she has, but I think she is a goddess. Myself I am showing middle age, balding, and overweight.

Given that we have small children and the demands of work we have a pretty good sex life together and enjoy being able to have some time to enjoy ourselves. My only wish would be more frequency, but I am grateful for what we have. I have always felt that for me to enjoy sex my wife must enjoy herself as well and I enjoy being oral with her very much and seeing her climax. She in turn is very passionate in the bedroom and when she gets going can be quite intense.

The thought of her enjoying herself with another man (and he enjoying himself with her) arouses me a great deal. It has since even before we were married. For myself I will certainly notice women I find attractive, but have no interest in having sex with anyone, but my wife. I have been doing a lot of reading online and offline about the hot wife/cuckold phenomena to help me understand this. I also have read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, which I must recommend to anyone with an interest in this topic. I find that evolutionary biology to be a plausible explanation for this as well as female vs. male physiology. Women are built for sex with multiple males at a time or in short sequence. This is harder for us men who need time to “reload”. This makes it easier for a woman to have multiple males.

In many ways, this is an extension of me wanting to give her pleasure and fulfillment. I imagine my wife enjoying variety and the freedom to sample it. In my opinion she can eat her cake and enjoy it to.

I enjoy the thought of her enjoying seeing a man she finds attractive naked, seeing how the sight of her arouses him. I enjoy the thought of her touching and exploring another man, perhaps someone who is fit and trim. I enjoy the idea of her getting pleasure from kissing and feeling his touch. Her seeing how he responds to her and her to him. I enjoy the thought of her feeling her body against his. Her feeling him push into her, the different feeling his penis in her. The new and different positions she gets to discover and enjoy. I enjoy the thought of her climaxing from him and then enjoying being in his arms afterward.

When I see my wife naked, I imagine other men enjoying her beauty. When I touch her and she touches me I imagine she and another man enjoying that. During sex I imagine her enjoying another man enjoying pushing his bare penis into her and her enjoying feeling him. I imagine him enjoying the view of her breasts moving with each thrust. He feels her great body against him, feeling himself going in deeper as she pushes her hands against the head of the bed. As I cum inside her, I imagine another man enjoying the sensation as he cums inside her bare. I have had a vasectomy and the thought of another man going bare with her and cumming inside here is a big turn on for me. I enjoy the thought of another man helping her climax and he enjoying the sight, sound and feeling as she does. I am open to her being with any guy who rings her bell, but the idea of her being with a black man, the contrast, the taboo aspect is a big turn on for me. I am blondish, blue eyes and fair skinned as is my wife...

I imagine a variety of scenarios where this might happen. Perhaps on a girls night out she meets someone, perhaps a younger athletic black man and leaves with him at the end of the evening, enjoys some hot sex with him and comes home for hot sex with me and tells me all about her evening and her new “friend”. Perhaps a professional associate who flirts with her and she reciprocates and takes him as a lover. She does travel to another city a few hours away from us for business on a regular basis. I imagine her meeting a local guy there and inviting him to spend the night with her in her hotel room. I imagine her having a “boyfriend” who she dates and then comes home to enjoy being with me. Having a guy she is interested in over to our home for dinner, seeing her all made up and in a sexy dress. The three of us enjoying wine, food and good conversation all the while they are eying one another. After words I can see the either the two of them going into our bedroom alone, him leaving later thanking me for a wonderful evening telling me how lucky I am. The two of them enjoy each other in our marriage bed. Later he comes out dressed and thanks me for a great evening. I quietly walk in later and see his seed leaking out and quite a mess on the bed as she grins at me laying on the bed. I imagine a number of scenarios where she is enjoying the pleasure of another man while I get sloppy seconds and taking pleasure in knowing she is enjoying herself.

She is well aware of my desire for her to enjoy other men. I have brought it up during sex and after, as well as outside of the bedroom. I feel secure in her love for me and our relationship and am not jealous of her flirting with other men, which she appreciates very much. When she goes out for girls nights she likes having other men chat her up, flirt and buy her drinks. I have enjoyed her flirting with other men when out with her, seeing her enjoy the attention of other men. While she comes home and tells me all about it, her friends whose husbands/boyfriends don’t trust them and/or get jealous envy her being able to share this with me. Before having kids, she would often go out in nice tight fitting and low cut tops, full make up, jeans and boots. Often if I was working late or out with my friends, she would go out with her friends for dinner and drinks. I really liked seeing her before and after and the idea of another man approaching her, flirting and perhaps enjoying her charms. I liked the idea of her enjoying a nice time with her friends, free drinks from guys, flirting and perhaps more. I also really enjoyed the sex after these evenings out and aforementioned imaginings of her enjoying another man.

When I bring up the topic, she laughs, thinks I am crazy/silly, and says it will not happen. I do notice her checking out other men who like the men she dated before me is quite diverse (I am white) including Latin, East Indian, African American and Middle Eastern men. When she goes out, I tell her to stay out a late, as she wants, have fun and enjoy the free drinks. I talk about her enjoying taking a lover and she says who would go for me and laughs it off. She feels that infidelity is very wrong and is dead set against it but at the same time talks about friends of hers who were not meant for monogamy. When we saw Brokeback Mountain, the disturbing part for her was the marital infidelity, not the gay men being lovers as much. She says she would never be with another man. I am slowly introducing the concept of sexual freedom for her while being married to me doesn’t have to hurt what we have. Like others, here in this forum I see it as an opportunity to enhance what we have. However, I am not going to push or force anything. I will continue to enjoy what we have while letting her know she can enjoy herself if she so chooses. I am going to make sure she understands I am ok with her getting to enjoy the best of being in a loving and secure marriage while embracing nature.

She has also responded during sex in a couple ways. Once on a vacation to a resort she headed up to our room alone while I stayed with our child down at the pool so she could take a nap. We came up an hour or so later to find her in bed naked and asleep. After putting the baby down for a nap I joined her in bed and she woke up, we started making out. I was telling her how beautiful she is and how sexy it was to find her in bed naked. She said something to the effect that perhaps another guy already beat me to the punch. That really charged things up. I told her I hope that was the case that she enjoyed herself. I imagine us being at the beach or pool, she meets a guy she finds attractive and then seeing her take him up to our room alone. I go up a while later to not only find her sleeping naked in our bed, but an odor of sex and stained sheets along with it.

Recently during sex I told her how the idea of her taking a lover and enjoying herself made me hot. She then went on to say, oh you mean my "Portuguese Lover" and we both went on from there a bit about him. She was laughing while saying this thinking I was silly.

Once I told her about a scenario I often envision where she wears some sexy clothing showing plenty of cleavage, flattering but nice. I drop her of at a bar/club, park the car and proceed to go in after she has been there for a while. I spot her at the bar making new friends, dancing, flirting. She ends up spending time with this one guy, more touching, flirting, getting closer and finally kissing. She then excuses herself and goes to the ladies room where I meet her after she is done. She asks if I am having a good time and I say I do. She then grabs my hand and introduces me to her new friend. We all have a drink and talk, she is sitting close to him. At this point I suggest we go to a motel room and she and her knew friend enjoy some hot sex while I watch off to the side.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying hotel, not motel.

One time we woke up early and she is hot to trot. She told me she has a had a hot and naughty dream. She said in her dream she was making out with another guy, but ended up not going "all the way". I asked her for details and she was coy. I made it quite clear that I approved and enjoyed this. I proceeded to tell her about a scenario where a guy is over for dinner that she is attracted to. They flirt throughout the evening and I suggest they enjoy some time together in our bedroom. Later I walk in to see how things are going, the room smells of sex and she is in his arms in our marital bed. I then spot the unopened box of condoms I left out on the night stand and proceed to see his seed coming out of her. I enjoy "silky" seconds.

My wife doesn't object, but simply "corrects" me saying she wouldn't have sex without the condom.

Interesting developments. I am enjoying the hot fantasy talk and she appears to be as well somewhat or at least enjoying my reaction to her talking about this.

Taking things slowly and enjoying the journey is fine by me. She is still working out to lose weight. Her plan not mine. I continue to tell her how beautiful she is and how lucky I am.

So she has started to play along somewhat and seems to like pushing my buttons.

I am interested to hear from others suggestions on how to communicate that the door is open while not pressuring her. Perhaps how to help her get more comfortable with the idea.

I have considered as I have seen others do here putting some condoms and a note in her suitcase when she travels encouraging her to take another man into her bed.

What are some suggestions to ease her into this? I would love to hear ideas from others.

so hot pursuit

 

[cookiecat]

so hot pursuit

What the fuck?

 

[Que]

so hot pursuit

Like unto the hot pursuit of Rosco and Flash after Lee who was a general officer!

 

[doctor_insanus]

so hot pursuit

 

[Que]

Ah, Prasa has of many lives like unto the sacred cat of nine tails, my friend. Be of much persistence we must, if to move the presence which is shown into a realm of which darkness pervades.